How to approach women?

[Anonymous]

I get rejected 100 % of the shots I take.
I am not good looking and I don't have any style.
Which I tried to learn but didn't get anywhere with it.
Half of the time it's like I am rejecting myself because why will someone who is too beautiful or cute choose me?
I don't have looks or charms.
And other time I can see the restriction of religion. So I can't even approach them because they will choose there religion over me.

And others are in a relationship or pretending to be in one to keep me at a distance.
How to change myself.
All my female friends who knows me say you are good as you are but when I ask something like will you date me the answer is no every single time

[MrOracle]

These days, it's harder than ever if you aren't handsome and successful (read: $$$). That said, you CAN improve your odds. It will take work, but you can do it.

To start with, think about yourself as a product on a shelf, next to similar products. Why should someone take a closer look at you, much less pick you and put you in their cart? Dating is a marketplace, much like a mall, so looks matter, but you also have to stand out in some positive way.

This means you might have to stop trying to date and focus on yourself for 6-12 months. Fix up yourself - work hard at your career to improve your income and status. Get a stylish haircut and learn how to manage it. Dress one notch better than the men around you (worry less about brands and more about professional appearance). Clean your house and car so that any random day you brought home a girl, you are prepared for guests.

Then, find a hobby - something you enjoy, have some skill/competency in, and that has a social component. Coed sports. Karaoke. A movie club. A car club. Cos Playing. Something where your skills and leadership will be on display around women in your age range.

Then, be the center of the group. You direct folks what to do, where to eat and drink, and where the party is. Others can help you, but be the leader and decider. Or, if leadership isn't your thing, be the teacher, or be the clown. You need to stand out from the 20 guys just like you. That's what makes women drawn to you.

I'm fat and ugly and old, and I can still get interest from girls, because I take charge and lead in group settings, and I try to make sure EVERYONE - including people I'm not personally interested in - have a good time. I stand out, and women notice. That doesn't mean every woman wants me - remember I'm fat and ugly and old - but SOME women become interested, and that's how you get a start.

[msc545]

This is more bullshit from a guy who either is a dating Coach or wants to be one and wants your money.

All you need to do is get women interested in you is to make a lot of money. Women love money that they don't have to work for.

[MrOracle]

Lol. I'm neither one. Notice how I neither introduced myself as a dating coach (I am an Audio/Video Integrator, and a mobile DJ on the side) nor offered anything for sale, any website to link to, or any way to contact me. I merely gave good advice that has worked for me and others like me. And these concepts are hardly new or original.

He could make a crazy amount of money and change nothing else and he'd still mostly fail, except that he would attract the most shameless gold diggers who would clean him out and move on. It might get him laid, but it wouldn't be a relationship.

My advice isn't quick, easy, or guaranteed, but it is the path of the greatest probability of success.

[msc545]

He probably just wants to get laid, and as you have admitted, he would be successful at that just by making a large amount of money.

[MrOracle]

He could make a relatively small amount of money and pay for it and have a guaranteed outcome in a much shorter amount of time. I suspect that he's looking for a serious relationship. I could be mistaken.

[Zack-Bann]

You answered it in your first sentence.
Lack of style and looks will kill your success


The good news is: the internet is free. (So to speak)


You can go on YouTube, find some men’s styling videos. Learn from them. Upgrade your wardrobe and hair-care


Find some fitness content, go to the gym get in shape


You can even find dating advice (but be careful who you listen to on that one because there’s a lot of bad advice out there)
Still bad advice is better than no advice because at least you will have something to try out


And then you keep practicing.
As your looks and style improve as well as your conversation skills that 0% success rare will turn into 10% then 30% and if you’re lucky even 50%


(Truth is even the hottest men get rejected because there’s no accounting for taste. So no matter how good you look you will still not be someone’s type)

[Anonymous]

Hire a personal stylist to get style. Go to a therapist and get them to help you work on your confidence and self-esteem. Lower your standards. You say you always get rejected and ”why will someone who is too beautiful and cute choose me”, that implies you’re going for women outside your ”league” and should lower your standards.

