I prefer working mainly with women, but I feel as though most people prefer working with men.
Do you prefer working with men or women?
Men.
Before you come at me, let me tell you a little story. It's not little but it's very accurate to how too many women act in the workplace. So here it goes:I work in Security with mostly men. At one point, we had a new girl. I told her how I wished there were more women because I can relate better with women. She told me she does not like working with women because there is too much cattiness and drama. At the time, I thought it was a weird thing to feel about your own gender. She does not work there, anymore. But there is this one girl who was recently promoted and became Corporal. Let's call her Dalia. We used to be friends. But every so often, she would give me fake friend/mean girl vibes. For example, she asked me if I was in a relationship. I said no and told her I do not date much. She acted like it was the strangest thing she has ever heard of. I asked her if it was weird and she point blank said, "Yeah." I just brushed it off. Then later, there two other male coworkers and us in the room. The topic of "Desparate Housewives" came up and she said, "Abby doesn't even have a boyfriend." And after a long, awkward pause, she said, "Abby doesn't date. She doesn't like boys." She would do things like this prior to becoming Corporal. And when she became Corporal, I switched from Swing shift to Day shift (upon request) and she switched from Grave shift to Day shift so we were working together. Things were fine at first. But eventually, Dalia started side-eyeing me, sighing at me and micromanaging everything I did. I used to be a Dispatcher (and so was she) but she could not stand me being in Dispatch. I went to relieve an officer from Dispatch for his break. Another officer who knew Dispatch was in there but he was supposed to be the report writer. Dalia came bursting into the office and saw both of us in there. She accused me of loitering and congregating in Dispatch and kicked me out of the office. I tried to explain I was relieving the Dispatcher for his break. She said it did not matter because the other officer was in there and I needed to leave. And if I didn't, she would call the Sergeant, let's call him Derrick. So I left. The next day, prior to shift, the Lieutenant, I'll call her Marina, briefed about insubordination and the way she was describing the incident, I knew she was talking about me. I made an official complaint towards Dalia because I knew it was the only way Marina would hear me out. Marina had Dalia and I do some sit down to squash the issue with Derrick and Marina supervising the conversation. It was really just Dalia controlling the conversation and cutting me off the entire time. She even cut me off when I was trying to apologize. Eventually, Derrick told Dalia to let me finish my thoughts. But I left promising to follow her orders, Dalia left without promising anything. It was okay for two weeks. Then I was Dispatching during this power outage. There were injuries maintained so I took notes and relayed the message to the EMT's. During all of the craziness, I got a call from Dalia telling me to have the other Dispatcher handle all of the radio traffic because no one can understand me. Let it be noted, I have 2 voice disorders: Spasmodic Dysphonia and Muscle Tension Dysphonia and talking can be difficult, especially when stressed. Everytime I get a serious call, I have to take a deep breath, remind myself to breathe and speak. I was actually proud of how it came out but she told me no one could understand me. I said, "Okay," and hung up. I had the other Dispatchers handle the radio traffic and just controlled the office work. Afterwards, I asked multiple people if they could understand me. All of them said, "Yes." So I knew she was just using my voice disorders to keep me out of Dispatch. But a few weeks later, I was called into Marina's office. The first words out of her mouth were, "You are not being terminated but you will be disciplined." I was thinking to myself, "What the hell did I do?" She brought up how we have talked about insubordination and used the incident during the power outage as an indication of my insubordination. I explained the incident to her and how I was pretty upset because I felt like Dalia was weaponizing my voice disorders against me. I told Marina how I said, "Okay," and hung up. But I complied. So I asked her, "So where was the part where I was insubordinate?" She said, "Well, you hung up." Then to kick me when I was down, she said, "The reason we are not having you in Dispatch, anymore, is because we feel you are not ready to Dispatch on your own. You get too overwhelmed, you forget about people's breaks and a lot of people complain about you." Look, I was the sole Dispatcher on Swing shift for 8 months. I Dispatched 4 out of 5 of the concerts alone. One of them ended with a physical altercation, an ambulance call and two people placed into custody with MSO within the course of an hour. I handled it all alone along with other details. Funnily enough, that one girl was the Graves Dispatcher and when she relieved me she said, "You didn't notate anything for the Counterfeit?" I remembered every detail of it without even writing it down. But I had other priorities so I put that on the back burner. One of the EMT's stood up for me and said, "Well, she did just handle an entire concert on her own..." Dalia had been doing overtime on Swings and she said, "Well, I was here! If she needed help, she could have just called me! But no, she doesn't ever want help, she just wants to be stuck in here, alone!" We all just looked at her like she was crazy. Literally, 2 minutes later, she got overwhelmed and was freaking out about things. Then she said, "I don't know how you do it, Abby." The next day, the Grave shift sergeant was saying Dalia needed to cool it. Apparently, she got so overwhelmed, she needed the Supervisors to step in and Dispatch for her because she was freaking out.
