What are the main reasons you shouldn’t date a coworker?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Speaking from experience: Coworkers are partly in your relationship and when you do something wrong they'll go to your partner or tell you they won't tell your partner or they'll give you privileges because of your partner
If you breakup you have to tell them because they'll bring your partner up in conversations
You never get to fully recover because your ex is there
Depending on how you broke up, it's things that you have to watch silently and can't say anything about because y'all are both single and this is a professional place

For me watching him move on so quickly, flirting with other women, having to work with him and asking me to do stuff, but then also him blocking me from talking to other men and using our intimacy to be more intimate when he feels like it. He has those opportunities because of close proximity and past feelings.

DishLady · Accepted Answer

1. Don't shit where you eat.
2. HR policies at most places indicate that this is a conflict of interest.
3. It's just distracting in general (to you, your SO and the team/coworkers).
4. It could come back to haunt you if you're up for promotions, transfers, etc.

ArrowheadSW · Accepted Answer

You might not fully know what their issues are and whether or not they can handle it in a mature manner if things don't work out. I dated a coworker when I was 26 and it ended up being one of the worst experiences in my life. When the relationship didn't work out, she harassed me at work in front of other employees just to be a bitch. There were circumstances where we had to talk at work over business, and she ignored me just to be obstinate. There were other reasons to leave that job, so as soon as a different job showed up in the area in my field of work, I took the job and left.

HawkPerception · Accepted Answer

There's no reason you SHOULDN'T.

It would be incredibly stupid to meet someone who is perfect for you and say "Oh well, no dice because I work with them."

If it's your dream job and there's no relationships allowed among employees, or they're your boss or something... then that might be something to be careful about, but other than that... follow your heart.

Finchie40 · Answer

It could cause drama at your job and get you fired from your job if things don’t work out between the both of you , and shit will hit the fan , because other coworkers will talk and gossip about it as well , if it’s a job that you don’t really care about losing , then go for it , but if it’s a job you like and want to keep for the long run, then you are best not to date any coworkers period. Unfortunately dating coworkers isn’t a very wise decision because of that reason , I have done it before and kicked myself in the ass for doing it , unless you both agree to keep your relationship private and don’t let anyone know at work that you are together , and hope nobody finds out. So now i will only date a coworker that I am on the same page with and we promise to keep it secret. No matter what , it’s still risky but it’s the best thing to do if you both really like each other. And pray that the both of you really want each other for the long haul over the short haul. I have witnessed so many coworkers dating each other and they all eventually lost their jobs because it didn’t work out the way they wanted it to. People talk and gossip all the time , so understand you are playing with fire if you really like your job. I work as a manager and being a manager I had to be cautious with my female coworkers that were flirting with me and hitting on me , it was tempting but I had to put a stop to it because I liked my job and didn’t want to lose my job whatsoever. So again if you don’t really care about the job , have a blast otherwise don’t do it

AviatorTom · Answer

1. It's usually against company policy

2. It may affect your work, thinking about your co-worker and the hot dress she's wearing rather than doing your job

3. If one person manages the other, there be improper benefits, like promotions, raises or perks, given.

4. You co-workers will generally frown on it, thinking at least one of you is getting an unfair advantage in the company.

5. If the relationship ends, especially if it ends badly, both of your work may be negatively affected.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

1. Workplace rules forbidding such relationships.
2. Office gossip when you are dating.
3. Far worse office gossip after you break up.
4. Sometimes, a breakup is so uncomfortable that one of the former partners feels compelled to leave their job.

ohsheeT · Answer

Well because the odds of you breaking up is higher and when you have an affair or a relationship at work and you break up there's usually arguing or fighting or drama some way somehow and somebody's always going to get fired and it's usually the person that needs the job the most

Lliam · Answer

I dated coworkers. I wound up in long-term relationships that way. I know people who wound up marrying coworkers.
Work and school are good places to meet potential partners.

I suppose if things didn't work out and one person was an ass hole, they could talk behind the other's back or try to back stab them.

bolverk · Answer

Given the atmosphere in offices these days Post #METOO, it makes sense not to engage in any office relationship.

No conversation with women about your personal life - EVER - the less they know about your outside work life the better.

You keep it minimal and professional.

It is a shame that men have to do this but we have to do everything we can to protect ourselves.

There nothing that says that a guy HAS to interact with women in their office beyond that needed to get work done.

If you get called into HR all you have to say that is you are treating the women as 'professionals, if they cannot handle it then that is their problem.

loveslongnails · Answer

Define "co-worker". It depends on how closely you work together. If you have daily contact at all, I don't recommend it for dating. If you're going to be fuck buddies, it doesn't matter. If they work in a completely different department and you don't see them on a daily basis, that's an acceptable situation.

Working closely with someone you're dating will end one of two things, possibly both; the dating part or the working part. If you're married and work together, that can last longer and often does, depending on the work.

You ask why though? It's because the dynamic has changed and you're now emotionally entwined, which messes up your head whether you recognize it or not. So my strong advice is - don't do it.

Nikki1989 · Answer

If a regular relationship ends badly, you can block their number, take some space, and heal. If a workplace relationship ends badly, you still have to see them at the 9:00 AM Monday status meeting.

browsingthroughthe · Answer

In one sentence:

If HR ever has to get involved or gets involved, aka a manager finds it damaging to morale or team cohesion. Or the relationship sours. Or either party turns out to be a player/two-timer.

