What are 5 'curveball' questions to ask on a first date to see their real personality?

[loveguruclub]

[SueShe]

I don't date, I don't fornicate but if I had to because of whatever reason, then those would be:

1. What is your body count? If it is anything more than 0, there is no 2nd. date.

2. Have you been convicted of any crime or felony? If the answer is "yes", there is no 2nd. date.

3. Are you smoking, on drugs or have any addiction such a sex/pornography and/or gambling, shopping or gaming, then there is no 2nd. date.

4. Are you on any social media or do you follow people on a platform or application? If the answer is "yes", there is no 2nd. date.

5. Do you own a weapon? If the answer is yes, there is no 2nd. date.

That should be enough to assess a person and to know whether he is suitable or not.

[V1ka5h]

@SueShe amazing 🤣🤣🤣

[loveslongnails]

Clearly, this planet is not suited for you.

[SueShe]

@loveslongnails simply because I have principles? Wow!

[Miristheiss]

Number 1... NEVER ask her body count. She will lie.
Sneak an answer. Ask about her first time. Ask how old she was. Ask if it was her boyfriend or something random.

That relaxes her into thinking you already accept she is fornicating and she'll confess. You can do the math. If it was 5 years prior you know she has been sleeping around for 5 years.

If she says I am a virgin waiting for marriage you lnow you have a unicorn.

[loveslongnails]

More because YOUR principles don't match up with the people of this planet. It's a mere statement of observable fact, nothing more.

[Light_beam]

why do you want a virgin guy if you already were married !!

[SueShe]

@Light_beam says who that I was already married? Going through my answer, I cannot spot the sentence where I mentioned it.

Can you enlighten me?

[Sirenboobzilla]

I would actually want to meet the single solitary person on this planet who could answer no to all 5 of these and pick their brain.

[Light_beam]

@SueShe I think i talked to you before, i am not sure..

[SueShe]

@Sirenboobzilla Oh I am sure that there are more than just one single solitary person.

[SueShe]

@Light_beam could be

[Light_beam]

@SueShe So the question here if you were married before, would you still want to be with a virgin only?

[SueShe]

@Light_beam The answer here is that I would not want to be married because there are way too many constraints and I would lose my freedom.

But to answer your hypothetical question, if one was married before, then it would make little sense to be with a virgin only.

[Light_beam]

Right.. but marriage makes you lose your freedom?

[SueShe]

@Light_beam of course it does. You have to do what others want and you are no longer master of your own life.

[Light_beam]

I respectfully disagree.. but fine

[MikeMcMansion]

Well, I liked your questions except for number 5. You seem like a good woman but most guys in the US today who can pass your test will probably be Christians and own many “weapons”.

I appreciate your values but keep in mind that an athletic and strong man is basically a weapon, so are vehicles, pens, and construction tools/equipment if purposed for maliciousnesses

[MrChinaski]

It seems like more of a third+ date activity. There's not much point making an ass of yourself if you are never going to see someone again. By the third date you at least have some skin in the game to gamble with. People, in my experience, are generally only responsive to difficult questions when they know they come from a place of respect. And don't plan questions ahead of time. Try and listen and inquire about what genuinely interests you in the moment.

Call me old-fashioned. And what do I know. I've never dated and only ever gone with women I knew and respected already.

People have different styles, which is fine.

But it should never be a game. If things go well, you are slowly building something together.

[ManOnFire]

I don't know if I'd call them curveballs, but they would be pretty straightforward questions. We're adults here so we should keep it real, otherwise I'm wasting my time.

What is your idea of love?
When was the last time you spoke to your ex?
Are you happy with who you are?
Are most of your friends girls or guys?
Why do you NOT want to be single?

[queenofcardio]

I like these

[ManOnFire]

@queenofcardio I'm glad🙂

[MrChinaski]

Okay. Speaking personally. 1. I could not answer. 2. Is a closed question, more likely to lead nowhere.

The other ones seem strong. 'Why do you want to be in a relationship?' is the same as 5 but with a more positive construction.

[MrChinaski]

All that I know about love is that it is a verb. One does love. It's the accumulation of actions you take to make someone else's life better regardless, sometimes, of your own.

Telling someone 'I love you' is either redundant because both parties know it or a flat out lie used to evade the work of actually loving someone.

Sorry. I'm in a mood.

[ManOnFire]

@bddddd "All that I know about love is that it is a verb"
- Correct. That is exactly the meaning I look for in a partner. Words mean little to me, I want to see your actions. They tell you everything.

[DishLady]

Don't play games.

But if you want a curveball to see her personality, make one sexual comment and see if she jumps on you or steps back. It will show you how easy she is.

[HawkPerception]

Hmm, I think for me, if a girl reacts well to a sexual joke, it doesn't indicate she's easy, but rather, it indicates how easygoing and open to a specific kind of humor she is. I wouldn't want to go on a date with a girl and find out she's easily triggered. For the record though, I'm not one to generally make sexual jokes on a date unless I've been on dates with the girl before and know she's comfortable with the way I speak

[Anonymous]

I would say get to know them a little bit more rather than commit after a first date.
Another is ask yourself what you want out of the relationship, whether or not it can be provided through it can even work out or not in the first place.

Some questions I’d think of (in general)

1. What is your favorite hobby?
2. What is your current topic of interest?
3. Who do you look up to most?
4. Words to describe your personality?
5. Advice you’d give to your past self and why?

[slatyb]

You don´t need "curveball" questions. Just ask the ordinary questions that you should also be answering for your date:

Why are you dating?

What would like your life to be five years from now?

What brings you joy?

But don't turn a date into a job interview.

[jshm2]

Do you have any good memes?

