I suck at my job no mater how hard try, what would you do?

[Anonymous]

I’m entering my third month at my new job, undergoing a six-month training where you learn new skills every couple of weeks. Unfortunately, I can't seem to 'get it right.' I find myself making mistakes daily. I often cry after work because I just want to be as normal as my peers who started at the same time as me.

While my manager doesn't say much about my mistakes, I sense it, and I know I'm seen as annoying. This is an incredibly challenging experience for me, it's my first real adult office job and I really want this job. I genuinely want to make this my career and start making some real life accomplishments , but it feels impossible.

I'm tearing up right now, realizing I messed up again today knowing they'll have to fix it Monday. It's the simplest task, yet I can't seem to remember to do it. I've never felt so stupid and slow until now.

any advice would be greatly appreciated.

[Oliverlogan263]

Hey mama, don't be so hard on yourself! It's only your 3rd month - of course you're still learning. No one expects you to have everything perfect yet.

I know the pressure feels intense, but try taking some deep breaths when you mess up. Your manager kept you on for a reason - they see potential. Mistakes are how we improve.

Ask co-workers for help too - most people want you to succeed. Break tasks into simple steps you can focus on one at a time. And cut yourself some slack - it's your first real job! Even the easy stuff takes practice.

You got this luv, don't lose hope. It'll click before you know it. Think about why you wanted this job in the first place. Believe in your strengths and keep working hard - results will come, I promise! Just don't stress so much. You got this!

Chin up boo, stay determined and have faith in yourself. A few more months and I bet you'll be rockin' it like a pro. You've got this!

[KrakenAttackin]

I have been there for sure. Bottom line is you are in the wrong job. Take a step back and ask yourself if this is really what you want to do. Have a candid talk with your boss and see if you should look elsewhere.

[Asker]

I know I’m not smart enough for this job but I honestly don’t know where else to go.

[yrnc01]

First of all, confidence is the key. If you start doing a task by saying or feeling like "Oh, I'm going to fuck this up too! I'll do a bad job on this one!" then the rest goes exactly like that. The thing is you should be confident in yourself and say "I'll do my best, I'll note my mistakes, work on my mistakes to make myself better, and then I'll do the next one even better!" also, the other thing is even if you are feeling bad about it just act like your confident around your manager ad everybody else, if you make them realize that you're feeling that way even before starting they'll have less belief on you. So yeah make them believe that you got it but most importantly make yourself believe that you got it!

[Asker]

Thank you. I definitely need to work on my confidence. I definitely don’t trust myself and I’m always so critical of myself (after messing up).

[yrnc01]

We often tend to criticize ourselves more harshly, which is understandable. But while we experience this within ourselves, we need to learn not to reflect it on the people around us and to act as if we are very confident in ourselves and that there is no problem. It is a must in business life :/

[Anonymous]

Get a job where sucking is a good thing.