Whatever comes next isn’t good when a woman says “can I be honest about something” when you are initially getting to know her (and looking to date)?

[Anonymous]

This woman knows I’m interested (I directly said so at one point) but other then that I’ve kept my communication light, funny and non-sexual.

Also I’ve been careful to not to be overly available either. Only messaged her once ever couple days. I’ve been doing most of the initial texting but she was engaging with me up until recently.

But she just texted me “can I be honest about something”. I haven’t responded yet. I’m going to wait to tomorrow morning (she took a full day to respond to my last message). I’m also about 99.99% sure whatever comes next isn’t going to be good.

I am guessing she’s going to say either she’s either not interested in dating and/or she’s dating someone else now. She might give me some line of bs that “she’s got too much going on right now to date someone” (anyone makes time if they are interested).

And then she is going to say “can we just be friends?” and I am ready to respond with “hey it was nice to meet you and you seem like a wonderful lady. I wish you the best of luck”. Then delete her number.

Almost always bad

Usually bad

Not necessarily bad but not good either

Sometimes good

Usually good (who the hell would select this option 🙂)

[Nikki1989]

No, it doesn't necessarily mean “bad news,” like she's breaking up with you. It means she is about to share vulnerability or set a serious boundary—and both are necessary for a relationship to move forward.