Why do people obsess over finding love?

[Anonymous]

The quality of your life won't get dramatically better by just finding love. There are plenty of married people in love with their spouses who work 7 days a week and can't afford to feed their families. People who can't afford a vacation or take a day off when they need it. You will still be troubled with problems. Stop thinking finding love is the end all, be all.

[Anonymous]

Because it's what they're indoctrinated to do to keep the Epsteinians in a fresh supply of potential victims

[Danny_dan92]

Because they don’t want to be alone

[Anonymous]

I think finding someone you are going to spend the rest of your life with and potentially children is important. It mignt be the biggest factor in your life. Choosing someone who unconditionally loves you versus a physical abuser will yield extremely different results.

[Asker]

Yea but it won't mean you won't be absolutely exhausted raising those kids, an exhaustion that makes you look 10 years older and you haven't had a decent night of sleep in years. Plus imagine the enormous financial burden of raising kids in today's expensive cost of living. Things are so expensive you can't afford to take a day off work

[Asker]

What I mean to say is... pain doesn't automatically go away once you find love

[Opinion Owner]

Pain will be a constant in life. Why you are enduring it does.

[Opinion Owner]

*is a variable

[Asker]

Life isn't constant pain. Having enough money fixes a lot of the pain. But finding love really won't. I known so many married couples who are suffering enormously

[Opinion Owner]

I didn't mean that. I meant there will always be something in your life causing trouble. More money would not fix any issues in my life currently. If anything, it would make it worse.

[Asker]

Money means being able t0 raise children comfortably, it means being able to retire early, work less, bigger aavings, being able to afford Healthcare. Marriage won't solve these problems

Most of life's problems are due to financial problems. Being unable to get what you need is 90% a Money issue

[Nikki1989]

"The quality of your life won't get dramatically better by just finding love."

No, it actually does.

[Asker]

That's only if you don't have financial problems or any other issues. I have seen plenty of married people that suffer. My parents included. They were miserable raising us due to financial stress

[MrChinaski]

It is the end all, for me. The love I bring into the world is the purpose of my being here. Otherwise I'm just an improbable collection of atoms slouching around for a few years before decaying to a more probably arrangement.

[MrChinaski]

What ELSE is there?

[Anonymous]

Just because men don't find you attractive and don't want to be with u don't try to pin your poor experience or lack there of on everyone else. Look I'm the mirror

[Asker]

You sound extremely bitter and jaded. Get therapy

[Opinion Owner]

@asker you sound extremely bitter and mentally challenged. You just described yourself.

[Asker]

that's because i know what you've said about me is not true at all. I have been pursued by men. And the fact you would immediately assume such a thing shows a lot about you

[Opinion Owner]

@asker what I said is true you're unattractive and mentally challenged. That's why no one wants to be around you

[Asker]

@opinion owner

maybe that's you? cuz nothing you're saying is true right now

[Opinion Owner]

@asker nope it's you take your meds , get some plastic surgery, and a psyc eval

[Hellraiser1984]

Some people never get to experience love from anyone.

[Asker]

That's not true for most people

[Hellraiser1984]

I'm one of those people. I could die tonight and no one would come to my funeral.

[Smileygirl2000]

@asker how are you saying it's not true yet you're one of them? Lol.. that's why you're so pessimistic

[Asker]

@Smileygirl2000

Because I have seen plenty of married people that suffer. You haven't cus you have no life experience. My parents were miserable raising me due to financial problems. My coworker who is married is so exhausted and can't even take a day off work. People ruin her house which she rents out. She also has problems paying for Healthcare.

[Smileygirl2000]

@asker again that's your problem. You're judging an entire group of people over your issues, your insecurities, your poor life experiences and your mental issues.

[Asker]

@Smileygirl2000

but my experience watching other married people SHOWS they're miserable.

my experience matters.

it has nothing to do with my insecurities.

my parents were miserable raising me and my brother due to financial difficulties.

so are many of my coworkers that are married, a lot of them face a lot of financial problems

[Asker]

@Smileygirl2000

I don't know why you have such a huge problem with me pointing out that marriage doesn't solve all problems.

