Do I need to block his number? Or is there a better way to deal with this?

[luciaa]

I've had a year long weird connection with a guy- who at first we were fwb, now nothing but very infrequent texts and the sometimes phone call or run in. The problem is, whenever he does text or call, even if it's not for a month, it screws up my head. I begin obsessing over his ever word, and usually make a fool of myself by falling all over my words and making it painfully obvious that I miss the benefits. ( I know horrible) Each time I say I will be stronger, but each time I screw it up.

Anyway, I am finally done with this humiliation, and understand that I have to stop this pattern.

So, should I block his number, avoid him at all costs and just try to forget him? Or do you think I should just continue my life as is, not contact him, and just learn how to better deal with the run ins with him? I must admit that I still want him in my life, but I just don't know what I can truly handle.

Block and avoid

Don't block but handle this better

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+1 y

did block and it helped me level out my head. I have unblocked now, because I believe I can maturely change my behavior to him and be smart.

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+1 y

PROGRESS! Shortly after I unblocked it, he called me a few times. I actually didn't even respond, so flippin' proud of myself! His last phone call he sounded p*ssy and asked me why I didn' t to be friends anymore! LOL!

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+1 y

I texted him that I would call him later, but plan on waiting about a week or so. Hopefully, I can maintain my pride and stay mature about this, wish me luck!

[Anonymous]

hey i just found this post and this is exactly my situation. me and this guy for 6 months were this weird on and off thing that wasn't exactly a friends with benefits since emotions were involved but was confusing. he did the same thing to me that your guy did to you would pop out of no where and mess me up when i was doing fine then dissapear again for 3-4 weeks before apologizing and doing it all over again. i just found this post while seeing if i should finally just block him since he recentlt did it all over again and k just broke down. and this post i 100% related to which led me to the decision of blocking him and i feel so much better. people will use you when they want to but its up to us to put a stop to it and to put them in their place.

[kiki_bu11]

I've been in a similar situation. My advice is to block his number and try to forget about him. It won't be easy at first, but since he's not a frequent part of your life, severing all contact will force you to move on. With time you'll discover someone new and he'll become part of your past.

[Anonymous]

Sounds he's not really a friends with benefits if you have an emotional connection with him. If its just friends with benefits you would be acting or feeling the way you do. If you can't keep the relationship as is then avoid and move on ...if you can keep him out of your head

[luciaa]

Nope, just a friend with benefits that lost the benefits and since losing the benefits has messed with my self worth and confidence. So, because he sometimes calls or texts or whatever it is a constantly confusing, exciting let down. I think I will just run from it, because I am unable to win at this. I just continue to be embarrassed.

[Jbrow850028]

I would suggest leave him alone completely unless he shows you any kind of changed behavior where he doesn’t want you for sex but genuinely to have an authentic friendship