What should I do? Should I just tell him?

[Anonymous]

So the guy I’m dating has two jobs now. So I’m understanding that he busy and exhausted most of the time. The only thing is his priority issue. I feel like he has a bros before hoes mentality. Like if you dating someone and tell her that you miss her all the time and you wish I was there. Wouldn’t you text her in a timely matter and not ignore her and text your boys or post on social media knowingly that she sees that you’re active. Especially after she communicated that to you already. I just feel so lost and I don’t feel like he doesn’t actually like
me and is wasting my time. After hours he texted me back saying “these two jobs have me communicating weird and I hope you’re not too bothered by it.” Do you think he is hinting something or am I just overthinking? Please tell the truth even if it might hurt my feelings.

[Cyfris]

So could go a couple ways here.. As a guy who worked two jobs for 14 years I can see where there is room for truth and deceit. Could be that he is able to be on socials and reply to the boys and not you because he wants to be able to give you his complete attention whereas the boys and FB are on autopilot. Girlfriends require a lot more mental capacity and working 16 hours a day and barely sleeping requires proper rationing of that mental capacity or you end up with 27 staples in your leg like I did or like the 13 I ended up with in the back of my head. But he could also be just not that in to you is the other side of the coin. Actions speak louder then words. What does he choose to do with his time off work. is that when he talks to you. does he choose you in those moments? Is he there when it matters for those moments like child birth ya know the big things...

[Asker]

I understand that part. Most of the time on his day off he either catch up on his sleep, work on his cars, and he texts me a lot more than he does now. A few days ago he finally made a day that we can meet up again to just talk and chill. He stated that it’s been too long and he didn’t like that and he just wants me. So we are hopefully meeting this weekend. We are basically long distance. He lives like 2 hours away from me. When haven’t seen each for over a month now.

[Cyfris]

Super tough.. Seems like he might be doin all he can. So all that is left is for you to decide if it is enough for you I suppose.

[Asker]

And that’s the hard part because I’m currently in the middle of being enough or not enough. But from our first date he treated me the best out of any other guy that I dated but again that could have been the nice guy act. If anything I’ll see how this weekend goes.

[Cyfris]

The nice guy act isn't really a thing.. Most guys want to be nice to women aside from a few monsters. But yeah you kinda have to take it as it comes or not.. I do know adding pressure about it will make it worse if he is in fact in to you and actually working two jobs and is in fact doing all he can with what he has. I would suggest when you are together to throw it out there like if this is going to be a long term thing for me we are going to have to work on the way we communicate while we are apart I will need more the longer we are together like it doesn't have to be right now today but if you could try and carve a bit more time out of your day for me i know how busy you are it would mean a lot to me.. And then again you unfortunately have to wait until the actions speak again.