I actually knew a married guy who worked 7 days a week, working 2 jobs, with no day off for years because he had to support his family.

My own mother worked 7 days a week for 15 years before she retired, no day off, she couldn't afford one. She was always exhausted.

[Smileygirl2000]

@asker again that's your problem. And your messed up life and environment. Those things are no reflection on everyone else you're projecting these are again your issues

[Smileygirl2000]

@Asked again that's YOUR PROBLEM. STOP BLAMING YOUR SCREWED UP LIFE AND ENVIRONMENT ON EVERYONE ELSE. THIS IS A "YOU" ISSUE!! Work in yourself

[Asker]

@Smileygirl2000

you sound mentally ill, girl. I have no idea why this offends you so much. Get therapy

[Smileygirl2000]

@Asked yet you're the one with a fuckdd up life and environment lol 😆

[Asker]

@Smileygirl2000

throwing a temper tantrum and making false random accusations because you don't like someone's question, doesn't make yourself or anything you've said valid.

[Hellraiser1984]

That's why I don't want to get married. I've seen too many bad marriages. My parents marriage is a lie my sisters marriage is crap. My grandparents marriage destroyed people's lives. Their families hate each other and I'm not good enough for either of them. I basically don't exist to anyone because of my grandparents marriage.

[Asker]

@hellraiser1984

marriage isn't a definite bad. Some marriages are good. It's good to have someone by your side to have fun with, laugh with, do things with. But at the same time, it reallly won't mean life's suffering and pain will be gone once you get married. I think it's important to stop idealizing marriage as the way to a perfect life.

[Smileygirl2000]

@asker your mental health issues aren't my problem

[Asker]

@Smileygirl2000

says the one with mental issues.

[Smileygirl2000]

@asker says the girl with the trauma dumping post, no life, no friends, not pretty and a poor upbringing. Not my problem

[Pterodon]

Maybe not but it is a more rewarding life if with a partner

[Asker]

no such thing as a rewarding life if you can't even afford to rest or take a day off cuz raising kids is so expensive nowadays. I known many people who work 7 days a week for years to support their families.

[Pterodon]

So what’s your point? Kids have always been expensive so I don’t want to hear it. Plus you get tax breaks

[Asker]

@pterodon

it's significantly more expensive to raise kids in 2026 than in 1956. back then, kids used to be affordable. that's why you see our birth rates fall so low- cuz people just can't afford to have kids.

most people can't even afford to pay 2000 dollar rent.

[Pterodon]

The only falling birth rate are whites. If it was so expensive no one could afford it but you know who does? Latinos, it’s partly because most are Catholic whose church is strongly against birth control of any kind. You can say what you want about the Latino community but I’ve noticed as a group they have strong faith, family is everything to them and they are hard workers. They afford extra kids no matter what. I think we whites have gotten lazy. If the Latino community can afford all the kids they have then so can you

[Asker]

@pterodon

it's black, hispanics, jews, muslims. why? because these people are often uneducated and are under poverty. guess what extreme poverty qualifies them for? food stamps! child tax credits! free money for food from the government every month provided by the hard working educated tax payers.

with every additional child you give birth to, you get an additional sum per month. so if you have 10 kids, you can be very rich in food stamps.

the truth is.. the hard working middle class supports the poverty class's children. and it is only those under poverty who have the incentive to have more kids

[Anonymous]

It really helps

[Asker]

Doesn't mean you won't suffer after marriage

[Opinion Owner]

Or maybe you won’t

[Asker]

yea sure get married , pop out 3 kids and come back tell me how you feel

[Opinion Owner]

Ok! Only want one kid though

[Asker]

kids are super expensive. that's why people are so miserable as married couples today

[TonyMetal___1986]

Finding real love will be a miracle to me

[FrodoVader007]

We are social creatures. Being alone is scary.