Why don't women date anymore? They all seem either insulted that I asked them out or disinterested. What's up with that?

[Awesomesauce2005]

[Hardon-Collider]

If you do this "cold approach" shit then don't be surprised. Only hoes will pluck your cock like that. Try acting neutral but exposing your singleness only in an indirect way, such as by manners. They still won't jump in bed with you for that but those who are seeing you as a potential someone, will put in some effort to end up sparking a conversation with you.

If you act like a pussy hunter, then those looking for commitment would reject you solely because you sound like you'll continue to hunt pussy even whilst in a relationship. ㅤ

[slatyb]

They definitely date. They just don't date you. How are you meeting them? If you are just hitting on women cold, that's very unlikely to succeed. You have to learn to initiate a conversation beyond "Hey, you are hot. Want to go out with me?"

[Awesomesauce2005]

I start conversations that flow smoothly without tension and near the end I inquire about their relationship status and they reject me or they say they have a boyfriend

[slatyb]

Where are you starting these conversations? How many women do you greet by name?

[Awesomesauce2005]

The store

[Awesomesauce2005]

I don't greet women by name. There is no point in learning someone's name if they have no interest in you, I get rejected and I move on.

[Awesomesauce2005]

It's not like I know 3 people and remembering names is easy for me, I have to remember about 60 different names because I'm president of a car club

[slatyb]

So you have no social life, no friends This is beyond unattractive. It's scary.

[Awesomesauce2005]

I have friends and a social life, just not with young people

[slatyb]

That's great! Are there no women in this club? Maybe some of the members know some single women? Maybe they have daughters, or sisters, or their wives have sisters.

[Awesomesauce2005]

All the members are married or widowed because their wives died of old age. Their children are in their 30s or 40s and their kids didn't have any kids

[Crimsyjo]

Thats crazy. I presume your asking girls around your age?

How do you approach them? Do you know them a while first? Or you cold calling on them ha. Could be your choice in women. Maybe you go for certain types that are not relationship types. Or just your not their type. Which is unlucky. Maybe young women today want to work on career or mistrust men these days?

I'm over twice your age and can't find men who want to date

[Awesomesauce2005]

I'm asking out women my age and I talk to them every day for a month to get to know them and when I ask them out they act like it was implied I was strictly a friend, regardless of if they have a boyfriend or not

[Crimsyjo]

Hmm. What women? Are they like people you see at work or uni?
Do you directly "ask on a date" or ask to hang out?

[Awesomesauce2005]

I don't go to college and no women close to my age work where I work.

[Awesomesauce2005]

I ask if they are single and they say I'm taken or they glare at me

[Awesomesauce2005]

I'm not an ugly guy, Im a 5'9, white, 170 lb guy who works 50 hours a week in 4.5 days. I drive a 1969 mgb gt and I have European classic car repair as a side gig

[Awesomesauce2005]

I have a great relationship with my parents and my siblings, I was homeschooled, I don't smoke, drink or use any paraphernalia of any kind, I don't part and do stupid shit

[Awesomesauce2005]

99% of my friends are over 40 years old

[Crimsyjo]

Where are you meeting them? If they are taken they are taken. Can you not know before asking if they single? Also try think of making friends first not dates or do you do that? Do you have many guy friends? I'm just thinking if you try hang out in groups and be chatty but not direct for a while. Then start noticing who is interested in YOU first. Before approaching. What woman seems to light up when u arrive? Wants tp talk to you? Eye contact? Smiles. Maybe look up about body language cues and start watching women first. Then your know who's safer to approach and lower rejection chances. It's not you I'm sure! And kudos for being brave enough to ask. Many men don't these days.

