Is obsessively analyzing the opposite gender keeping you from dating?

[Anonymous]

Im not saying every person of that gender is the same, but i use information as stats to gauge popular thoughts of men. A lot of them have been total turn offs. I still find some men attractive, but i don't want to date them. Men are from Mars, and women are from Venus. Yeah, im seeing that now. Hearing a man's take on things is interesting and disturbing, but i want more details on stuff. It's like a drug.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but when you consider the alternative it's only prudent.

I'm pretty good at treating every woman i meet like a blank canvas. But as she talks and we spens time together it's impossible to not see tells (i say tells because i don't want to automatically say red flags).

What is more concerning to me is not what she says or does but rather the kind of energy she puts forth. It's like the old saying, "if she wanted to she would". A woman with low energy sends the message that she could really give a 💩 whether the date continues or whether you were an entirely different guy. Conversely a woman with high over-the-top energy sends the message that she's trying to sell you. So it's hard to find a woman with that sweet spot. But what i try to remind myself is at my age it really doesn't matter if i ever date another woman ever again. So i'm in no hurry, no timeline. And i don't really care if it doesn't work out. At this point i see all the complications that can arise from a relationship anways. It's kind of just easier to be single.😆

[Calyptomaniac]

Overanalysis is one way to say it but it often comes across as fear and paranoia. Everyone expects the worst. The genders have never really understood each other but now it seems like just a general negativity about the whole process, from both sides.

[jahaims]

Paralysis by analysis. It's a way to stop yourself from doing something you are scared of.

[Asker]

I'll accept it I've been hurt before and I'd rather be single than hurt again.

[DirtyOldMan777]

Yes it will.