Where I work, it is against company policy for employees to date. That’s the case for many companies in the United States.
Because most company have rules that clearly state you can't fuck coworkers. Do it and you're fired
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That you asked that question tells me that you have not been paying attention.
Women, as a collective, have made themselves too dangerous to approach, or have any form of personal/romantic interaction with them.
Specific to the workplace:
1. Any demonstration of interest can result in a career ending trip to HR. Interest in a female co-worker is simply too dangerous to contemplate.
2. Female co-workers make false allegations of sexual harassment. That is why all interaction must be recorded. NEVER be alone with a female co-worker.
3. Today’s consensual sex is tomorrow’s false rape allegation.
4. When a relationship ends (which most do), a spiteful woman will make false allegations of harassment and/or rape. There is no defence against such allegations. A mere allegation will destroy a man’s life.
5. Women, as a collective, have #MeToo-ed themselves into unemployment, career stagnation and spinsterhood. No rational man will go near female co-workers now, unless he has a death wish.
Because, one accusation whether true or not will ruin his life. That's why he won't do it. It's kinda sad, because 2-3 decades ago it was common for people who work in the same company to date. There were magazine articles for women on how to secure that co-worker she really likes and shit like that. After all, for most people, co-workers happen to be the ones they spend the most time with. So it is only natural for relationships to develop. It used to happen all the time. Talk to older people, like 60's and 70's and a lot of them met at work. After work you go to happy hour, grab a couple of drinks and develop relationships.
Then feminism and postmodernism crept into the workplace, with the narrative that man are over sexualized abusers, base on a finite number of examples of where men legitimately took it too far.
So the narrative for men became, 'don't shit where you eat.' Then it got extreme during metoo and men pulled away completely. Most men won't talk to women at work about anything but work. Office doors are open or have a 3rd party when meetings with female employees need to happen.
There was a guy I worked with, he held a meeting and some woman reported him to HR, because she thought he said something offensive. Fortunately, he recorded the meeting and she simply misunderstood. She misunderstood and took it straight to HR. If he had not recorded the meeting, he would have been in a world of shit.
Dating at work is a HUGE no no... first off there are company policies that prohibit it outright at some companies, at others you're not allowed to work in the same department or even building. If one person is senior in title to another it is prohibited... it gives other people the perception that preferential treatment is being handed out and in worst case, if there is a break up or something bad happends at work, one person can claim sexual harrassment or assualt on the other, causing a nightmare for the other person and the company. No good.
Because your job shouldn't have any romance to it (for me personally). Then there are the what-ifs like a nasty breakup if they hinder your work and then there is jealousy (yes your partner can get jealous of you). It's always good to separate business from pleasure.
Dating co workers is probably the dumbest thing a person can do.
Gossip ensues about "who's doing who" and when or if the relationship fails, then you have tension at the workplace and possibly shit talking between and about the former couple.
This just creates a very toxic environment.
many companies have strict rules about inner company dating. his job level adds restrictions due to local, state, and federal laws (most if not all pertaining to sexual harassment) . add in the metoo movement stuff. then those women at work just may not be his type too. and i sure have no clue how many of those wonen are married/taken already. could be he has tried with some of them and for what ever reason he was not her/their type. plus any number of other unknown factors.
He’s in a senior position at a company where he would most likely be dating subordinate coworkers. That’s a recipe for a lawsuit if something goes wrong or if one of the people he starts dating gets vindictive or even another coworker who he’s not dating decides she wants to be with him. He’s in a senior position so it’s automatically going to look fishy if he starts dating other employees there.
Dating co-workers is a bad idea. Your cousin sounds smart to me. Plus, you mentioned he has a very senior-level position. He has to be careful about the perception he gives and not risking sexual harassment claims, etc.
Dating coworkers can lead to HUGE problems. If things don't work out, you'd be surprised how many people feel the need to be "vindictive" even though nothing that bad happened. When I was around 26 I dated a coworker and it really was one of the worst times in my life. She made my job very uncomfortable for me, and for no reason. She broke off the relationship with ME, and I was treating her respectfully. You would expect the opposite. Like if I were to have broke it off with HER then you'd expect her to be mad perhaps.
As you said he has a high up position. If he dates someone of whom he is a boss to that could lead to a lot of bad things like getting fired. Even if he wasn't fired for it what happens when they are up for review? If he gives her a big raise it will look very bad if he doesn't it could affect the relationship. I think as long as you are equals in the company you could get away with it. It could still end badly though. I think he is doing a smart thing by not tapping into company assets.
As Batman said.
1 Dating within the team always leads to disaster.
2 You're a princess from a society of immortal warriors. I'm a rich kid with issues. Lots of issues.
And 3, if my enemies knew I had someone special, they wouldn't rest until they'd gotten to me through her.
In my opinion, if I valued my job, I wouldn't want to introduce any circumstances which could jeopardize that job, or at the least, make for an uncomfortable work environment.
Same reason women avoid dating coworkers, as my grandad would say "you don't shit on your own doorstep"
"Never date a co-worker" it is a rule... if you date a co-worker and it gets "Ugly" then you cannot walk away, you will always see them at work, and if they are Mad they will make up stories about you... also there is a saying "Don't shit where you eat" means the same thing
I personally would only do it If I really like her, my job doesn’t have that rule but they got the no harassment stuff or harassment out of work. Go for it, we got free will
Not sure what the situation is but maybe it's work policy? Especially since he's in a senior level position. I'd say dating someone who works for him wouldn't be a good idea regardless of whteher it breaks policy or not.
It is very unsafe, she can turn around and claim sexual harrassment or some other heinous crime on him and he will lose his job reputation and everything he has, isn't worth the risk at all.
Not every man is attractive for woman despite he has a good position on a job. In my case the only thing that make me avoiding trying dating coworkers is because I'm worried about what she will do if she reject me, because I must keep on meeting her everyday.
Dating someone you work with, especially if you are in an authority position, makes things unnecessarily complicated. Also you end up being around that person all the time, never a break from each other.
I dont date guys at work it creates drama.. especially if you two dont work out and still have to see eachother everyday
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