Do you have any unique advice for single people who want to date?

[BCRanger10]

What advice would you offer to people who are single and want to date? Beyond "put yourself out there", "it'll happen when you least expect it", and other cliches?

[Genie23]

I wouldn't call these unique, but I would say-

Don't rush into relationships (or getting physical), you'll regret it once the honeymoon period wears off. Take your time.

Don't be afraid to meet people and date, but be careful about how much you're sharing with them in the initial phases. If you end up trusting someone too soon, and sharing things when you're vulnerable, they're wrong kind of people.

If you are the kind of person who wants to date someone because you want a long term relationship. Make sure you bring up your goals in life, what you see yourself doing in the next 5 or 10 years. Whether you want to stay in the same city or country. Whether you want to change your career. Whether you want to eventually marry and have kids. Because if you don't... There's a possibility that you'll breakup because both of you have different plans for life, nd one of you will get hurt... and wish you'd have discussed this a long time. Wouldn't have wasted all this time.

Looks fade. Personality stays. So, don't be shallow or you'll end up in a miserable relationship/marriage. Choose the one who brings out the best in you, and treats you good. The one you could talk about anything without feeling judged.

[Anonymous]

somethings I learned over my time:

- if you want to date seriously, go to dating events, matchmakers, social clubs intended for finding love. Don't go to bars, or clubs or volunteer groups, treating it like a dating scene. Most of these people aren't going there to look for love. Unrequited love or short term relationships will only come out of these places.

- Don't be a serial dater. The reason why you are always single and looking is because you hop in then out of way too many relationships.

- Always have an interesting life of your own, don't look for someone just to add excitement to your life. Find someone to travel with, create memories, stories, make your life worth living. If you enjoy life, it makes you seem more attractive than if you are desperate and needy and boring.

- Don't ignore red flags. Because they will come back to haunt you years down the road when the marriage is no longer working.

- Key to finding love is to be as social as possible. Talk to as many people as possible.

- Look attractive and well groomed. People judge you based on your looks since its the only thing they see first. No one will want to read a book if the cover has poop on it. Its worth the investment to look good

[CherryLove007]

I concur... you explained what is in my mindset as well.

[OlderAndWiser]

Real romance is not having fun on trips to Paris and around-the-world cruises with extravagantly beautiful partners. It is consistently having fun taking an ordinary partner to the grocery store on Tuesday night, or pulling weeds in the yard Saturday morning, or doing laundry together.

[NathanDavis]

it's not a unique one, no... but it is the best advice for people wanting to date

be yourself... and if that ain't enough, well fokin' better up yourself and grow up

[ChasingSophie]

Probably not unique, but the thing nobody told me early enough: figure out what you're actually attracted to versus what's good for you, because those two lists can be wildly different and pretending otherwise just wastes everyone's time.

I spent years thinking the problem was finding the right person, when the actual problem was that I kept picking the same type of person and expecting different results. There's something almost magnetic about someone who runs just slightly hot and cold, and I had to get honest with myself about that before any of the other dating stuff started to matter.

So my actual advice is less "be yourself" and more "know which version of yourself shows up when you're anxious and whether that version makes good decisions." Because she might not. Speaking from extensive personal experience here.

[Maybe_Maybe_not]

No I don't.

Advising people without any form of prior context makes no sense to me. But as a commercial venture, that concept can certainly generate sales.

[HighValue]

If you are a gamer and you have a backlog of some 100 to 200 + hour games, play through those first while you have the free time before dating.

[CherryLove007]

Cupid is not working right now in this culture. Cupid is unfortunately on strike until the complaints get the proper respect.

[MrChinaski]

Victorious warriors win first and then go to war; defeated warriors go to war first

Sun Tzu

[molonski2]

I'd say , take serious risks , be prepared to do what others will not , making yourself unique.

[loveyouoak]

Don't chase them too much or they'll lose respect for your.

[ABitShattered]

Be confident, be willing to take risks, and know that part of love is vulnerability

[Anonymous]

Yeah.😆

https://www.youtube.com/embed/4F4qzPbcFiA

[Honeyateleven]

Be confident.

(by the way I will never ever date or marry men who are already taken)

[strateguy632]

Say what you mean!

[strateguy632]

I meant my advice is Say what you mean!

[AngryCarl3]

Yeah, don't bother. lol

[captain_voidwalker]

Yeah, don't its not worth it

[beefcakebradybatson]

Avoid fat broads and ugly dudes !!!

[Anonymous]

Yes - Don't be like me (I never had a date).