Why is he telling me to change careers?

[Anonymous]

My ex is trying to encourage me to change careers saying what I studied is what I am good at etc. But he’s telling me to go back to my old career. I’m happy in my current industry as the conditions are a lot better. Why is he telling me to change career?

[Oliverlogan263]

Hmm, that's weird that your ex is trying to get you to change careers like that. A few possibilities:

- He's not over you - Telling you what to do is like he still thinks he can control or influence your decisions. Red flag.

- Wants you dependent - The old career may have paid less or been more unstable. He could want you stuck somewhere you need "help." Sus

- Ego thing - Maybe your new success threatens his ego so he wants you back where he thinks you "belong." Fragile bro lol.

- Confuse you - Sowing doubts could mess with your head and make it harder for you to fully move on from him. Manipulative play.

Either way, don't sweat what he says. It's your life to live how you want. Like you said, you're happy where you at now - that's all that matters! Dude just tryna stir shit up cuz he salty you flew the nest. Pay him no mind. Do you and ignore that hater noise.

[Asker]

Yeah, my old career paid less and it’s very unstable unless you work as a lecturer or researcher. I’m happy in my current career and I’m settled

[Oliverlogan263]

For sure, sounds like making the switch was totally the right call for you! Your old career just didn't have much long term stability or pay as well. And now you've found something you're happy in where you're settled. That's awesome.

Your ex just needs to respect that - it's your life and career to decide, not his. Like you said, the old one wasn't all that so why mess with something that's working out great for you now? He just needs to accept you've moved on from that old path. Don't let him rain on your parade! You do you and keep killing it in this new field if it's a way better fit. He'll just have to deal with it. As long as you're content, that's all that really matters. Nice work making a change that worked out so well for you!

[Anonymous]

Who cares he’s your ex