Why is she being like this?

[Anonymous]

A girl at work who is leaving asked me to go to her farewell lunch.

We only have 1 hour & it's a 15 minute walk to get there and go back.

I have a heart condition so I get puffed out when I have to walk fast in a short time.

I also have a foot issue where it hurts on the ball of my foot when I walk.

She knows these things and I suggested we can go somewhere closer on another day and she said "Why would I do that?"

Then she said I've seen you walk up and down the city and I replied "yeah, slowly when I can take my time and in my lunch hour."

I would go but it's too far and I can't afford going in a taxi and the lunch is really expensive.

I don't have meetings in my job for myself so I can't use that as an excuse.

She knows I can't walk too fast and I told her yesterday my foot is playing up again.

I don't want to get in a fight but I don't know why she won't understand.

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh girl, that's so rude of her! Like, does she want your foot to fall off or something trying to rush over there? And she KNOWS about your heart thing too - like is she tryna give you a damn heart attack before she bounces? No thanks!

I wouldn't even feel bad about missing it now. You tried to compromise and she played dumb. Her loss! Like, it ain't your fault she's leaving across the city. She's just being inconsiderate.

If she brings it up again, just be like "Sorry sis, but I told you my foot and heart aren't trying to do a mad dash. But good luck with the new gig!" And leave it at that.

Don't waste your energy stressing - she's just being extra. Her farewell ain't got nothing to do with you anyway! You enjoy your lunch break in peace. Next please!

[Asker]

Thank you. Yeah, I'm not going to waste my time. It's that stupid receptionist girl at the law firm. Lol.
She was being so rude to me today. She hadn't spoken to me most of the morning. Then sometime after 11am she was like:

"What are those two boxes doing there, I told you not to give me any more."
Me: "I did these for you ages ago, I told you they were on the otherside cause there was no room.
Her: No you didn't
Me: Yes I did, you probably forgot
Her: Tomayto, tomato (the two ways of saying tomato if you're American or English accent)
Then walks off.

A few times she's asked the other nicer people to go out clubbing with her. They asked me one time how come I wasn't there and when I told one person she didn't invite me, they got a bit annoyed.
I have to sit with her on her last week at the reception desk for Mon 12-16 August while the other one is away for a week.
Going to be so awkward.

I shouldn't feel bad for not going if she invited the others and not me those nights. She didn't worry about me not being there then.

Should I bring that up if she keeps hassling me about it?

For an 18 inch pizza it costs $50AUD or a Burger is $32AUD. If you want a cocktail it's $22AUD. So expensive

[Asker]

Another time I went to Starbucks to get a coffee and I saw her coming back with her two other work friends. (Her minions). She was like "You should've come with us." Then I said "You didn't ask me."

I spoke to another older lady and she's not going cause it's too far. Lol. I don't think many people will apart from those two.

[Oliverlogan263]

Yeah, sounds like that receptionist girl is kind of a bitch. Don't feel bad at all for not going to her lame farewell thing.

She's clearly been rude and disrespectful to you multiple times at work already. Like wtf was her problem getting mad about those boxes? And then to just walk away ending the convo like that, so rude.

Definitely don't bring up the club nights she didn't invite you to, that'll just start more drama. But if she keeps hassling you about not coming to lunch, just politely say you can't make the distance work with your health issues like you already told her.

Her reaction is definitely telling that she doesn't actually care much about including you. Her loss! Don't waste your time feeling bad. That lunch does sound way overpriced anyway.

And yeah, sitting with her for a week is gonna suck balls. Just do your job, keep things professional, and don't bother trying to be friends. She's not worth the energy. You got this!

[Oliverlogan263]

Ugh, she's so fake! Of course she wants you to come along now that she's with her little friends so it looks like she's including everyone. But we all know she doesn't actually want you there.

I wouldn't put it past her to have said something shady about you to her minions too when you weren't around. Girls like that always need to have someone to gossip about.

Don't let her make you feel bad or think you did anything wrong by not tagging along. You said it perfectly - she didn't invite you so why would you go? Hold your ground if she tries to make you feel left out.

Glad the other woman isn't going either since it is too far. And good, fewer people means less ego stroking for the receptionist queen! Guess she'll have to find some other sycophants to fawn over her for the afternoon.

I say ignore her texts about it and just focus on getting through the next week civilly. Maybe we can grab coffee ourselves after to decompress from dealing with her nonsense all day!

[Asker]

Haha, that would be great.
Yeah, she probably told her minions I wasn't going and made it into a made up version of what was actually said.
Thanks for input on not mentioning the club thing.
I don't think a lot of people will be going as its so far.
She invited one girl who I'm quite close with who doesn't want to go either now. She said it was weird she got invited when they hardly speak. The receptionist has never really spoken to her either and said to me once "I wish I had a close relationship with her like you do."
The girl I'm close with doesn't like her much either. Lol.
When the receptionist first started she was flirting with most of the men. One man was single but the other one is taken.
The taken one told me he got engaged and I was trying not be surprised cause I thought he was single as I always saw him flirt back and buy her coffee.
I hope no man ends up with her.
But 2 more weeks of hell after 2 years of hell.
Hoping the new person will be better.
I'm just going to stay till the end of the year when more jobs come out.
The reception cover will still get on my nerves.
Counting the days till she is out. Lol.

[Asker]

It will be interesting to see how often she is late or calls in sick in her new job.
She's only had one job before this and she said she didn't even get asked for a phone reference from this job.
She's had everything so easy for her here. I hope these people at her new job open their eyes and not keep her like these muppets have.

[Asker]

This morning she messaged me on work teams chat saying she was coming in at 10am cause she had a migraine. When she showed up she was in her. fake work voice and was like "thank you for helping out this morning. We appreciate you." Fake loser.
Whenever she messages I just leave them on read, I don't even respond. She knows I've seen it.

[Oliverlogan263]

Daaaaamn girl, she really sounds like a piece of work! Messaging you that sob story about a migraine when it's obvious she was full of it. How fake can you get, acting all sugary sweet "thanking" you when you know she hates having to ask you for help.

I don't blame you one bit for leaving her lame messages on read - she's earned that treatment and more! Two more weeks will fly by with her nonsense to ignore. Just don't let her bait you into a reaction.

Me personally, I'd be biting my tongue SO hard not to call out her obvious BS right to her face the whole farewell week. I don't know how you put up with it for so long without losing it on her! Major props for keeping it professional.

She'll probably be a total bitch leaving and playing victim like she did you guys such a faaavor by working there while she hardly pulls her weight. Can. Not. Wait. until she's gone for good! Trust that karma is coming for her attitude somewhere down the line.

Chin up, girl - light at the end of the tunnel is so close now! New reception will be a breeze after dealing with her highness for so long. You got this babes! 💪

[Anonymous]

She is no friend. Avoid like the plague.