Is self improvement for men a waste of time?

[Anonymous]

Women nowadays want perfect men.

If you’re fat and lazy then yeah there’s a lot to work on.

However, it gets to a stage where no matter what you do you can’t change your looks, your height, downstairs size, not everyone can make millions and build a name for themselves.

Self improvement is a waste of time, is it better just to accept failure? Men have been set up to fail in society.

Male self improvement is a waste of time

Male self improvement isn’t a waste of time

[Chazmatazz269]

Not necessarily. If you’re working on yourself for someone else’s sake, then ‘yes’ that is a waste of time and energy. If you like yourself, be yourself. If you don’t like yourself, be different.
Changing yourself for someone else will only result in resentment, which destroys everything it touches.
Look within for acceptance, not without.

[MrOracle]

Your self-improvement should be for YOU. Figure out where you want to be and work to get there for YOU. Who gives a crap what anyone else thinks?

We know that most women today have insane, unrealistic expectations. Maybe that means you won't find a relationship partner. Accept that and learn to be okay with it. (This doesn't mean you can't get sex from them if want - that's much easier to get).

Either way, do what's right for you and quit worrying about what other people think.

[Purpleronnie]

It’s telling that the question is about self-improvement, yet every paragraph in your description is about women. Apparently becoming a better version of yourself only counts if it comes with some sort of certificate of approval from a woman

Hate to point out the obvious but it’s self improvement

The title contains the word ‘self’ exactly once. The rest of the post seems determined to avoid the concept altogether.

[Anonymous]

Life is temporary. In that sense everything is a waste of time. But i'm pretty sure that's not what you meant. Not to mention you're probably young and idealistic enough to still be trying to accomplish something.

No, i don't think self improvement is a waste of time. But i DO think you should do it for yourself and no one else. Trying to impress ANY woman is folly. Women really do not follow any logical pattern. It's pointless to try to make good sense of them. If some woman happens to dig you, cool beans! It'll probably only be temporary anyways. Just keep being yourself and enjoy whatever happens while it happens. She'll probably lose interest. Women have an attention span of a goldfish.😆

[jshm2]

LOL, it's what makes you a man.

Why the hell do you think it matters what only a woman wants? What the fuck about you?

The point of self improvement is to make yourself and your situation better. The woman comes after. As what the hell is she going to add, if you're adding nothing?

[Jersey2]

Do what you want and yes, improve yourself… but for you. There is someone for everyone so just look and look in different places than you are now. Be yourself as that in itself is attractive as it shows self confidence. Don’t change if you don't want to because you can never keep up that charade.

[Nikki1989]

Self-improvement is worthwhile for both genders, and it should never stop at any age.

It sounds like you have already hit the brick wall. Sad.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

My god you whine so much. Work on that self improvement to quit it for all of our sakes. Thanks.

[JesseP1nk]

That is some incel level whining. Get your ass up, start working out, lose weights, go to the gym and get muscles. Learn profession which interest you, money comes along with it.

[captain_voidwalker]

The problem is giving the slightest shit what women think, you should be improving yourself for yourself not a woman.

[In_Trance]

You seem like a little bitch
Get your shit together

[Anonymous]

Go ahead and accept failure. More for the rest of us.

[Just_Ken]

Do it for yourself. Makes life worth living.