This guy I went on dates with told me I don’t give him any challenges. Do I cut him off?

[Anonymous]

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do I cut him off?

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These comments are giving me life 😂

[nawtee_me]

It is funny how the female responses make it about the male ego. Why does their mind go there first?
My thought was to challenge him to cook for you or challenge him to cook with you so the two of you could have a meal together. During the meal challenge him to talk about his feelings, his goals in life.

[Guy13]

When a guy says this what he means is establish your expectations so that I can achieve them and feel needed. He is begging for Relationship, however, if not needed then the best possible outcome is friends with benefits.

[Asker]

Begging for relationship?

[Guy13]

If you set guidelines he will follow. It is on you now. He is insecure.

[Asker]

I semi agree.

[Guy13]

Alright, good luck with it !!

[Asker]

Side note, we actually stopped talking once before and he came back. He always seems to want me in his life..

[midnightmoon05]

Because you are not a challenge… you let him do whatever he wants.

[CubsterShura]

Yes. I hate it when men have to make everything about themselves "oooo a smart woman, I like the challenge of outsmarting her so that I can feel superior at the end of the day". Ew.

[DaveToo]

As for how you put it, I totally agree. Dating is not a competition, but rather, an investigation to see if you are emotionally, not so much academically but rather, intellectually compatible. My wife was far superior, intellectually than me, but it was a challenge for me to become stronger intellectually. We were married with two wonderful children, one has a Ph. D., the other a master's degree, in totally different fields. They got those smarts from Mom, certainly not me!

[CubsterShura]

@DaveToo there are people who do appreciate substance as a motivation to improve themselves and hold themselves to a higher standard, but there are lots of men who just want to prove their own superiority to themselves and use women as simply a tool for that. They actually don't care about intelligence and when a woman actually shows them signs of being smart they feel threatened, intimidated and resort to negging and other forms of manipulation to make her feel bad about herself. If you as a woman actually see through their bullshit and call them out they will make you feel like you are out of your mind.

I've unfortunately been there in a relationship with a man who I now understand was only caring about "outsmarting" me.

I don't want to be with a man who thinks of me as competition and not a teammate.

[Sarahplus2]

no offense to you but did you have sex on the first date?

[Asker]

Didn’t even kiss.

[AviatorTom]

No, give him some challenges... that's what he wants.

[blueonblack22]

Whoa that was blunt (and insulting). What an idiot.

Most of the time women are a pain in the ass and completely overdo the “challenge”. Only a small minority of them are too nice on dates in my experiences.

I will painfully admit that yes it is a minor turnoff if a girl is too nice. But I will take that any day over the opposite which is much more common nowadays.

That guy could have handled that better. Or he could have said he wasn’t interested without insulting you like that. What a moron. Now you will probably go too far in the other direction on future dates.

[Zbrody1997]

If he doesn’t challenge you either bring that up and if you feel it’s right to do so tell ‘em to fuck off, or make it a point for you two to spend some time apart working on yourselves trying new things then come back together and see how you two grew a relationship is about growth.. so grow

[midnightmoon05]

A snake enjoys his mouse more if he had to catch it live.
A dead mouse doesn’t move.. snake can enjoy but also go after other mice for fun.
When other mice can entertain him and keep him challenged…he will no longer come back to the dead mouse.
the way the animal world works…including dating.

[Phoenix98]

Did you ask him what kind of challenge?

Also being challenged now and then is good it’s stimulating, makes your mind work.

Wether it’s conquering something, solving a problem or even just having a intellectually stimulating conversation. Even something as simple as playing video games or mastering a new recipe can be stimulating and challenging.

So it really may turn out not be as deep or annoying as you may think.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

Give him a Rubik's cube
Is he asking you to give chalenges or like his telling you not to give challenges

[Asker]

😂😂😂

[UniquelyBasic]

I'm guessing, he means he can't have an intellectual enough conversation with you. I think at this point it's best to move on as he doesn't think highly of you.

[Kinkyhubby]

What kind of challenge is he looking for? Maybe next time bring a deck of cards, and play what or goldfish. People today are so crewed up. Then in years from now he will be like why didn't i try harder with the nonchalance girl.

[noohair]

So you went on a date with a moron. I would never say things like that, even if I believed those things.

[Asker]

I know right. Even if you’re thinking it😅

[Datboi65]

What sort of idiot wants someone to complicate their life? Yeah, cut him off.

[Moose304]

What kind of stupid imbecile makes such an asinine statement on a date? You need to run as hard as you can from this arrogant prick!

[blondegrrl]

That's weird he would say that. Just stop responding and find someone better, he will regret it

[FunkyMonkee]

Challenge him to a tit-growing contest! Give him a 12 year head start!

[FunkyMonkee]

If you're boring to him,, why is he still interested in seeing you?

[TaureanBull81]

The facts are that dating is always a competition for women. They compete with one another to get that high value man. A man's head is in the sand if he thinks otherwise.

Wake up fellas! This is all attention seeking!

[PinkRose24]

Is that why your wife left you?

[TaureanBull81]

Oooooooh @PinkRose24. You don't like men who challenge your gender.

[PinkRose24]

I'm asking is this the reason why your wife left you... for a "high value man"?

[TaureanBull81]

Haha my apologies PinkRose. I misread your comment 🤣

[TaureanBull81]

Ahhhhh no. I've never been married but have had some married women approach me in the past for some fun.

[RingOfFire]

Kick him somewhere and ask him if that is enough of a challenge. 😁

[CarrieNC]

What does that even mean? You should have probed into the meaning of that statement.

[Anonymous]

No. Everytime he asks you out somewhere tell him he has to sole a riddle you give him first. 😆

[Dargil]

Not yet. Ask him to explain and tell you what he wants.

[MiamiMadness]

Break his legs. He’ll be challenged for a while

[LiamJHayden]

I wonder if he meant it in a good way, as in "You don't give me sh*t tests like other girls have."

[NachtjaegerSS]

You won't, because you are already a slave to his doggy staff.

[Asker]

How?

[Anonymous]

Yeah, better lose him. Plenty of unworthy girls are out there giving challenges for guys like him (and excessively not only). Don't be one of them.

[Dav1dTh0ma3]

I would. I mean, he's basically saying "you're too easy"

[Becky316]

He basically just said that you're easy. I'd drop him

[EzioAuditore027]

Hmm, he actually said that he dropped her

[AydenHazor]

What kind of challenge is he looking for? I'm not exactly looking for a challenge as I'm dating

[Gloree]

guys say this and when you start giving them issues they can't stand it.

[Anonymous]

Why would you do that? Give him a challenge instead

[Paul09]

I'm not even sure what he means by that? Like challenge in a game?

[Anonymous]

What was the context in which the conversation took place?

[EzioAuditore027]

I think he is losing interest in you. He'll leave you very soon.

[es20490446e]

Maybe he prefers a hard ass beach.

[LegendaryDater]

Challenges? Sounds like he enjoys games.

[TallAnon]

If you gotta ask; yes

[In_Trance]

do whatever you wanna do

[Hallix26]

You want to cut him off over a single critique?

[Anonymous]

Is he saying you're easy in bed?

[Anonymous]

all men are gigolos

[Blacksnake285]

What does that even mean 😭

[EbeneezerGoode]

Elaborate.

[kareka]

What does it mean?
He easily got u?

[Iron_Man]

No you don’t

[AshleySeeks]

Do you like him?