Is it possible to date someone who originally chose someone else over you at first or does that always make you the second option?

[Anonymous]

Is possible to date successfully.

You will always be the second option.

[Hardon-Collider]

Essentially you are trying to decide "is this a good loyal person?"

There are better ways to answer that question, regardless of whether you two even met before. ㅤ

[BullShark]

It sounds pretty much like what a last option to someone is. What other reason do they have to want you now all of a sudden? Did their first option reject them and now they're just using you for a rebound? Or did they just break up with the person they picked over you, and are now just using you to either just get back at them and/or make them jealous so they take them back.

9/10 times something like this happens, you're just being someone's punching bag, and you're just so into them still that you let it happen "just so they're happy", knowing full well that if their first option were to change their mind and/or take them back, they'll just as happily turn tail and go back to them without so much as sparing you a second glance.

No thanks. If someone rejected me for somebody else (which has happened in the past many times, and I'm not afraid to admit that), I always made sure to cut them off completely and move on. Them missing out on me is one loss they'll never get back.

[queenofcardio]

It's possible but why would you even want to. Ideally, you want to be someone's first choice.

[NicholasofAustralia]

Preach 🙌🙏

[serious]

As a man I will never date a woman who keeps me as a second option. Once I know that this is the mindset of that woman then I will cease contact with her immediately.

I have way too much self respect to accept and tolerate this.

[Anonymous]

It's not possible for me.

It's hard to say for certain whether that makes you a second option or not. Because the rejection, or perceived rejection of you might just be because they didn't really know you. Or you just were not on their radar yet. See how that's not really a rejection. But when I choose a woman there can be no doubt in my mind she chooses me. If I feel otherwise I'm NOT choosing her.

[Anonymous]

It depends. I would be extremely interested in her if I was originally the first or most desired option, but we weren't able to make something happen at the time.

[jahaims]

Obviously you are the 2nd