Polls: Dating

Most dating apps are getting very expensive yet they are struggling to provide their users with access to a variety of desirable people.

Right now I've got 1000 likes on Hinge that I can't even see because I'm not willing to shell out $80+ for a stupid dating app. So instead of lowering their prices or even giving out trials once someone say, hits a certain number of likes, these apps just populate their system with bots to make it seem like there are more active users than there really are.

This is because a lot of them are so restrictive on free features that most users CAN'T be very active at all without paying basically for another cellphone line per month.

I know there has to be at least one person I'd really be into in all those likes but I can't see them, which is how they coerce you to shell out your money. At the same time, all the people who sit there and like other users' profiles and never get a response will become more insecure and disillusioned and will give up on the app as well. I think the high restrictions artificially cause people to think they are completely unwanted when it's not true.

I think this is why Tinder, despite being one of the trashiest apps, is one of the most successful. You aren't super restricted if you don't pay but you do get bonus perks if you choose to pay.

Referring to Kyle

Six months ago, my ex-boyfriend cheated me with other woman. I was desperate to move on and went to dating site and met a Greek man who immediately flew to see me.

When we were still talking online, everything goes well! However, when we met in person, I realised he cannot control his anger when he cannot get his way, which makes me scared.

After a few months passed, I still had feelings for my ex-boyfriend and did reach out to him but I got more frustrated when I learned that he was getting married to the other woman.

I was depressed because of my ex but Kyle is still beside me. I lost my job but Kyle never leaves me. He wanted to meet me again this Christmas, but I'm confused with my feelings

Unexpectedly, I met a German man named Mario who only spent a vacation in my City. He is very kind and respectful. We spent time together and we were laughing and having so much fun. I started to like him, and he admits he does too. We kissed, but we never had sex since I told him, "Not yet!." He does not get mad if things don't go his way, which I really admire about him.

After a few days together, I was shocked that I was able to moved on from my ex-boyfriend because of Mario. I am complete again; however, when he leaves, I become broken again. I missed him and I was shocked Mario blocked me. He said he hasn't moved on yet from his ex, but he really likes me a lot. He may come back. I think he needs space. I missed him and wonder if he comes back.

My question here is: Should I break up with Kyle? If so, I am afraid no one will take me seriously. And Mario won't come back.

I am already 28. I am afraid I will never get married. Or should I fight for Kostas?

I realize now that most of the people I know who dated or married, based their choices on economic factors and not social or moral value or visual attractiveness.

Do you know your love language? Mine are definitely physical touch and quality time.

If you're in this demographic, please share.

I'm curious. It just doesn't feel the same. I'm Dominican but going out on a date with a white guy for the first time. I like learning about new cultures but it almost just feels awkward to about it. Please break it down for me. I don't know if I'm overthinking it.