What’s the clearest sign someone was into you… but you only realized later?

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I don’t know… sometimes you don’t realize the signs until way later… and then it suddenly clicks lol… Has that ever happened to you?

OneViewpoint · Accepted Answer

I'm fairly aware of my surroundings and able to read other people quickly. And I get attention from women all the time. It would be rare that any woman I ran into more than once who was into me didn't register on my radar.

Case in point. I was out for my usual Friday night with friends a few days ago and eventually 2 really attractive college age girls who I assumed were from the local university took the 2 seats to my right at the bar. I ignored them for a while and just went on interacting with my friends and other people I know from that location. I figured what the hell would those two want with me and I didn't want to be that creepy old guy hitting on young girls. But I kept catching the one next to me stealing glances at me constantly. 2 college age guys came in and tried to chat them up. Nothing. They shut those guys down.

At some point I ordered a Bourbon neat and took out my kit to smoke it. The one who had been looking over at me all night asks me what I'm drinking. I told her. She spun around and her friend leaned around her to watch the process. When it was finished I let her take a sniff of the smoked whiskey and told her take a sip if she wanted. She did. And then I couldn't get rid of her. She asks me if I come to that place often. I told her usually Friday nights with the group around me. And on it went. When they get up to leave they both tell me they'll see me next Friday night. OK. Will they show up this Friday? I have no idea. I'll see. Why were they so determined to chat me up? I have no idea. Do they expect me to date one of them or something? I hope not. Again, we'll see. Or maybe I was just a novelty for them and they want to know who I am.

But I knew pretty quickly that one of them was interested in me in some way.

Telekinetic-Potato · Accepted Answer

There was this girl who was into me and I had no idea. She invited me to a new years party at her place and her mom got shitfaced and spilled the beans when she went "IIII DOONT SEE WHAT SHE SEES IN YOUUUUU"

"SSHHEESSS HAD A CRRUUUSHHH ON YOU SINCE THE 8TH GRADE, I DUNNO WHY THOUGH"

And the girl got embarrassed and I tried to talk to her which didn't help and I saw her every day at my job.

I was 17 maybe 18 at the time but I was kinda let down because I was genuinely interested to get to know her and it was maybe a big life lesson to me because I realized if that's how easy it was for her to let go of a feeling like that then I don't really need someone like that in my life and maybe I dodged a bullet.

It was hard to learn back then because 1. I was a total horn dog back then and 2. I started picking up on all the subtle signs just in time to notice them going away 😂

PeachyPie93 · Accepted Answer

It happened to me 3 times in high school.. This guy who was older and I later found out was friends with my sister. He would always compliment all my hoodies and come sit beside me in class and talk or come up and put his arm on my shoulder when I was standing around with my friends.. This hot guy my frenemy had a crush on.. We used to talk shit about her on MSN whenever he or I found out something funny about her. She didn't know we were friends and we kept it an unspoken secret from her but we would always smile whenever we seen each other and would mess around in the hallways whenever that girl wasn't there.  This football player that was in my Home Economics class.. He would always stick up for me if any of his friends said anything rude to me, he would laugh at my jokes even when I wasn't talking to him. And the most blatant one was we were alone in the serving room and he started air humping the table while looking into my eyes like serious.. I started laughing and his friend came in and I walked away..  
 
 I had such low self esteem back then I just figured there was no way a guy could like me, let alone a good looking one 😂

Simslover92 · Accepted Answer

I had a guy that was clearly into me. He was really nice to me. Nicer than to anyone else. I should have known but didn't find out until much later that he was into me.

He was really handsome but at the time I was into someone else in college. This guy though in hindsight was way more handsome than the guy I was into and now he's getting married.

ohsheeT · Answer

Of course it has both ways and it suck when you find out... but even have been in to some even on gag but they had begging through some thing and I just felt that I probably shouldn't do it at that time , but I wish I would have
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DishLady · Answer

Yeah. It happens. 🤷🏻‍♀️ Sometimes it can be salvaged, but other times, if there are mixed signals or one person pulls back thinking the other isn’t interested, nothing more can be done.

Apulu_backagain · Answer

Yes, a cute guy in 5 grade. He would hold my bags for me, do my locker work for me and when I wore my school bag after class ended and my hair was stuck, he would wince as if it hurt him and help me correct it. He did not do that with any other girl. He would also sing with me and bid me goodbye every time with no fail and avoided his friends when they bitched about girls.

He was a sweetheart, I realized this in 9th grade when I was thinking whether a guy ever liked me or not. I don't know where he is now, I never really saw him after 5th grade, maybe he changed his school.

