Do you appreciate your date sharing stories about their past lovers?

[HawkPerception]

Ex. Sharing stories about their first kiss, their first time, the memories they have with their past lovers.

Yes

No

Updates

1 mo

And what if it's intimate details?

[7Phoenix7]

I definitely don’t mind it at all… I actually like hearing about their past. It tells me what shaped them, what they valued vs what they didn’t, and what they learned from it all.

… and honestly it can also give me a sense of what they enjoy on a more intimate level. Depending on my mood… I can be a tad bit more interested in the meaning behind the stories than the details themselves tho lol.

[lilBigPotato]

It always depends on the context and how they talk about it but generally yes I want to know more about the person that I'm dating and there includes their past love life.

[Summeroflove]

Depends on the context and how many dates we been on. If someone’s weird about it that’s one thing but at some point if it naturally comes up as we are getting to know one another it’s okay.

Weird for a first date.

[Finchie40]

It’s fine hearing about their past with their ex , but I would find it disrespectful if she was getting all graphic about what her and her ex did together. Like I don’t give 2 shits where they first kissed , and why she would even bring that up on a first date , is a sure sign that would be the last date lol

[AviatorTom]

My date? No.

After we get married, it's interesting to share stories about our past expereinces.

[AviatorTom]

@HawkPerception Per you update, I don't want to hear intimate details from my date, unless they're about me. However, it can be hot when my wife tells me about some of her intimate encounters before we met. She does that sometimes when she helps me masturbate.

[FunkyMonkee]

It's just part of their history! There's NOTHING they can do about that!! It's no different than relating a trip they took to an amusement park or a beach. Okay, you fucked a few other guys before me!! So what? It's ancient history now and there's not a fucking thing anyone can do to change that! I don't even think time travel can fix that. Like, you go back in time before you fucked each of those guys and tell them all, "No" and you suddenly get your cherry back in the present?
My girlfriend got pissed at me for telling her about my past forays but, I'm NOT telling her because I WANT to go back and fuck those girls again, I'm NOT bragging to her about how great they were or comparing fucking them to fucking her, like one was better than the other. It's just something that happened in my life and I CAN'T just IGNORE it!! Besides, those memories are connected to so many others and, if I forget the ones involving the relationships of the past, I'll end up forgetting the others, too, some of which are rather important to me.

[Crimsyjo]

I think it's great and important to be able to share details of your past with eachother. It's part of intimacy and trust building and getting to know your partner. BUT there also needs to be discretion and sensitivity to it too. For instance, talking about a mishap sexual encounter is funny. But leave out a lot unnessesary details like if he was rugged and so passionate/she was so fit and sexy with perfect boobs. Don't add details like he/she had tattoos and I get really turned on by tats.

The key is to tell the story whilst making the other person an anonymous entity in it.

"I love making out on a beach but once I did that in my younger days and the sand is not as comfortable as it looks in movies"

Rather than:

"My ex and I loved making out on beach and when he fingered me sand got in very intimate places. Not great! But he did have big fat fingers so I still loved it"

[HawkPerception]

I hear you, but I have a different view. I'm a weirdo who actually wants to hear those kinda details, not because I want to envision it but because I'm very competitive in that aspect. I want to know if I'm doing it better or worse than their past partners. Because no man really wants to live in the shadow of another man. If a girl had better sex with another guy in her past, I don't think I personally would be able to be with her.

[Crimsyjo]

Ooo welli like sharing so I'd actually love to be able to do that. But it's so rare a guy can handle it. And would you feel if you can take details I should take yours in return? Cos I'd say I can't handle specific details so if you want mine that's great but you would have to hold back. Would that be too unfair to you?

[HawkPerception]

Sorry for the late reply. Came back from a trip just today. And yeah... I'd prefer both me and my partner share it all. As I said before, I prefer that I'm not living in the shadow of another guy and I'd want to KNOW with absolute certainty I outperform her past partners. If I can't, at least eventually outperform them, it would be hard for me to want to be with her. I'd also want to be physically intimate in all the same ways my partner was with her previous partners or it would bother me knowing they were with her in a way I wasn't.

[NathanDavis]

I would not choose the word "appreciate" but some stories did come up during some conversations and sharing things about our lives, so... more than "past lover stories" these were stories about her, and her life, her past, her experiences... which of course, sometimes, happened to involve other people

and there was also a point to them, because of the context

however... this happened during my relationships

I would want to be in a date talking about other people like that, that's kind of weird, lol

[NathanDavis]

most of the time... they have been more interested on mine, than I, on theirs...

and there's a point to it because... USUALLY, if you have "good things to tell" and cherish, well that might reflect something good about you

but if you have nightmarish, rants and criticism over past ex-periences, well... at some point, that's kind of a warning sign in itself... lol

[Miristheiss]

I married a virgin.

Past lovers? Fuck that. Have a fling if you must but a fool would give his heart to a promiscous slut or EVER try to make a wife or girlfriend out of her.

Men. ... just because the evil feminists of the 1960's and 70s preached the wonders of the "sexual revolution" and everybody fucking everybody was enlightened and progressive doesn't nake it so.

Look at today's results. Onlyfans whores, body counts in the 30s, 50s, 100s. No families, divorces everywhere, abortions everywhere, endless single parent kids, sexual diseases, the birthrate collapsing, men and women hating each other.

It's evil man. Pair up with virtuous women only... or not at all.

[queenofcardio]

Yes, if he wants to share. I'm naturally curious about my date's dating history.

I wouldn't ask early on but eventually

[Laurenvol]

I don't mind sharing but some did not want to hear it.

[Xawyx-2]

I'm single, but if I had a date, I wouldn't mind, it's her choice.

[MissSunshine2]

I don’t mind, but I don’t need graphic details of their sex life with other people.

[Carina0]

I feel like it’s unnecessary especially if it’s a first date

[exitseven]

yess as long as it is not too graphic.

[molonski2]

No , not on a first date thanks.

[Tungi]

Yes I do I don’t get intimidated by it

[LiamJHayden]

Only if she was abused.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't no 🤐

[Zionne]

no i don't

[Jeff51]

Not really