Is it flaking if she cancel a daye three days before a date? Does it justify a no contact?

[Anonymous]

Months ago I had invited this woman out to theater one month before (because of tickets), but three days before the performance she wrote:"can we make it another time? I need to go to..."

I considered a way of flaking, so I didn't propose a reschedule (and neither did she), but I reduced my interest for her, I stopped texting, almost a no contact... she was initially nice to me, now she's neutral.

I never discussed the matter with her. I dont really know wheter she simply wanted to avoid meeting me or wheter she really wanted to reschedule.

After months, I wonder wheter I was right in no contacting her.

[AviatorTom]

If something more important came up for her, she was totally justified in canceling your date. Was this your first date? If it was, it would have been good for you to contact her and reschedule a first date. If not, it still would be good to contact her ad reschedule the date.

[OlderAndWiser]

There was one certain means by which you could answer that question, but you assumed you knew the answer and ghosted her. It's too later, now.

[AI Opinion]

Sometimes plans change, and while it might feel like flaking, her request could be genuine. Life happens, and it's always best to assess the overall connection rather than one canceled event. Since neither of you proposed a new date, it's hard to say if she wasn't interested. Consider reaching out to understand her side; communication is key. Balancing your interest with understanding can lead to clarity. 😊

[Dargil]

You were completely right. It does not matter why she did what she did. It matters that she did it. You made the right decision to sever your relationship with her.

[slatyb]

If she were interested, she would have proposed another time.

[In_Trance]

What did you do with her in between the times of the actual show and the initial ask?

[Anonymous]

No, I don't think so, something probably came up.

[Nikki1989]

Jeez, can you be any more petty?