What do you think about teacher student relationships?

[octopus]

Is a teacher student relationship disturbing to you when it is in the university years? What do you think about such relationships? Both sides are adult.

[surgent]

If we're chatting about the everyday, professional kind of teacher-student relationship, it's super important. I've had teachers who were amazing at this – they could turn a boring subject into something you'd chat about at lunch. Like Mrs. Garcia, my 10th-grade math teacher, who somehow made algebra feel like a mystery we were all solving together.

But if we're veering into the territory of personal, romantic relationships between teachers and students, that's a whole different story. It's not just about age or the law; it's the power imbalance that gets me. A teacher has so much influence and authority over a student, and mixing that with personal feelings? It's not just awkward; it can be seriously harmful.

So, my two cents? Teacher-student relationships in the classroom should be all about respect, inspiration, and learning. But once it crosses into personal territory, it's a line that really shouldn't be crossed.

[hahahmm]

When I was at uni my friend was a girl with huge boobs. We were in several of the same classes. So one of our professors started stalking her. I'm at lunch with her and the guy is following her like a puppy dog and acting like she's the center of the universe. I thought he was pathetic. I still think guys like that are pathetic... when they're old enough where they should have some kind of self respect/control. Did I ever go nuts for some girl/woman when I was in my 20s? Sure. But it's not the same as being older and chasing a youngin.

Also I think these teachers are giving grades based on looks/sex which is unfair to whoever they don't find attractive.

If the student isn't an adult they're also violating the parent's trust BIG TIME.

[ZackBan]

I recently taught a programing course at an engineering grad school a couple of students had a crush on me but I felt wrong acting on it.
They are adults sure but knowing that I have to teach them and evaluate them creates a layer of responsibility and a romantic relationship would be me not living up to it

[Anonymous]

I think the only way, if you are the professor that is, to protect yourself in such relationships in case things go sour is to ensure the student never has been or is not currently a student in any of your actual classes, that you disclose your relationship to HR/your boss, and that they are 100% of legal age (because not everyone is university is over 18). Then like any other relationship, go forth and hope for the best. If the above aren't met beforehand and things go sour, you are potentially or more likely looking at a loss of your job/credibility/maybe even false charges, you name it.

[EmyyWolf]

It’s fucking weird, because

ARE THERE NO PEOPLE YOUR OWN M—-ER—F-ING AGE? 😡😡😡

It’s disturbing because obviously it’s Trauma Bonding. Where the victims go to older partners to feel a sense of appreciation or control. OBVIOUSLY it’s not natural to desire an older grotesque individual. And most situations of teacher and student romance, is usually a way older male teacher. 😡😡😡

[EmyyWolf]

Adult or not adult. It’s borderline PEDO.
Borderline barely legal. 😡😡😡😡

[AutumnSerenity]

In a college or university setting, I’d say “to each his own” although it could get complicated (if feelings are involved). My father was my mother’s college professor. He was 16 years her senior. They eventually got married. My mother became a college professor as well. He helped her academically and professionally. However, the phrase “you’ll lose them the same way you met them” goes into play here. He liked college girls and the marriage didn’t last.

[Kaamraj]

First of all both parties have to be adults. Secondly, if you're their teacher thent here's a power imbalance and clear conflict of interest and if found out or someone complains then you can get fired and blacklisted.

Saying that the say you're not their teacher either they graduate or your leave the institution, there's no problem.

[Bricealan]

In college, I was starstruck with my Spanish teacher, as she was beautiful, tall, slim and brilliant. I was somewhat older than the average Senior in college since I was "post" military service... Most men in the language department were always drooling after Peggy Kaufman... I remember her clearly after these years

[Avicenna]

It's not professional and should be avoided. When I was a grad student as a 32/33-year-old, I dated two professors after they were no longer my professor (one of them was actually a year younger than me), and I would advise against doing this. The stereotype is the older male professor doing this, but there are female professors who do this too.

[Benjiman19]

In university years? Why would I care about that. Both adults and they can do what they want. I almost had a teacher student relationship when I was a senior in highschool... I was 18 by a few months and my teacher took a liking to me. Yet, we never got together. However, I did tell her that I'd have liked a relationship with her.

Would that have bothered you or anyone else?

[gopackers2002]

As long as both are adults and it’s kept completely secretive from other college classmates it’s fine. Personally I’ve never had any teacher that was good looking lol I might’ve thought so at the time but my type has changed drastically since then like a lot lol. But outside high school I think it’s alright

[kinkynicci]

If they are both adults then so be it. Myself and several other girls (all 18) had sex with our teacher/volleyball coach.

[Momo5274]

My usual belief is that adults can do what they want but the teacher x student dynamic is skewed if you bring sexual or romantic intimacy into the equation. It's also unfair for the other students because we're human and bias is ALWAYS a thing, no matter how good of a person the teacher is... Not to mention these relationships are illegal where I'm from

I think it's okay if the student is no longer in any of the teacher's classes. Otherwise it's inappropriate in general

[molonski2]

I think its fine when both are adults , its up to the couple.

Plus its a great role play exercise 55555.

Kop khun krub for fine question , de maark.

[SphynxUK]

Totally inappropriate in this setting. I know of so many situations where the teacher put their ‘feelings’ above the job and responsibility they had. It all went tits up for them, and rightly so.

[rosemilk]

relationship as in romantic relationship? wrong. also awkward. also immoral. also could lose your job.

[IslaTheWitch]

I don't. It's their decision.

AFAIK it hase something to do with ethics of the teaching profession.

[abc3643]

A lot of marriages have happened between graduate students and their advisors after the student completes her (or his) degree.

[Anonymous]

Kinda the same thing i think about most relationships. I care if I'm in them. Then if a friend or a loved one is in them. Then if a hot girl is in them. If none of those apply, I could not possibly care less.

[Bubbles934]

It’s a tricky one but for me it’s a no. However you cannot help who you are attracted to and if you feel a strong connection with a student of legal age what can you do?

[NeverGiveUp69]

I dated a teacher in secret and we loved each other, we drifted a part but as long as they both consent it is no ones business

[kingmaker21]

Sexual relationship is cool just sex no feelings involved...
I had sexual relationship with my math teacher in past.

[Anonymous]

As long as everyone are consenting adults, if you're dumb enough to pursue it, have fun... remember "two freshmen add up to a sophomore"

[Anonymous]

not good in high school or undergrad, but it's okay for grad level or higher. Grads are mostly colleagues than students and are older.

[pickles77]

Sounds like a conflict of interests but I wouldn’t mind dating a teacher