Can you get what you want by giving others what they want?

[OddBeMe]

It’s a “self-help” play on the golden rule. But it makes it more action oriented.

You can treat others how you want to be treated. But you need to give others what they want to get what you want.

Right?

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[AmandaYVR]

My mind's having a bit of trouble wrapping around this. Isn't it sort of like 'lead by example'? It merely ups the odds of getting a similar result. But it doesn't guarantee it.

Another thing that comes to mind is that what two people what is often different. Can they both get what they want in the same transaction? Or are we talking about, at different instances/circumstances? Compromise is when neither party gets everything they want.

I think I'm still slightly confused.

And I kinda want to add 'what's good for the goose, is good for the gander', but basically cause it's fun to say. It only very loosely applies. In some sort of inverse or pejorative way lol.

Sorry. I'll see myself out now...

[Still-alive]

I think this is basically the 'scratch my back and ill scratch yours' thing

[AmandaYVR]

@Still-alive lolol This is becoming a euphemism game. 😉

[Potteplante]

Sometimes giving someone something they want - means you don't get what you want. No relationship of any form comes without compromise at times.

Treat others - like you want to be treated, is action oriented because how you treat people is tied up with your actions towards them.

[Sevenpointfive]

yeah, so i really wanted a blowjob from this one girl. and i don't like reciprocating but i was determined. and this girl was hot and clean and there was nothing to worry about so i almost wanted to go down on her. i was excited to! but when it became time for a switch it seemed like she was just ready to jump into sex.

but i forwarded on and said do you like giving oral? she smiled and said yes! and success happened.

i'm not sure she wanted oral or sex but she got it. so i think this situation applies? i gave her what i thought she wanted and got what i wanted.

[OddBeMe]

Well there can be a domino effect. 3d chess. You give a bj to her dad, her dad invites you over for Christmas holiday, she gets drunk and gives you a bj. Boom done.

[Sevenpointfive]

i'd start with the mom giving me a bj and her finding out, then she'll want to do it for me? hell, they both work on pornHub

[OddBeMe]

That might actually work, from what I read on this fckin site. Lol

[Juxtapose]

Absolutely not.

If you give people what they want for nothing in return then they feel like they won't have to try with you. Whatever you let them get away with, they will do. You have to have some boundaries and self-respect, have some basic demands and make your needs very clear.

[WhiteSandyBeach]

The strategy of giving others what they want works well for doormats.

[msc545]

Sometimes this works, other times, no.