What would a women think if I guy was 24, going on 25, and he'd never been kissed? In fact he's never been on his first real date.
This is mostly just bad luck. He's extremely shy and hasn't really found anyone to date His attempts have come up leaving him more hurt than anything else. He's had to "relationships" but online only. The first when he was 14 but it ended with her calling it off (right on or around the 6 month anniversary) claiming it was the distance. (Later he comes to find out it was so she could get back together with her pyscho ex (her words not his) who brought a knife to school. Weirdly enough he's still friends with her even today. His second was seven years later with a woman who turned out to be a pyscho herself. She completely lied to him about everything. Who she was, how old, having children, being married, her personal life, etc. He didn't even know her real name.
Now he's low on self esteem, self confidence, and self worth. But he hasn't given up and still hopes to find someone to be with, someone to make happy, and someone who makes him happy.
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I've never been kissed and I just wanna get drunk and make the f*** out with someone, but I'm the type of person that people must see rite thru, sometimes. I act like they don t know what theyre talkn about (unconvincingly) but I feel all my insecurities must be written out on my forehead. I wish I was a hot ass when I was younger but just didn't know how (or was to shy to be, or to prideful). Everybody I know started f***n at a young age. I mean if I was young and sexually experimenting, I might be seen as fast, but when ur 20 an inexperience people read insecure, awkward, weird and though I kno that people pick up on the emotions one exudes, its hard to hide what you feel especially when you kno that they suspect it. I don't kno, you have 2 be in the position to have total empathy (like in most situations). I think it (never being kissed) way worse than being a virgin at an older age (which I'm also am, obviously). I mean kissing is basic and if you haven't kissed anyone it just means ur a weirdo who is shy and socially awkward. I wish that, at the least, when I was younger I would have succumbed to some peer pressures because that's all apart of growing up. But when I was younger I kept pushing it off because I thought my relationship (with the opposite sex) would naturally come to me w/o any "effort" on my part (delusional). I figure that confidence just appears like "a poof". I'm not sayn all the hoes there are and/or the sexually experience (including those who experienced the basic of kissing) just the highest self esteem but probably doesn't turn this social norms into a HUGE obstacle to hurdle over. Now when I'm older, every time I reflect on it, I feel I should of started then not now (well technically I haven't even started up to now). A lot of people will "say" its good to be a virgin/ /never been kissed, because they assume that ur wise and saving yourself for someone special (well on a forum like this anyway) but. Its complicated but my advise (and I will like to live up to this some day in the near future) is:
A) Don't tell the person you finally do kiss that you haven't before (even if you turn out be a bad kisser at first at least its less embarrassing than them knowing that you don't know how at all because ur inexperience);
B) That person should a)a dummy someone that you wouldn't encounter on the regular and doesn't know people you know OR some one you can trust (even though the 1st mentioned seems a lot easier to come by);
and C) Get practice in.
The most important thing that you need is to muster courage and don't let your insecurities hinder you (and trust me I kno this is easier said than done)
This might sound like a bunch of rambling but take heed to it and pick out what applies or give these things some consideration.
P.S. Just seen the movie Never Been Kissed (for the umpteenth time) and that makes me feel like I'm not so alone.0