Is It A Bad Idea To Date Your Coworker?

[Physics-Man]

Yes

No

Other

[ManOnFire]

It's not necessarily bad, but it has the potential to become problematic. It will also pretty much never be a private relationship, there are still going to be people on your job watching everything and talking about it. Some employees want their relationship getting this kind of attention because they like thinking of themselves as some kind of celebrity couple at work, but I've seen some of these end badly and once they did they didn't like all the negative talk about it, yet being noticed was all cool before.

[Zack-Bann]

I would say it’s a bad idea to jump in blind into dating a coworker you barely know


Because if you land on a psycho you’re screwed
There’s no getting out without damages


But if you get to know the person and identify true mutual attraction and the maturity to handle dating, and a potential separation, like adults
It’s not a bad idea


Many couples met at work and stayed together for decades


It’s the place you spend the most time so chances are you will meet lots of people there compared to anywhere else you frequent on the weekends

[sage2021]

It's not such a good idea. Especially if he has a wandering heart and wandering eyes and you happen to see him with another female co-worker. It'll break your heart. 💔

[sage2021]

Thank you for the MHO 🧁

[Sunrising]

Probably why you are single.

[Genie23]

Yes, it is. It'll be very awkward/difficult once you break up with them especially if they didn't want to. Not to mention, all the cringe office gossips.

[Sunrising]

The benefits supercede any problems that might be faced.
It's not appreciating what you have available, or too much of a good thing.

[Genie23]

To be honest, I'd say I had enough options outside the workplace. So, I was simply never interested. Also, it doesn't matter how good looking someone is or nice someone is. I don't think any of them are worth ruining my career over or worth dealing with all that awkwardness, office politics and gossips.

[Sunrising]

We obviously have totally different circumstances, but if I could meet someone nice at work, this would be heaven for me, and I would rise above any awkwardness, office politics or gossip.

[Sunrising]

I have sacrificed my life for a career, and now I would sacrifice my career for a relationship. If the company didn't want me thousands of companies would love my services.

[Genie23]

@Sunrising I understand. I wish you the best!

[Finchie40]

Yes it is , but only if you don’t plan on staying at that job forever , because if that’s the job you want to retire from , you are best not to date or screw any of your coworkers , just in case drama happens if the both of you clash , and unfortunately that could lead to you losing your job if whoever starts shit. I only dating and slept with co workers at jobs I knew I wasn’t going to stay at for a long time , or if I didn’t care to quit it if shit hits the fan lol

[coachTanthony]

Yes of course but life is short... could be a awesome adventure. Oh and make sure you have a shit ton of money in the bank in case you lose your job.

[AviatorTom]

It depends. I married my coworker and we were married for 20 years before an amicable divorce.

I've also known coworkers to date and breakup, creating difficult working conditions when they are on the same team.

[Sunrising]

If you are single, dating your work colleagues should be high on the agenda. They are people you spend a lot of time getting to know, it's a great opportunity for life long relationships, and what working is all about.

Probably not good for the business, because sometimes seeing too much of colleagues can cause problems, with cooperation, arguments, and then employees want to leave.

[Sunrising]

My job has been a lonely job with only male colleagues for company, and most of these being married. Having worked nights and long hours, I've not had time to join clubs or classes to meet females, I've relied on nights out with the boys, and late night clubs, where you mainly the girls and guys keep to their own friends. I to have an opportunity to meet females at work would be heaven for me, and the comments I've read on this question saying otherwise are unbelievable. They must have their own businesses, and they certainly can't be single.

[Lliam]

Not necessarily. Work can actually be a good place to meet a girlfriend/boyfriend.

I dated coworkers before and even met two of my girlfriends that way.
I know people who married their coworkers while continuing to work at the same company.

But I suppose there can be pitfalls. If things don't work out and one person is mean or vindictive, it could lead to trouble.

[ODC2112]

In Rome there is a proverb that in English sound like this "At work and in your building, don’t put your dick in it", in other words you should never mix sex with work or your home life. This because:

At work, because relationships (or even just flirtations) within the workplace create power dynamics, jealousy, rumors, and above all, vulnerability. If it ends badly, you find yourself working side by side with someone you've shared intimacy with or who perhaps has reason to hate you. In short, a role short circuit.

In the building (i. e., where you live) because it's the same principle: if you get emotionally involved with someone who lives nearby, if shit happens, you can't "escape." You find yourself running into them in the elevator, in the courtyard, in the mailbox. It's like sleeping next to an unexploded landmine.

[Twalli]

Several reasons.
1) If your roles change and one is put above the other in power, then you are in a position of authority over your SO and decisions may be made in relation to that.
2) Most of the time when people fight, they have time to cool down by going to work and not being in contact with their SO for a bit over 8 hours. When you work together, you don't have that time
3) If you break up, you still have to see each other every day.

[Unap0logetic_]

I wouldn’t say it’s a bad idea, but it’s definitely not recommended. It’s only acceptable in my opinion, if both people are able to remain professional and separate their work life from home life.

[MasterKS]

@unap0logetic_ good point.

[OneViewpoint]

Dating a coworker introduces more risk. You could lose your job over it. Or you could find the love of your life. Or it could fizzle out and you both behave like rational adults. Is it worth it? Roll the dice and find out.

[thatgirl2000]

Maybe. If you guys can't stay civil if it doesn't work out. I had that happen it. made work awkward

[stayorgo]

Wow that's all kind of answers there I seen it where it has worked out and I seen it where it has fallen apart badly. . Well that's usually the two ways it's going to happen I don't think you can ever stop it I know some Jobs have where they suggest you can't date each other. . But I mean you can't stop it if they want each other then they will

[Miristheiss]

Usually, yes.

Awkward if it goes bad, They can sabotage you to HR too if you piss them off.

Keep love and career separate.

[NoDecision]

If things go bad it would be awkward to work there with them. Other than that I see no problem with it. 🙄

[RedWine9]

Bad idea to break up, especially if it still sucks because you still have to work with them. You need a break from your partner.

[noohair]

I have seen men destroy their business career and also their family life dating at work. My Father told me when I was about 17 that women at work were off limits. It turned out to be great advice…

[mysteriousNicholas]

@Physics-Man most contracts have a clause saying no dating staff or words to that effect there's a fancier legal term.

[warlock83]

Yes. I had one coworker who was literally the woman of my dreams, sex wise. She did everything she could try and get me, but besides that, it was a coworker; she had a boyfriend whom I met. Also, she always bragged about her cheating, which I semi-believed, or it was her trying to be "cool".

[Agape93]

Yeah, it just causes issues the moment there is a breakup. I will 100% fire someone for it.

[LiamJHayden]

Yes. When the breakup comes, like it usually does, most people lack the matyrity to continue working together.

[dragoblack]

Only if you can't separate your work life and home life.

[blackeagle007]

Bad idea! Once broken up, you still have to work with that person

[DrPepper12]

At your demographic I will just leave you with this question Is it a bad idea to stick your dick in the blender?

[guesswhereivebeen]

You’re much better off being. Afuck buddy with then

[robocop666]

Ask Chyna and Matt Hardy. They were fired for it.

[Anonymous]

Depends if it’s allowed at your work

[exitseven]

Yes if it goes sideways it could be bad.

[jazzy34]

That’s what I hear.

[beenherebefore]

Terrible idea in my honest opinion.

[Bloodparadise]

No.. u can date anyone ur interested in

[Jmmmfi4]

Very bad idea

[Anonymous]

Only if you get along really well.

[seeyounexttuesday]

yes, don't shit where you eat

[dudeinohio]

Absolutely

[Anonymous]

Yes get a sugar daddy or mommy