Boyfriend asked for a random girls number/gave his number out to a random girl and I’m 3 months pregnant?

[Angels12345]

Hey guys. So I will try and make this story short but basically I am 3 months pregnant and engaged to my partner. Basically, I was staying at my sisters house for 3 nights this past week, and one night I saw my fiancé active online at 3am in the morning. Based on my own insecurities, I had a gut feeling something wasn’t right. So, when I returned home I snooped on his fone and saw that there was a girl called Sandra blocked on there, and they were also saved as a contact on his fone. Anyway, I confronted him about it, and he first told me she was a business client. (However, I had already messaged her before that asking how she knew my husband), she replied but my fiancé quickly deleted the message!! Soooo I said to him you have once chance to tell me now the truth, who is she. And he was like well there were two drunk girls on the train, and one of them asked for my number so I gave it to her as I didn’t want to look like a pussy. I was like what do you mean? And he was like she was drunk, I didn’t think she would understand... so I’m like yeah that’s fucked up. Anyway, I wanted clarification of the story so I messaged her again, she told me that my fiancé has followed her onto the train and asked for her number and name and that she wasn’t with anyone else, she was alone and sober!! I love him so much but I don’t think I can ever trust him again. I need some advise please.

[kidvid80]

doesn't sound like he is an invested as you are and now you are pregnant, oh geez. just from what you are describing this is a bad situation, he lies and sneaks around hiding stuff? not sure if the pregnancy was planned or not but even if you leave him, you're tied to him for the rest of your life. i mean at best you can try therapy but that trust is so severed. i would cut my losses and move on just worry about my baby on the way, but thats me. only you know what you are willing to tolerate but you sure deserve better then this. a baby on the way should be even more so a bonding experience. he just sounds very selfish, hence the manipulation he has probably already tried on you of i can't live without you! or saying it was a mistake etc. if he cared he would have never did any of those things.

[es20490446e]

I'm sorry to tell you this, but you are in the zone of maximum danger.

Highly likely that you chose the wrong partner to be with.

This is something I look into early on, if the person is honest in everything else. If they aren't you can expect them to also cheat, cause that's the nature of a liar: opportunistic.

For instance see that he's also taking advantage from the fact that you are now pregnant, to cheat more shamelessly.

If I was 100% sure he was lying to me, like when you called that miss and told you she was sober (and her tone of voice sounded quite convincing, like indignant or surprised), I would cut my loses immediately.

It's not a pleasant decision, but it's the least bad one. If breaking up when being pregnant sounds bad, imagine being with this guy many years down the road with children and he cheating on you.

Tell him, from my part, that he is a stupid cunt and a horrible human.

[es20490446e]

You as an honest person deserve the bare minimum: a partner that you can rely on.

[RHK36]

He doesn't love you if he's lying and treating you like that.

[SofiSin667]

He's lying. If that were the case, he wouldn't have deleted her response. I hope you know this isn't the first girl he talked to, this is just the only one you found out about. My dad tells me that... if you look, you'll always find something.

[Angels12345]

Exactly. I know he’s lying. But how can he claim to love me and be lost without me and do this. Just baffles me!

[PeterCharie1991]

Women can't even trust your men alone for 3 days nowadays, fuck him off Angel

[Zygum]

What love? Do not bluff yourself, he is not yours, as you are pregnant, he want new taste 😀😄

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he's not that committed to you

[Angels12345]

Exactly! But he is saying he is and it was a stupid mistake and he’s so sorry and it will never happen again. But I just can’t trust him as it wouldn’t of happened in the first place..

[Anonymous]

Need to dump him yes it hard but you need to do it

[AFellowWeeb]

Dating fuckboys be like

[DeltaCharlieEcho]

You’re an idiot. It is your fault.

[es20490446e]

Probably she's responsible in some way, but it doesn't mean she was aware of what she was doing.

I find your attitude quite beachy.

[DeltaCharlieEcho]

@es20490446e your opinion could not mean less to me

[es20490446e]

Sure it doesn't 😏

[slatyb]

Put off the wedding.

[COMMODOREII]

What an ass!! 😡