[Asker]

I don't go to them tho I said that.
Others I get rejected from the one in my league.
Even from non attractive ones.

[Asker]

I don't want to waste money on a stylist cause it's just more expensive.
I don't have money as of now to waste in that.
Therapy doesn't work for me.
Too expensive to get heard.

[purplepoppy]

Aim lower. Look for women who are of on a similar scale of looks to you and in jobs that pay about the same or less. Remember most women never date down.

[MrChinaski]

@purplepoppy So how does that work? 1/2 the population is male, 1/2 the population is female. Hetero-normal monogamy requires 1 man and 1 woman. If everybody couples then 1/2 the males coupled down and 1/2 the females coupled down, in this little sandpit-o-mine.

[Rangers]

First off, stop being so scared of getting rejected. "No" is just a word, it's not the end of the world, she just isn't feeling you.

Don't go after the girl you're most physically attracted to at first, the right girl to talk to, you'll know her when you see her. Don't act like what you're not, they can tell, instantly when you're putting on a show, it shows insecurity and a hint of deception which drives them away.

Even the most attractive guys I've ever seen, most charismatic, I'm telling you, 90% of the girls they asked out still said no. About that same percentage of first dates never have a second date.

Tom Brady gets rejected, John Cena gets rejected, Shawn Mendes, Channing Tatum, all of them hear "no" probably 5-10 times before a girl says yes to a date. Be a knight, pull the arrow out, keep marching, you'll get there

[Anonymous]

DON'T!

Step 1. Go to where the women are.

Step 2. Make yourself visible.

Step 3. Genuinely enjoy yourself. Half the women hate seeing a man enjoy themselves.😆 The other half will either be intrigued enough to come talk to you or they won't.

It's that simple my man. Don't overcomplicate it. Women WILL approach you. But the key is you genuinely gotta just enjoy yourself.

[aceleon]

fishing is not learned from fish, don't ask any woman if you are good to go or not if you were they would be the one that dates you.

how couldn't you get anywhere with style?

[cherrytreeblossom]

not from behind, that's for sure, getting approach by strangers is scary enough already. maybe establish visual contact first? probably can't shout across rooms like they do in romcoms.

[MrChinaski]

Don't date. Do some charitable volunteer work, some education, learn a language, do some mixed sports, sing in a choir... the best people will find their way to you.

[Anonymous]

Make yourself interesting - do not act desperate.

Every woman wants her special man... not a 'leftover' nobody wants.

Show them why you are the one they want. Please don't impress with money. That will catch the cold hearted women.

[Nikki1989]

Work on your personality and your communication skills. I sense that is where you are going wrong.

[slatyb]

Find a professional counselor who offers dating coaching.

[Bklynbadboy12]

You just have to play to your strengths. There are a lot of women that like guys like you. Best way to meet a woman is to say hello and then go from there

[Anonymous]

I have no idea, I never approach. If they don't approach me, it's not gonna happen, no matter how hot she is, I like dominant girls who take initiative.

[888theGreat]

I usually come right and talk to them. people say I can come up to a stranger and I make it look like I knew them for 20 years.

[guesswhereivebeen]

You sound a little desperate there…. That will dry up a pussy so fast…. Try going to bars… drink chicks are a lot easier to hit on

[CuriousMufuxka]

Step 1: Earn cash

Step 2: Present cash to desired woman

Success!

[beefcakebradybatson]

Try LOTS of caish, boy-o !!! That gets broads EVERY TIME !!!

[Koochie_n420]

Firstly. A man shouldn't approach a woman just because he sees one.

[queenofcardio]

Be friendly and say hi

[In_Trance]

You're your own worst enemy

[onecuriousguy2454]

keep trying buddy

[Anonymous]

You don't, it's illegal under the metoo statutes

[Anonymous]

I can help with style!!!

[SolitarySolace]

You don’t