Is marriage worth the risk of divorce if you want a family?

[Anonymous]

Marriage is a financial agreement. No longer a covenant between god. As a guy you can do all the right things and it still not be enough. I just read a story of a woman leaving his husband at 45 because they became ‘friends.’

Society makes it seem like women are always right and could never do no wrong. Women encouraged to put themselves first and live life in their own terms. Independent women just up and leave, they can't deal with any hardship in a relationship. Me first.

What even is a wife anymore?

Life partner is the scariest make or break decision of your life.

To choose to get married or not is a horrible dilemma. Because if you don’t, how you gonna have a family? So you have to risk shooting yourself in the foot?

Marriage is scary

Marriage isn’t scary

A total of 9 votes were cast: 2 girls and 7 guys. See detailed results

[slatyb]

The risk of divorce? What is that exactly? If you want a woman to interrupt her career to raise the children, then she's entitled to half the marital property in case of divorce. You were working, she was maintaining the home and caring for your children.

Anyway, with your beliefs about women, you should definitely never marry.

[BonzoInBitburg]

It is worth it but you have to be careful with your money. Don't buy a house, car or anything where you are at risk of losing half after making all the payments. Rent or lease as much as you can. Put any savings and investments in an offshore trust so that it is inadmissible during divorce proceedings. You can have the best intentions but you never know if the other person will change

[LazerBean]

It is for high value men. Marriage was not meant for low value men, which is why they fail at so much higher rates. If you have kids outside of marriage, you are simply a negligent parent.

[Asker]

It’s a piece of paper a legal document

[LazerBean]

And children born to two parents without that piece of paper are at a huge disadvantage in life. Negligent.

[Anonymous]

I would not last very long with a guy who said something like, “could never do no wrong.”

[MerakSahibi]

In hyper-individualistic places like the US, how do people meet and find a compatible partner?

In traditional societies, values are generally shared, and you also build ties with your spouse's family.

I don't know if you have things like staying married for just 2 days and getting lifelong alimony, or a woman getting compensation even if she cheats, but we have them here

[Ariesman81Nshiiit]

I mean it's better for the kid, but most want to kill em anyway, so...

Just lie to them, knock em up and hope for the best. Maybe the kid survives, maybe it doesn't.

[Anonymous]

Under 25: yes

Over 25: provided you take your time and properly vet her, yes

Over 40: no. By this time she is too much of a financial liability. You are almost always losing on the deal at this point if you are a guy.

[moddy_the_mod]

of course, literally nothing is guaranteed other than the fact you will die.

[Anonymous]

It ain’t for you.