What series you watching these day?

Read any good books lately?

What's you life goals of late?

Any holidays with friends and family planned?

The answer contents don't really mean much. But that (s) he has answers means they do have their shit together enough to be functional.

You don't want to be dating loners and people with no social circle.

[CalmUntilAbused]

"Tell me about Your family" and listen closely what She tells me about Her father. If we know each other's social circles, trick Her into talking about other people and listen closely. That would probably solve most issues. A conversation about abortion might follow to make sure my Children are safe.

[ArrowheadSW]

I really don't ask a lot of questions on a first date. Usually if there even is a first date, odds are we have a lot in common or we wouldn't be on the date in the first place. Usually I just talk about common interests. I've had women ask me questions to assess where I'm coming from. I have no problem with it unless it is too business-like, then it can be annoying.

[aaron13547]

I don't know about 5... but I like telling a new person what im the most afraid of and then Asking what they are the most afraid of. Its make everything comfortable to talk about after that. Its like we just talked about the worst thing possible im still here you are to, and its not so bad actually feel good most of the time

[Nikki1989]

Someone throwing a curveball question is a good reason to walk out on a date. That level of insecurity is toxic to be around.

[FunkyMonkee]

Well, you can start with something like:
Do you live around here often?
Do women pee in the shower, also?
If a cow sneezes, does milk come out of its nose?
Why are they called, "buildings" when they're already done building them? They should be called, "builts".
Do you think the pope French kisses the ground if it's a country he REALLY likes?

[kavakava]

Why do we park in the driveway and drive on the parkway?

[FunkyMonkee]

@kavakava Exactly!!
Why do you sit in the waiting room and wait in the sitting room?
If Fred Flintstone knew the large order of ribs was gonna tip over his car, why did he always order them at the end of every show?

[kavakava]

I can't believe people are worried about Greenland when we have real shit like this going on!

[FunkyMonkee]

@kavakava I KNOW!! It's ridiculous!!!
Like: why does a cowboy wear 2 spurs? If one side of the horse goes, so does the other!!
Why do they call it, "rush hour" when everything goes so slow?
Why is it called, "fast food" when you have to wait so long for it?
Why is Wednesday called, "hump day" when most people get laid on the weekends?

[kavakava]

So many questions so little time

[FunkyMonkee]

@kavakava I know!!
Why is easy listening music so hard to listen to?
Who proofread the Upanishads?
Do you think that, when Gandhi got shot, he went, "Holy cow!"?
I stepped on a tetanus shot needle. Now what?

[fonduegirl]

I don't know if these are curveballs.

1) do you plan to have kids?

2) have you ever been in jail?

3) how often do you call your mom?

4) do you drink or smoke?

5) is anime cartoon?

[Kaneki05]

The correct questions

[fonduegirl]

@Kaneki05 thank you!

[MisterWack]

Great questions, I’m taking notes lol.

[fonduegirl]

@MisterWack as you should!

[MisterWack]

@anon1903 👍

[Quigly]

Dating isn't about finding a true forever love. You're just hanging out as friends cause you know Marriage isn't really about love and isn't something you want to do unless it's for a good purpose.. If you hang around each other long enough you will get to know the other person without playing games.

[RavVid]

I think asking curve ball questions is showing your personality/character. If I was on the receiving end, I'd think walk.

Better to establish easy communications and listen. If a person is at ease their character will show.

[Danzigdawson]

"Do you purposefully ask curveball questions to see the real personality of your date?" If the answer is yes, consider leaving. A date is about connection, it's not a job interview.

[CherryLove007]

So do you like the music of Twisted Sister or the game Twister?

[Anonymous]

Have you ever had a threesome? If yes probobly had too many sex partners /sexual diseases

Have you ever had an Abortion? Probably doesn't want kids

Do you believe Jesus was the the Son of God? Believer or not

Are you Conservative or Liberal? You know what she is going to favor

Are your Parents married or Divorced? If Divorced , she might want a divorce later

Do you have Tattoos and where are they? Tramp stamp possible.

[lilBigPotato]

If I'm going in a date I try to have a good time and not run an exam the guy has to pass...

[Miristheiss]

That is the trouble with modern, western dating.
They are out for "fun".
Not meeting to seek a mate for marriage. Finding out if they are compatible and have like values.

They want fun and kissing, sex, entertainment. After 6 months to a year... then they start wondering about long term.

[lilBigPotato]

@Miristheiss Nonsense, I didn't say any of that. Just because I want to have an enjoyable day and not just focus on finding reasons to dump him for, doesn't mean I'm not out looking for a long term relationship.

Some people are lucky and find their soul mate right away and others date for years without meeting someone interesting. If I go on a date, I try to have an enjoyable time even if he doesn't turn out to be prince charming. Because if I don't, it instantly just turns into a giant waste of time. I don't need to throw tricky questions at him as test to see if we're compatible. It will happen naturally while having interesting discussions. Don't need to go on a proper date if I'm just after "kissing, sex and entertainment".

[Telekinetic-Potato]

You have to figure those out for yourself. They're highly unique and personal

[DryGermanGuy]

I don't go on dates to conduct a police interview. I find people with such lists weird.

[dragoblack]

What toxic childish bullshite.
Just ask them about their interests, hobbies, and passions like a mature person. Why make it so much harder than it needs to be.

[Anonymous]

If someone started asking me curveball questions on a date, the date would be over before question 3.

[AngryCarl2]

If you're asking five questions it's not a date, it's an interrogation.

[MikeTheBartender]

When's the last time you had sex?

[Ariesman81]

What's your take on ICE?

[In_Trance]

Ask them if their brainwashed