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Before answering, DON'T respond with the following:
- there is a lid on every pot
- it's not important that you haven't had a relationship yet
- relationships aren't everything
- it takes several rejections before you succeed
I am a 30+ straight guy and as long as I have lived I have never had a girlfriend. No holding hands, no kissing, nor anything else. I definitely want one. I must admit due to being busy with studies and my insecurities, I haven't done much attempts in the dating scene until I was 25. But ever since I got a job and a place of my own i still haven't managed it. I have tried dating apps like tinder, bumble, breeze, and maybe even others but never got a match. I have tried online dating websites and got two first dates during the pandemic and after that nothing. I have tried speed dating several times and only had one time a match with a woman who never responded to my email. Also tried single vacations which landed me some friends, but still no girlfriend.
Seriously am I doing something wrong? I feel like I get rejected way too often. I feel like there is something I am supposed to magically know somehow about dating women without it ever been tought to me.
What also frustrates me is that I've had several occasions where a woman suggested dating apps to me. Clearly for them it's an easy way to get a date, but not for me. Maybe I am wrong but I feel like dating apps are hurting my chances of dating women.
And what about in the real world? Where am I supposed to go to find women? And how to approach them in a natural way? A woman once told me about bumping my shopping cart "by accident" to someone as if that is a realistic way to connect with someone.
Also, I am not looking for the perfect woman here. Just someone who for once in my life makes me feel a little bit desired. Someone can make me feel loved (romantically) for the first time in my life. Again I am 30+ years old and NEVER experienced anything like that. Please keep that in mind!
- there is a lid on every pot
- it's not important that you haven't had a relationship yet
- relationships aren't everything
- it takes several rejections before you succeed
I am a 30+ straight guy and as long as I have lived I have never had a girlfriend. No holding hands, no kissing, nor anything else. I definitely want one. I must admit due to being busy with studies and my insecurities, I haven't done much attempts in the dating scene until I was 25. But ever since I got a job and a place of my own i still haven't managed it. I have tried dating apps like tinder, bumble, breeze, and maybe even others but never got a match. I have tried online dating websites and got two first dates during the pandemic and after that nothing. I have tried speed dating several times and only had one time a match with a woman who never responded to my email. Also tried single vacations which landed me some friends, but still no girlfriend.
Seriously am I doing something wrong? I feel like I get rejected way too often. I feel like there is something I am supposed to magically know somehow about dating women without it ever been tought to me.
What also frustrates me is that I've had several occasions where a woman suggested dating apps to me. Clearly for them it's an easy way to get a date, but not for me. Maybe I am wrong but I feel like dating apps are hurting my chances of dating women.
And what about in the real world? Where am I supposed to go to find women? And how to approach them in a natural way? A woman once told me about bumping my shopping cart "by accident" to someone as if that is a realistic way to connect with someone.
Also, I am not looking for the perfect woman here. Just someone who for once in my life makes me feel a little bit desired. Someone can make me feel loved (romantically) for the first time in my life. Again I am 30+ years old and NEVER experienced anything like that. Please keep that in mind!
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I will tell you something a lot of successful people do not know - If you do not show honour or genuine sympathy for others, you could spend 1000 years trying to get a good girl to date you and she will stay reject you. Without giving respect and sympathy or without giving honour and mercy, none of your credentials or good looks count or financial tokens and gifts toward her count. Money can buy a sex toy but you need respect and honour to buy a wife.
I am sorry, who do you think I am? That I am some misogynist? I didn't write in my post that I have a history of women breaking up with me because I am mean to them. I wrote about having no history with women. I know I wrote my post with a lot of frustration, but that's because I feel overly rejected.
If you begin your question by scolding the people you are asking for help, then already we see the reason women don't like you.
I have written my question with a lot of frustration, but not the intention to scold you or anyone else here. I tried finding other places to get answers and failed. When I see guys with similar posts, I often see the same unhelpful responses. I just wanted to help you by not wasting all our time with a response that is unhelpfull.