Questions: Dating

I’ve been emotionally committed to a guy for almost 3 years, I don’t think he ever emotionally committed to me though. We went on a 4 dates when we first met & never slept together. He’s stayed in touch with me on FaceTime through a deployment & him moving across the country. Emotionally were closer than ever, we talk for hours multiple days a week, but he recently told me he doesn’t want a LDR so I told him I’d move & he didn’t say anything about it. I know he’ll continue to call & share with me like I’m his girlfriend, but he isn’t moving this forward or willing to try.

I really love him so I don’t want to cut him out, but I don’t see another option except saying “Unless you’re ready to commit or give me real space in your life, please don’t call me”.

I’m looking for a man’s perspective, please give me advice or say what you think I should do.

31F and anytime there is a shift in the consistency of communication, I assume they’re not interested. That’ll mean either I’ll make sure it’s a slow fade or just stop replying since it’ll be inevitable at one point. This person was one of the first in a while to talk about gaming on a similar level, not sure why the lack of replies? The conversation wasn’t going on long in the first place but the similar interest seemed slightly promising. I get it hasn’t been a full day yet but the change in response time doesn’t give a good feeling. I might sound neurotic but it’s a gut feeling, I’m not going to beat a dead horse. What went wrong? I’m purple and he’s grey, considering he’s 40M, I’d expect more maturity but clearly not always the case.

Link to messages: https://imgur.com/a/ZBB5CGF

I am on the heavy side right now, but making a lot of effort in changing that. So far down 14lbs in less than a week. Got a long way to go before I hit 118 though. Maybe by next summer I will be there.

Should I wait a whole year and some months to date?

The guys that I want don't seem to go for girls like me. But I have been with a guy who liked me despite my size. But I know that he's the exception. Most guys wouldn't go for someone extremely overweight or rather obese. And rightfully so. I wouldn't want to date me if I was a guy.

I'm disgusting.