He called from a different number after I blocked him—should I worry? What should I do? I blocked the other number today?

[Anonymous]

I met this guy and gave him my phone number. He started texting me a lot and wanting to call me frequently. I've explained to him that my work schedule is exhausting. Sometimes I work 13–15 hours in one day, and I need time to recover afterward.

At my job, we're not allowed to bring our phones inside. If we do, we could get fired, so I can't always respond to his messages. After working long hours, I sometimes need three days of rest because my body feels weak and I'm extremely sleepy.

Even after explaining this to him, he continues texting me when I've told him I'm trying to rest. He also says things like, "I think you don't want to talk to me."

He told me that I need to reply faster because he waits for me to talk to him. I feel like he's expecting too much of my attention, especially considering how physically exhausting my job is.

Here's the part that really surprised me: I blocked him about a week ago, but today he randomly called me from a different phone number.

I'm wondering whether he's becoming overly attached, being clingy, or having trouble respecting my boundaries.

Am I overreacting, or does this behavior seem concerning? What would you make of this situation?

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We was friends not dating

[Anonymous]

It is concerning. Tell him very clearly that you’re not interested and don’t want to talk to him again and that you don’t want him contacting you anymore. But also, if that’s how your job is then you don’t have time to date. You need to be willing and able to give people more of your time and effort than you say you can so just stop dating completely for now. Telling them I work 15 hours and can’t talk, are to tired to talk afterwards and need to be left alone 3 days after each time you’ve worked will never work out. It’s unreasonable and unfair to the people you date.

[Asker]

Thanks it was a friendship I should have added that in

[Nikki1989]

Please report him and change your number. It will only get worse. Some men are unpredictable and can become dangerous. I have been through it.

[Stevepro68]

Yes very concerning you have set boundaries and this person continues to violate them with essential deception to avoid your protections. Fuck off creep should be the only thing this person hears from you. Or some variation. Immediately block anything he sends you. Make all your socials private or shut them down or both.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like he is definitely breaking some boundaries. However, make sure you aren't doing anything to instigate this behavior, like purposely walking infront of him to gauge his reaction or incessantly posting about him online.

[Asker]

I’m asking for advice because this has never happened before

[Asker]

If I want a guy to leave me alone he’s getting blocked why the hell would I walk by him?

[Opinion Owner]

You wouldn't, but it has happened before. Show him no attention.

[Asker]

We was friends like regular friendship I literally explained to him I’ll call him or text him after I rested because I do multiple shifts at work in one day that adds up to 15 hrs in one day. I told him sleeping is important for me I have to let my body rest.

[Opinion Owner]

If he cared about you, he would try and respect your need for sleep.

[Asker]

He doesn’t respect it that’s why
He’s blocked

[Screenwriter]

Something's off with this guy. He IS extremely demanding and doesn't respect your boundaries. Block him again and don't pick up any calls from numbers you don't recognize.

[EmmaMary]

Surely you could report him for continual harassment, or failing that you might have to consider changing your own number.

[Asker]

Thank you because I’m worried now

[EmmaMary]

You're most welcome... Good Luck. 🤞

[Interstate]

THIS GUY IS OBVIOUSLY CONTROLLING!!! Contact him and tell him if he contacts you again, you will be notifying the authorities.

[slatyb]

This behavior is extremely concerning. If possible, find a friendly lawyer to send him a cease and desist.

[FreyaRed]

Just ignore and block. At some point he will get tired of buying fresh SIM cards.

[msc545]

Block the other number. I think that's rather obvious.

[Asker]

I block it.

[Anonymous]

13 to 15 hrs? The f*** kind of job do you do?

[Asker]

Package handler

[Opinion Owner]

While i don't share the anonymous pinks take on this. 9 out of 10 times the guys is going to be harmless, but that 10th time is something you don't want. You have to understand guys are EXPECTED to be persistent. I don't make the rules. I don't even like the rules. If a woman said what you said to me not only would i have not called you from another number, i wouldn't have called you again at all. But i'm not the average guy either.
The fact that you blocked him i don't know what there is to debate here. You clearly were never really interested (based on your post to anonymous pink). So if he contacts you again be firm and tell him the truth. You're not interested, you were never interested. And that was the only thing you might have led him on about (that is the only thing you led him on about right?). But you weren't joking that you really do work a lot. Now he might get angry and call you a c*nt (arguably you earned that). But with any luck this will be the end of it.👍
Good luck!