Basically - that old saying rings true. Don't eat where you, poop 💩

Screenwriter · Answer

There's one giant one: if and when you break up, you'll have to see that person regularly instead of it being a clean, no more interaction ending. And if that person is over you, it could be job disaster... OK two giant reasons.

Masie · Answer

In my opinion, it can make this messy if there is a fight or breakup. That is number one. Inner two is making it awkward around others. Then there is the part if you are at different levels. People might view preferential treatment.

MrChinaski · Answer

Relationship goes well:

-Other coworkers feel excluded.

-Pretty much excludes you from inline promotion.

-Judgment questioned.

Relationship goes badly:

-Work environment becomes hostile.

-Ex tells lies or, worse, truths about you.

-Accusations, forced moves, firing in the worst cases.

jazzy34 · Answer

If things end badly, things could get awkward. It also can result in both of you getting fired. Believe it or not, some companies don’t allow dating amongst coworkers.

noohair · Answer

I have personally seen men destroy their entire lives by getting involved at work. If you want to cheat, keep it away from work.. My Father told me not to get involved with any women where you work. It was one time when I listened and it was excellent advice. You don’t crap where you eat…

lilBigPotato · Answer

You don't want to have to deal with your ex every day at work if things ended badly.

molonski2 · Answer

No reason at all.. Date all of them.. Never go with corporate BS

Sexiestjohnson · Answer

I think one of the major ones is if the relationships end badly one person will feel like running from the job they love.

MissSunshine2 · Answer

There's a saying; 'Don't shit where you eat.' It's not a nice saying but it says it all. That things can get awkward if they fall through.

SamIam96 · Answer

The main reason: When you're interacting with that person, and you're not mature enough to keep personal life at home and behave professionally at work.

choco-latte · Answer

Because it’s better to keep your work space should free from any potential drama and you need a balance between your work and personal lives.

Marshast · Answer

They should consider, that their whole career outlook in that company would be contingent to that relationship…!

dudeinohio · Answer

What happens if you break up? You talk crap about each other to your coworkers and it creates a toxic environment.

Iron_Man · Answer

Trouble at the job. if I ran a protein smoothie shop business can I date the employee if I own the business?

Kassandra1994 · Answer

You must read carefully what are the requierements and if its not allowed to date un the contrat before considering taking the job offer.

Alex-Snow · Answer

If there is a breakup it could cause some stress in the workplace.

RingOfFire · Answer

It's unprofessional. Personal relationships of that nature in the workplace interfere with productivity and create conflicts of interest and legal liabilities for the employer.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Personally? I own the company and it would open me up to all sorts of legal issues.

FrodoSkywalker007 · Answer

It creates complications. For example, it can make work unbearable if you break up

katiesmuff · Answer

It can get very ugly and detrimental to your job should the relationship end badly

Anonymous · Answer

Basically just because if something goes wrong in your relationship then you still have to see each other daily whether you like it or not and that can be really heavy on the mind.

Levin · Answer

Well, it can blow up in your face. But if the pussy is good, you're obliged to.

Lesbologist · Answer

People will suspect you when you rape and murder them.

jshm2 · Answer

Because you are there to work, not make friends or get your rocks off in the broom cupboard.

TonyMetal___1986 · Answer

I don't think that there is a rule which says that you cannot date your coworker, i see many people dating their coworkers and even getting married!

genericname85 · Answer

for one, it's unprofessional plus if shit doesn't work out, shit'll get awkward as fuck at work.

exitseven · Answer

If the relationship went sideways it could be awkward.

Limited_Edition5 · Answer

Because if it ends badly, you'll have to see each other, and one of you might not be able to stand the other.

blackeagle007 · Answer

If all ends with someone whom I dated, don’t want any contact. Not easy when you still work with them.

Mothedon1993 · Answer

Dont shit where you eat. If it goes bad thats awkward as fuck man. On top of that now everyone know you have a massive cock but dont know how to use it if you catch my drift 😂

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Because you need money, don't you? If you lose your job, you won't have an income anymore.

canamlusciouslad73 · Answer

If the relationship sours, the entire workplace cound sink.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Because if things end badly your still forced to see that person everyday even if thing are awkward and fucked up

msc545 · Answer

You may end up having to work with them a lot longer than you date them or even like them.

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

Conflict of interests. You need some space from your partner, or the relationship is doomed to fail

Anonymous · Answer

It's hard if you suddenly get promoted to order a guy around that came on your face.

Anonymous · Answer

If you get upset with your co-worker boyfriend you still have to see him everyday

Anonymous · Answer

I’m actually in a serious relationship with one of my bosses. It’s against company policy and he could get in trouble.

NathanDavis · Answer

your employers wants you to work... not date

Spencer10 · Answer

You could end up getting fired...

Dominik6 · Answer

I think you can date a coworker but it can get a little awkward

Gabriel-Chicanito · Answer

Think about the consequence, when you break up? ..

robocop666 · Answer

Ask Matt Hardy, Chyna, Gwen Stefani all who damaged their careers for dating at work.

rapfan107 · Answer

If things dont work out or turn ugly it's gonna be super awkward

Ariesman81Nshiiit · Answer

Cause they're all dudes

Anonymous · Answer

You might get in trouble at your job

DirtyOldMan777 · Answer

breakups mean back stabbing your career.

Pretendingtobesweet · Answer

All men are perverts

arianna1414 · Answer

Things could change fast

Smileygirl2000 · Answer

I think this is common sense

Pterodon · Answer

You don’t shit where you eat

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