Appearances are the most shallow part of any meaningful relationship, do you agree with this statement?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I agree

I do not agree

Something else

[rebelsunshine]

I agree.

Appearances are the spark of initial attraction and the drive the fire of passion at the start of a relationship.

But appearances ultimately fade due to age: like it or not all of our bodies ultimately become frail and ugly compared with the bodies of our children and our children's children.

It's a spiritual and soul connection that holds a long-term relationship together.

[rebelsunshine]

Thanks for MHO!

[Summeroflove]

Well if you’re only with someone based on the way he/she looks. But you don’t have anything in common. Don’t want the same things…. Maybe he/she so much is a mean or bad person.

Yeah. I agree…. Looks aren’t everything. And looks fade. And trust me looks wear off once it gets serious.

[MontBlanc]

Yes , appearances matter very little in the long run.

Initial attraction might start with looks, but meaningful relationships rely on trust, values, emotional compatibility, and communication. Physical appearance fades, personality and integrity don’t.

In short: looks might open the door, but character keeps you in the room.

[Chloe432]

Well, I don't totally disagree, but I don't think aesthetics and appearance are irrelevant to relationships. At the same time, people who really love each other can easily see past little imperfections that society would judge.

[NicholasofAustralia]

@Chloe432 lady at your age 19 I was shallow and at almost 32, still shallow here. Yet I'd like to think I've still become a little wiser, a little wider, a little older and a little further shallow - while never forgetting I see my own mirror 🪞

[Chloe432]

@NicholasofAustralia Haha, I never said I wasn't personally shallow. Just tried to give a realistic answer

[NicholasofAustralia]

@Chloe432 and yours was honest. and how's new account Chloe spending her valentines day ahead? With the world as your oyster 🦪

[Chloe432]

@NicholasofAustralia I've yet to decide if I'll allow a boy to be my valentine this year. A little off topic for this post but I suppose I can't send dms yet...

[NicholasofAustralia]

@Chloe432 too busy working or too busy getting that university degree?

[NicholasofAustralia]

@Chloe432 hell, you may like the rest of us of GAG spend it delightfully single or picking up others slack by working that day 🤭

[Chloe432]

@NicholasofAustralia If you would be so kind as to wait until I level up, I'll tell you privately.

[NicholasofAustralia]

@Chloe432 nah you sound like a guy or a troll of a guy, so 19 year old "lady," bye bye now

[Chloe432]

@NicholasofAustralia Weird reaction... bye.

[serious]

The answer is No. I disagree.

Appearances, physical looks and beauty is important. However, if a person only gives importance to physical beauty and looks and completely ignores the personality aspect which indicates that no importance is given to the nature of the other person, the thought process, the compatibility then yes it can be said the person has a shallow thinking.

However, if a person gives equal importance to both physical and personality aspects then it is totally fine.

As for me I am a very visual person but at the same time I also give importance to personality aspect. I won't ignore one for the other so yes a woman being gorgeous with toned physique but at the same time the woman's personality is important too, I am always alert and I always look for any negative signs or red flags in personality.

[Zack-Bann]

Appearances are an outward reflection of the mind
They are very meaningful
An unkempt look signals a weak or scattered mind


It’s not so much the genetic features but but definitely the choices we make when it comes to hygiene and style choices

[Snowman84]

Appearance isn’t the most important factor I agree.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Appearances of the relationship, or appearances of the people involved in a relationship?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

The people involved

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

Okay, I'm not sure how to answer this, the topic is so loaded to begin with, loaded with moral implications. I don't trust morals, as a guest, that much, when it comes to love.

I am attached to her, her appearance is part of her, should I really disassemble all she is to do some rationalized inventory of my relationship to her? In order to infer anything about what's shallow and what's deep, for what? To pass moral judgement? What's the meaning of this operation? Why inviting morals in the first place? I guess I don't want to invite them, I believe they should not belong.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You can just say you don’t agree

[uzumymw]

May be shallow to some but I do find it important to be physically attracted to each other

Looks may fade but the attraction will stay if it was there to begin with

[SAMI_DABBAB]

No it’s not, it played a part in the relationship happening and it plays a part in keeping it together since it’s part of what makes your partner who they are, so it changing (not necessarily getting worse) can trigger unexpected reactions

[Shrimpenjoyer]

If you fixate on small details regarding appearance, yes, but not just judging on looks overall. There are definitely way more shallow things than the later, like for example those who reject a virgin (mostly women) cause they think they suck at sex, while even if they do it's easily fixable.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

I see now why you thought I blocked you

[Shrimpenjoyer]

Lol What's the problem

[zagor]

More shallow than money and possessions? Not sure about that.

[Germaniac]

No it's very important and forms the core of the relationship. Once your appearance fades, so will your relationship.

[MisterPandemonium]

@germaniac Hopefully couples find other things to like about each other, though.

[CuriousMufuxka]

Yes, but it's the biggest reason why we get into them.

[Anonymous]

@cupcakethedestroyer personally I'm very shallow - really - and literally - and I won't lie I want looks. After all - I am looks 👀

Ladies, please, keep your distance 🥹🥲 a VIP walking through 👣

[Opinion Owner]

I've heard many women openly state looks matters - plus a good personality - but looks is not negotiable in the package of the man lol

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Describe to me what you think a man too ugly to date looks like

[Opinion Owner]

Looks at my avatar. Uhhhhhhhh 👀🤭

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

Your avatar looks like a conventionally attractive man. If dating is based primarily on looks, you should have at least 3 girlfriends by now

[GreatHill]

Yes, but no.

It's the shallowest but at the same time essential or important in a way.

[Smegskull]

I think personality is more shallow. It certainly changes faster and is less stable.

[Siajanua2027]

No, i do not agree. Appearances are very important unless one is UGLY!

[WhitneySnow]

In general yes

[Cute_User513]

I agree, I think dating someone only for their looks or that being the reason your staying with them is very shallow

[Zionne]

not ot all its just the first thing u see

[JustJustin90]

I agree 100%