Is it wrong to ask my fiancé to be romantic again after 7 years together?

[Psyduck98]

Title says most of it. He is sweet and patient guy who I have agree to marry. But I haven't had any sexual attraction/drive I have PCOS so maybe it's that symptoms for it have been bad and he isn't the romantic type. But everytime he wants to do the deed he comes at me in a sexual manner fair enough but doesn't really try to woo or romance me otherwise. We do go on dates and outings. But I don't know. I tried to talk to him about it but he said that it felt confusing to him ask that after the 7 years we have been together. I told him I want to be with but I want to grow and change with him. And he is trying to figure it out or thinking about it. What do I do? Did I do something wrong? Or does he just need time?

[Effably]

You probably need to be very clear with what you want. After reading it I assumed dates, little cute messages and so on but that seems to already be happening.

Can you take the lead on this and normalize it? I do strongly believe in couples maintaining a date night sort of thing. Looking your best and trying to be extra charming at somewhat regular intervals.

There is nothing wrong but he isn't strange for being confused as it signals missing or dying feelings if said out of context. Honestly the easiest way to make this fine is probably to just play the "Oh it turns me on when X and Y" and have it be more about you sharing self-discovery than anything bad having occured.

[Psyduck98]

We did talk more about it and came to a conclusion. I just wanted more small romantic gestures in the day to day life. Still not sure what turns me on anymore I'm also confused but haven't been able to figure it out. Which is why I decided to talk to him. Instead of letting it fester. We also both work from home so it is hard and confusing sometimes.
We both come up and try to plan dates weekly corresponding to whoever is cooking that week.

[Effably]

Seems very healthy. Good luck. People are always very sensitive about these things. On both ends. Is is quite endearing in a way.

[Psyduck98]

Thank you I'm glad it's healthy

[jahaims]

You should be single

[Psyduck98]

Why do you say that? What is your experience?