Anyways, I do not suck at Dispatching. In fact, the Swing shift officers joke and call me "Swing's Legendary Dispatcher." I ended up requesting to switch back to Swing shift and Marina pulled me into her office and said, "So your transfer was approved. But although you are able to switch back to Swings, you are still not permitted to be in Dispatch." That was her last power move. On the bright side, the Swing shift Lieutenant, let's call him Bill, told me, "But even though you won't be in Dispatch, we are making you the primary report writer on the Strike Team (the team that responds to all the incidents and handles the reports)." But they were serious. The other day, a newly promoted Corporal, I'll call him Vincent, accidentally scheduled me in Dispatch when making the post lists. He told me he was unaware I am not allowed to be in Dispatch anymore. I know why I am no allowed in Dispatch but for kicks, I asked him what the reason they provided him was. He said, "They told me there was a complaint." Another day, there was only one person who was able to Dispatch. There was a girl training in Dispatch but she did not know enough to relieve him for a lunch. She only relieved him for a quick restroom break. He did not get any of his breaks or his state mandated 30 minute lunch, which is quite illegal. But we did not have an officer, a Supervisor or a Surveillance Dispatcher who knew how to Dispatch and could relieve him for any break. All they had was me but if I relieved him even for a break, I would be fired for insubordination.
Funnily enough, now that I am not on Day shift for Dalia to torment, she is now accusing yet another female, the female EMT, of insubordination. Let's call her Lauren. The two EMT's and Dalia responded to a medical and Lauren told Dalia she is okay to break from the medical. Dalia did not take this lightly and said, "You don't get to tell me where to go. I tell you where to go!" And because of that, Lauren is now insubordinate and, like me, she is in question with all of the Security Administration. Anyways, this is why I do not like working with women. All it takes is for a couple of mean girls to be granted power and your entire career will be in jeopardy. In this case, Dalia is close to Marina and Marina is close to the Administration. They are both brown nosing gossipers who kiss ass to their Supervisors and use gossip as a tool to destroy you.
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When working in jobs where the roles are unchanging and all independent- I like to work with guys.
Debating roles- guys.
When it’s brainstorming roles or there are things that need to be solved and things are shifting constantly- women.
Guys in shifting roles will try to assert, and I’m just like-
DUDE let’s fxckin’ do this and stop pulling my tail!
Anyways, when they don’t feel threatened and it’s routine (can still be a load of work), they’re easier and laid back. Not threatened or questioning of their role.
In majority, 👐 anyways.
I know some men do exceptionally well in shifting careers because they know how to choose the best bet, and they’re smart enough to respect in general, and offer trust and take council from those who make their mark, and prove their abilities, regardless of gender, race, or age.
I like the ‘chill vibe’ from them in the set roles. Lots of memories.
I prefer that than women because sometimes the drama can grow in set roles with women- out of boredom and a feeling of safety, and the lack of true enjoyment.
Just as before with the men, there are some who DO enjoy their roles and don’t present drama.
Women are more tolerable in the shifting roles because for someone like me, it means I can present good plans and/or in an unbiased fashion, pick their ideas too. The ideas the benefit most.
Otherwise… yeah not always. A lot of women want to be heard and validated so naturally, if they have any idea, they’d like for it to be included, and sometimes some ideas just don’t work as great as others. They could also mistake assertiveness as bossy and create more drama.
If it’s life or death, shifting jobs- women, and men.
They really pull through when it’s a crisis 🤔
I don't know I can’t rate on gender who am I kidding lmao
You either have a good team of understanding people who aren’t going to try to outshine or outrank… or you don’t.
I’m all for the better team. 👌
okay I’m summary…
(in a creative shifting job- women. Many ideas are presented, and can’t ever go wrong with the creativity. Inclusiveness helps. Discussing is bonding.💪
in set roles, which are tough- men
in crisis roles- men and women).
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It is nice to have a mix of both.
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I feel that working with women always goes one of two ways, either jealousy and envy, or drama filled. I think it also depends on how attractive you are as a woman and the field.
Im relatively young, attractive and not entering very highly regarded fields so I’ve had many problems with women. Without fail, almost every job I’ve ever had I’ve had a problem with my female co workers without saying a word (I don’t do drama and I’m pretty quiet) and it had no age boundaries. If I had a female manager who wasn’t too fond of me I knew I needed to be looking for another job. I’ve been sabotaged, lied on, fired for drama in the work place all stemming from female coworkers.