[Asker]

We was friends not dating or anything

[Asker]

I’m not joking about doing multiple shifts

[Asker]

Yes I work a lot because I have loans and phone bill to pay off I don’t have money like that. Owe over 5,000.

[Asker]

We used to call be the one for about 20 mins-40 mins I’ll tell him I need to rest up for work again he’ll say I cut the call very short

[Asker]

Maybe people are blessed not to work a lot but I have to I wasn’t blessed with a rich family or successful life or career

[Asker]

You said might lead him on how? I never told this man I liked him or wanted anything from him?😂 13-15 hours all I asked him was let me rest and sleep I’ll call him soon whenever I feel better because the goal was to be a platonic friend. I have friends who work a lot and don’t feel well afterwards I’m not going to keep texting back to back. No I’m going to let them rest up.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm only going by your words which weren't many. You said to anonymous pink, "it was a friendship" which may be true. But you're not stupid. You know how a guy reads that. You might as well have said, "i liked him like a brother". As for all that other stuff you typed, it's irrelevant. I take you at your word when you say you work a lot. But you also have to understand (and i'm sure you do). That that is also the kind of thing MOST (keyword) women say to a guy when they're giving him the brush off. So i can why he took it the way he did.
But to the point, all this is irrelevantbif you're blocking him and trying to get away from him now.

[Asker]

So you saying it’s not very possible to be friends with the same gender? Yes I do work a lot I’m currently on my 3 day of resting will return tomorrow to do more shifts.

[Asker]

Yes it was a friendship if I view a guy as a friend he’s getting treated as a friend just like if I viewed a person has a saint they’re a saint in my eyes etc

[Asker]

I’m literally 21 I barely date or try to get into relationships. I’m more interested in friendships. I literally spend my days at work.

[Opinion Owner]

Of course men and women can be friends.🤦‍♂️ You kids today.😆 But you need to get it through your head that most of your gender DO NOT operate like that. To most females, "friends" means i want boy friend effort from the guy without paying a boyfriend price. Because she really has no interest in him. But she still enjoys his adulation.

[Asker]

I meant a guy friend is a guy who talk and spend with me just like a friend girl that’s what I meant

[Opinion Owner]

I new what you meant. Do get what meant? I'm saying most of your sisterhood does not operate that way. Because it's doesn't seem like you're getting that. You need to understand that if a guy doesn't know you he's going to lump you in with all the other women. And if they all wildin then it makes sense that you are to.

[Asker]

I’m not Wildin by the way I barely go outside unless it’s time to work

[Opinion Owner]

you're a woman, you guilty by association. Do you get that? It's like if a woman dated 10 guys and all 10 guys cheated on her. Then in her mind all men cheat. Get it? It doesn't have to be right.

[Opinion Owner]

You can be a good, even boring girl. You're still going to get judged by how your avg. woman acts.

[Asker]

Okay

[Opinion Owner]

Sorry i wish that weren't true.

[Asker]

It’s okay

[Iron_Man]

Talk to your friend I don’t like blocking

[Asker]

He doesn’t listen

[Asker]

I literally explained to him I’ll call him or text him after I rested because I do multiple shifts at work in one day that adds up to 15 hrs in one day. I told him sleeping is important for me I have to let my body rest.

[Iron_Man]

Work it out he’s your friend

[Iron_Man]

Well, did you call him after you slept (

[Asker]

He doesn’t listen and now the blue anonymous guy thinks I’m the one in the wrong

[Asker]

Yes if I get off the phone with him he complains the call is very short when I’ll be the phone with for 20-40 mins

[Iron_Man]

I believe that guy likes you more than just a friend

[Asker]

Yikes

[Iron_Man]

It sounds like a case of that I think so

[Anonymous]

Set your phone for whitelist calls only.

[Danny_dan92]

Yes, move on