[Awesomesauce2005]

I don't have time or desire to go into groups of kids my age, they are too loud. I ask out girls I'm around after talking to them on and off for a month, I like to think I'm a charismatic guy because most people I talk to like me right off the bat for some reason. But when it comes to getting girls the old folks tell me that they wonder why I don't have a girl yet and my younger friends say that I should be getting plenty of girls with the car I have? I know women couldn't care less what car I drive but that doesn't explain why I have such a high rate of rejection compared to others my age

[Awesomesauce2005]

I ask out girls pretty much anywhere, at the store, at car shows, at restaurants. I always smile and ask them non invasive questions and have a conversation with them and that part always goes smoothly, it's when I ask them out or if they want my number that things go south. I've tried asking girls for their number but I've had less luck that way. At least 5% of the girls I've asked out have accepted my phone number vs the 0% when I asked for theirs. I always figured that there would be less social pressure if they didn't have to give an answer right away to my face so I leave it up to them to decide and I never get called or messaged. I've frequently come to a point where I will stop asking out girls altogether because it's depressing to get rejected so much. It's easier to forget women exist and focus on work but every time I hear someone got married or one of my friends gets a girlfriend I try again with the same result. It feels like a neverending cycle

[Crimsyjo]

Ok I'm confused. You saud you talk to girls a while first? But now you say you approach in these places? Which are not places where you get to know people over months first.

I'm only trying to understand. Cos women are very unlikely to respond in the scenarios I think I'm understanding?

It's a mix of nerves and just not really knowing you. Example - I was out one night recently and on way home met this guy and we were flirting and chatting the whole time. So much so we missed our stops. End of the line! It was thankfully ten min walk for me. But way further for him. He said he would have to call a mate to come get him. We exchanged info. It was late. He messaged me a few hours later but I never replied. And then I just didn't know whether to reply. And then time stretched so fekt to weird. And we stayed connected for couple weeks but now he withdrew. He was very cute. I just... felt weird. Even tho we had a great moment of connection.

[Awesomesauce2005]

I do what I can, I talk to girls when I can and I ask them out and all of them either reject me or have a boyfriend

[Awesomesauce2005]

I'm on literally every dating app and I attend no social gatherings with people my age let alone girls my age. I don't enjoy crowds of loud people and that generally disqualifies any group of young people. I'm trying speed dating but I don't know if that will work

[Crimsyjo]

I've tried speed dating. At least your know they are single. But when I did one, two guys were there for a laugh and into poly relationships. We had interesting after speed date chats. But that's it.

[Awesomesauce2005]

Good to know

[Crimsyjo]

Good luck! Let us know how it goes.

Also.. you don't need to go busy places to meet women.. try libraries, museums, cafes. Frequent visits if u see a lady employee u like. But also try look for signs she likes you (and is single) over weeks.. not ask put so fast!

[Awesomesauce2005]

Thanks for the advice

[HollyK21]

Women do date, it’s just the one’s you’re asking aren’t interested. As to why they’re not interested, it’s hard to know without us seeing how these exchanges go down. On top of that we’ve never seen or interacted with you before, who knows, if we did we’d probably be able to give much more detailed advice/suggestions.

[MontBlanc]

Women still date , but many are more selective.

If reactions feel cold, it’s usually about timing, delivery, or lack of mutual vibe, not the act of asking itself.

Keep it respectful, low pressure, and read the room.
Rejection is usually mismatch, not an insult to you.

[Anonymous]

Because there’s no point. There are so many men who lie, manipulate, cheat, puts in zero effort (especially after he thinks he ”has” her), just wants sex, are afraid to commit, act more girly than women do, offer nothing at all that improves the womans life or add aomething positive to it. So, more and more women are fed up and don’t date anymore.

[Awesomesauce2005]

Its infuriating that so many men ruin a good thing because they have no self control

[Nikki1989]

Do you ever leave the house?

Women date all the damn time, just like men date all the damn time. What kind of hopeless cases do you know, if any?

[slatyb]

Find an activity group that includes women, get involved, and don't hit on anyone for three months so they get a chance to know you.

[NathanDavis]

sounds more like a for you... problem

[Anonymous]

Because that's what the training tells them