On the other hand, the men in these spots were almost always level headed and fair. I can definitely say it equates to attractiveness how men treat you in work areas, though, which is shitty in itself. When I first started out working I was a bit of a push over for men’s advances so I’d definitely say men were harder back then, but now I just let any man know that if they ever tried it I’d ruin their f*cking career and things seem to be going great!
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It really depends. I had good and bad female and male bosses. I had good and bad female and male coworkers.
But, I’ve run into more problems from males than females. People’s ego can get in the way of their work and I’ve witnessed that problem more with men.
One example is a male manager of mine (when I worked as a sales rep) was getting jealous of my recognition (my coworkers and the CEO was praising my work a lot) so HE went into my calendar and double-booked me TWICE. And then said I could lose my job if I miss any appointments.
If you’re familiar with the 48 Laws of Power, I suppose I broke the rule of “Never Outshine The Master” which basically says that if someone is in a position above you, be careful not to outshine them, or else they may try to take you down.
But yeah, office politics and power games among men is something I’ve experienced multiple times. I haven’t had much of that from women. Usually women are happy to cooperate with me rather than try to unproductively-compete with me.
If that manager wanted to compete with me fair and square, then he should have focused on doing HIS job better rather than setting traps up for me so I can’t perform my job and the company loses revenue from missed appointments.
I’m fine with competition. I welcome it. But I also prefer to do that with people who don’t cheat or play dirty.
Later that manager got fired though. So, karma got back at him. -
I don't care who I work with I work, I'm not some sexist guy. But I tend to find guys/men more chill. No matter how hard I worked for any job, I've always felt women were bitchier to me on getting things but then acted like hypocrites being chatty amongst each other. My sister told me once, women for some odd reason in the work place act more strict because they have something to prove. I am a quiet guy who keeps to himself and does his job. If people have a problem with a quiet guy and worked hard then ok. I know someone will read this and say something like "oh maybe you talked about others behind their back", "maybe you came across as an asshole", or other female assumptions. I bought food for people, I made good food for pot lucks, I gave gift cards for people's birthdays, I didn't interfere or gossip in other people's lives and I stayed later to help others. People don't do that at work nowadays. When people look back at me for any meaningful job I put time and effort in, I just want them to say, he worked his ass off and he was a good dude. I don't need to be best friends with anyone. I can work with others regardless of race, gender, ethnicity, religion, age, etc.
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Generally less drama with guys involved but, at the same time, a lot of the male coworkers I’ve had were a bit… weird.
Had my fair share of middle-aged men I worked with think it was completely appropriate to talk about/to me and other underage female coworkers sexually back when we were in high school. There’s just a lot of off-hand sexual comments and “jokes” that just seem to make the women uncomfortable.
I’ve noticed there definitely seems to be a bit more of a power-dynamic with guys in charge. They seem to ramp up the “boss” role to the point where it was always an obvious ego-trip, which was pretty obnoxious. I get it, it comes with the position. At the same time, though, it’s like “chill out man. We’re at a Papa Murphy’s. It’s not that serious.”
Completely against the stereotype, too, but the men I’ve worked with have been a hell of a lot more emotional than the women. I think a lot of guys tend to forget that anger is an emotion, and a lot of them tended to lose their absolute shit over the slightest thing.
Obviously not all of the guys I’ve worked with have been this way. Some were very pleasant, and some women were very unpleasant. This is just a generalization of my experiences. -
I've had both male and female bosses and I strongly prefer male. In my experience:
Male bosses have the tendency to give the employees a lot more freedom to start and take it away from them if they can't seem to handle it. These freedoms tend to consist of looking the other way if they are messing around while there is process going that is out of their control.
Female bosses tend to rule by the book. This can be good in some ways but there are times when this kind of leadership makes things worse for everyone.
I've had one say in a meeting that if someone started attacking you on the job, you must NOT fight back otherwise you will be in violation of the anti-violence policy as well. Instead you're supposed to run to the nearest supervisor, as if them reporting the incident while the lunatic is still at large is going to help. So basically if I have been held to the ground or cornered, I guess that's it for me if I want to be a good and faithful corporate drone or finish the fight they started and tell HR where they can shove that stupid policy later.
Anyway, I have obviously have had exceptions but that has been the general rule from my experience.
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I love women, but working with them is too much of a liability because of the sensitivity levels and tendency to participate in gossip, bullying/clique-forming, and manipulation.