Beckybooboo · Answer

When I played soccer in high school, the boys team would come and watch us play. There was one guy in particular that I found very attractive and noticed he and friends would always cheer for me when I would leave the touchlines (sidelines) or comeback to them. It was hilarious and I just figured he was just being funny and showing support but I later found out, he would specifically go to watch me play because he liked me. In school, we talked occasionally but I never felt he was interested.

AydenHazor · Answer

I tend to be absolutely oblivious, the following are all true stories.

- was invited for movies and ice cream in a girl's dorm room, didn't realize she intended it to be a date until weeks later

- was invited to a girls room for a back massage at 10:30 pm

- was the only non family member at a friend's 21st birthday party

- at least half a dozen friends tell me they were interested in and tried to flirt with me when we met first met but moved on because I didn't notice them

- I'm sure there's significantly more that I'm forgetting or are still oblivious to

Bricealan · Answer

@7phoenix7 When I first moved to CA, I lived in an apartment and shopped at the neighborhood Acme Grocery in Costa Mesa. I lived to 'run' and ran to live and competed every weekend and raced on weekends and had no girlfriend. At the Acme, Toni, was always my favorite checker (maybe then she was 20 something) A real cutie and always sweet to me. When my mother died, Toni cashed my check for 300.00, (more than usually allowed) for me to fly home on short notice.  Sometime later she asked me confidentially, if I was ever in a 'relationship' and then found 'someone' more 'attractive? I said 'no', but have YOU been in that position"? She said "yes, I'm engaged to David, BUT, I have always thought you were very nice"! I was thunderstruck. How could I have ever been so 'blind' and stupid?

MontBlanc · Answer

The clearest sign is often in the little things , consistent attention, remembering small details about you, or making an effort to spend time together.

At the moment, you might think it’s just friendliness, but looking back, those actions usually show genuine interest and care.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

A girl in high school walked up behind me and started massaging me, and another time in gym class she told me to pedal the eliptical fast because it looks sexy and another time she told me I have a nice butt!

I was SO confused and didn't act on it, because she had a boyfriend.

But I'm so weird. When they AREN'T flirting, I think they are, and when they ARE flirting too obviously, I think they're messing with me, because there's no way anyone would flirt with me😂

sawno · Answer

Never happened to me. I had clear tells and then basically figured it out immediately. My last relationship I knew she was testing me right away. She didn't know I instantly knew but I answered and acted honest regardless. From the fact I was being tested I could instantly tell the purpose was finding out if its safe to love me.

If there have been more subtle signs I missed in other people then I never found out.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Most people struggle to remember what they had for lunch yesterday. If someone remembered a tiny, throwaway detail you mentioned weeks prior, it’s because they were hyper-focusing on you.

Anonymous · Answer

That's most women that take a liking to me. I don't typically realize it till the moments past. Most women are so subtle that nobody ever realizes they even made a pass.😆

WonderingManII · Answer

Really hard to say... There was someone in my real life that I think could of been that. But I think thier problem was, 1/2 of them hated me, and 1/2 of them liked me.

Agape93 · Answer

Giving me their number with a heart doodled on it. I can be dense as fuck too.

RHK36 · Answer

No idea... most girls think they give clear messages. They don't.

fish5505_87 · Answer

Yes, I was in love with this girl I worked with, years later, a woman, I shared an apartment with who knew the girl, was like, "I can't believe you tow didn't hook up, she was in love with you". Dohhhhhh!

dragoblack · Answer

Most men just assume she was being nice, unless there is very blunt signs showing otherwise.

LC75LC71 · Answer

If it was that clear, I would have picked up on it. I've heard many after the facts by others, which I dismissed by letting them know that I didn't pursue because the intent on her/hers behalf simply wasn't there. In other words.. Teases are a mufucka!

Dinklex3 · Answer

Yes. He literally asked me on a date. It didn’t register in my head, I thought he was just playing on words and wanted to hang out as friends.

exitseven · Answer

They seem to always be around and go out if their way to talk to you.

Massageman · Answer

There wasn't a "sign" per se, but at a 50th High School reunion, there WAS a gal (not a nerd) there and said that she was interested in me (mostly nerdy at the time). Who knew?

Anonymous · Answer

When multiple people talk to you about them and tell you they probably like you.

FreyaRed · Answer

When they try to be nice but after a while they turn hostile without a obvious reason.

Phil_ · Answer

That's the story of my life. Right person, wrong moment. Oblivious to the signs. Always like that.

Anonymous · Answer

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Anonymous · Answer

Nobody was ever into me.  (except maybe some girls who are not my type, but it doesn't matter).

Pohjolan · Answer

Don't know really. There is a considerable overlap between cockteasing and flirting.

AgentG111 · Answer

When they tell you.

Phoenix98 · Answer

O sure multiple times.

Shiprex · Answer

They tell you and you hear them

MrChinaski · Answer

She sat on my lap.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Maybe, i'll search for the click button haha

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