Why does it seem like women put no effort into dating?

[Intothevoid666]

Like I don’t understand it’s like women don’t like men or something unless they are a lot less attractive than u they just don’t even seem to try and fight u every step of the way. What gives?

[JustAnj]

Reading the other posts it because you give mixed signals. Hence a confused fixer upper.

You want what a monogamous relationship has to offer without the relationship that means your a big red flag.

Then you also give off the I wouldn't mind fucking, that gives off the I'm emotionally unavailable double red flag.

In other words girls are not taking you seriously and the type of girls with those same values only want your attention and see it more of a competition then a "Netflix and chill" kinda thing.

You need to find someone who is over relationships just wants company who they can enjoy some intimacy with but never allow it to get serious.

You need a friendly friends with benefits

Most girls that want that are not exactly the kind of girls that will do both. Most of the time it's emotionally unavailable women who just want attention and fuck. Good luck though. ❤️

[Little_Bumblebee]

Actually a really good answer

[Intothevoid666]

Yeah I guess what I want is pretty odd like I want it to feel like a relationship but I don't know if I actually feel comfortable with any sort of commitment ya know. Kinda a weird combo

[FilmGuy93]

I've noticed that too. It used to bother me when I would see all these women talking about how they feel like they're doing all the chasing and put in all this effort, only to have the guy duck out on them. It bothered me because I was over here thinking like "who are all these women that putting in effort and why haven't I met them?"

Now days I know better... I think it's just to protect themselves from getting hurt.

[Guy13]

They are too immature if they are doing that sort of thing. If people think that is cute then they are not Wifey worthy.

[Intothevoid666]

It’s legit like every girl I talk to tho.

[Guy13]

Alright. I don’t see it as much. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[Little_Bumblebee]

Sounds more like they're just not that into you

[Intothevoid666]

It’s not that. Anything else it could be?

[Little_Bumblebee]

Why don't you think so?

[Intothevoid666]

Because most women find me really physically attractive and act very interested at first only to play hard to get later.

[Little_Bumblebee]

So maybe they're not interested in your personality if they suddenly start to pull back all of a sudden

[Intothevoid666]

But I specifically go for women who look like they have things in common with me and I’m not talking like a few women I’m talking like mostly every woman does this? They can’t all hate my personality that much can they? And like what could be so bad about my personality?

[Intothevoid666]

Honestly tho I think it’s not that I just think most women are deluded in thinking that they have an indefinite time limit to find a man and that men that show interest in them now will also show interest later but I don't know. Cuz it doesn’t seem to just be a me problem with seems to be something most guys experience

[Little_Bumblebee]

I wouldn't know dude, I don't know you or your personality.
And I don't know how you act or what you say or anything.
I'm saying it's a possibility.

[Intothevoid666]

Do u think it’s possible that most women just like the attention of really attractive guys? Like I swear most women just want my attention and don’t actually want to date or fuck or he friends.

[Intothevoid666]

Cuz I think it’s either that or I come on too strong but like “too strong” to most women is hardly trying. It’s like I literally have to stumble across them and can’t go out of my way in the slightest to meet them or befriend them or I’m “too interested”

[Little_Bumblebee]

I don't know, people are so different I cannot give you an overall answer that will cover all the women you meet.

Maybe you don't show that you can be anything but something shallow/quick/fling

[Little_Bumblebee]

If you approach someone who's not emotionally ready, then most signs of interest will seem as "too interested"

[Intothevoid666]

I mean I don’t want a serious monogamous relationship ever so they’re not wrong on that but. It’s not like I just want to fuck either like I’d like a nice date and someone to be friends with ya know? But yeah I think ur right they all think I just want to fuck but I swear I am absolutely just walking on egg shells like u wouldn’t believe trying to not come off that way.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Well that could also scare a bunch of women away

[Intothevoid666]

What not wanting a serious relationship?

[Little_Bumblebee]

Yeah, so many don't just want to date for fun if it's not with the mind to get it somewhere

[Intothevoid666]

But what I don’t get is if that’s the case why not still go on a date with me to see if their suspicions are true? Like why silently crush on me get in a relationship with another guy they aren’t serious about instead of just going on a date with me and seeing what I’m looking for? Ya know like it seems like a waste of everyone’s time otherwise?

[Subarugirl]

then she's just not into you bro... lol

[Intothevoid666]

Then why is my attention so addictive to them? Why do they fight tooth and nail to get me to simp over them?

[Subarugirl]

If she isn't putting in any effort into the relationship then she's not that into the relationship. Are you communicating to these women what your expectations and goals are for the relationship to see if they even align?

[Intothevoid666]

I’m meeting them having an engaging convo with them then asking them to hang out a few days later and they act like I’m being ridiculous when I ask them to hang out. Like I’m just trying to fuck them or something and then they play hard to get and obviously still seek my attention.