Not all women are like that, of course, but it really only takes one. Men I have worked with are much more focused on work and just do the job without complaining and don't start trouble or try to sabotage others.
In general, I will work with either gender just fine, but men are much easier to work with and you don't have to walk on eggshells worrying about an HR complaint when someone gets triggered projecting their trauma onto you.
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I guess women but, it depends on the situation. As a boss, they tend to be REALLY bitchy, kinda like they're trying to prove something to the world. As a co-worker, most often, they're easy to get along with. Quite often, guys are easy to get on with, too but, a number of them tend to be raging assholes that never grew up from their grade school bully days. You try to be civil with him because you're equals, for the most part, and you treat him the way you expect him to treat you but he just never got over his dick-wagging days in the 6th grade and thinks he's much better than you so, he treats you like you're a stupid little kid or, he finds something that he can make fun of and rags you to death over it. I've actually gotten on better with most of my bosses!! THEY treat me almost as an equal!
I've mostly had male bosses and, so far, only 4 or 5 of them have treated me like shit!! Of the 10 or 12 female bosses I've had, nearly ALL of them have treated me like shit! -
Although I like being around cute women, I prefer men. I work in the medical field so I get abused a lot as do the few men who work w us for a number of reasons. I always get called on when 2 or more women can’t lift the patient, when there’s a hostile patient that needs a sitter, etc. I do my job, sometimes it’s sucks but I keep my mouth shut unlike a lot of the women who come in complaining they don’t want this patient or that patient cause they had them the night before. Calling off for “mental health” days. Crying at work, breaking down, then the drama between nurses. Talking shot about each other.
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If they’re a good worker, their gender doesn’t matter… I despise working with lazy people that think they don’t have to do any work, stand around and talk all day, be in the bathroom half the day on their phone, leaving others to do the work and expect to get the same pay like they’re entitled to it, and at my job they come in both genders…. And then you have the people that do bust their ass all day and they also come in both genders…
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Men!
In MY experience: Women are so catty and toxic. Women tend to throw fits or pout of they don't get their way and they can be spiteful. Men just seem to want to get the job done without all the drama and without over-analyzing every step. Men can take criticism and move on without dwelling on every word.
Again people, that's in MY own experience.
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I prefer to work with men because in my job it requires the person to be able to work at decently fast pace with light to heavy objects and I have not ever worked with any female who could do my job in the same amount of time, in fact everytime the higher ups send female coworkers to help me do my job, I still end up doing all the work while they stand around looking pretty, I ended up telling the higher ups to stop sending anyone my way because they just get in my way. I'd rather break my back doing my job alone than have someone come over and watch me or try and help but break my back anyways.
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I genuinely prefer being around men instead of women in any situation. I've always been that way. Since I was 7, I've always found guys to be kinder and easier to get along with than girls. A woman has to be kind hearted for me to enjoy being around her. And sadly a lot of them aren't. They just pretend to be nice at first and then show themselves to actually be just friendly, not kind or caring.
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Men can actually be difficult. Trust me I work in a male dominated career. Men can actually gossip worse then women. Talk badly behind one another’s back and not feel anything. It’s like two faced snakes. Women just won’t talk to you, men will be nice until you walk out that door. Makes me think how badly my name is being drugged through the mud at my old job.
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I am the type who tends to have more “feminine” traits, despite being straight, do I often get along much better with women because men are judgmental and often homophobic to the point that I get called names and am treated with aggression just because I am comfortable enough in my sexuality to know being empathetic or thoughtful isn’t a sign of weakness.
Luckily, I just started a new job in December working for the State and my entire office but me are women. -
I worked with both all men crew when I used to work as a mechanic and I used to work with all women crew when I used to work in a medical industry. From experiencing both worlds, I STRONGLY prefer working with men, because I'm also a man and we can talk about men stuff without any judgmental comments, complaints or looks from opposite sex.
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Men 100%
In my line of work MOST women would honestly just be a liability (some men to ) and I need someone reliable who I know will be able to handle the work and keep up with everyone else. Because otherwise your making my job that much harder and that much longer.
we have a saying in my field if you can’t keep up your gonna get kicked out. And I’ve seen it happen.
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I don’t like working with anyone I’d prefer to be alone, people just get on my nerves.
But if I was lumbered with someone I’ll have a man as men are more calmer and easily pleased where as woman are just a nightmare. -
It really depends on the person. I've had male and female collegues that I've worked really well with. I've also had male and female collegues that I can hardly stand to work with.
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depends on what I’m working on, but I prefer working with other women. doesn’t really matter too much for me but if I had to pick one or the other then yk.
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