Anyone bullied in college? How did you stop it?

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electromagnetic · Accepted Answer

Buying is college is a new idea to me. I didn’t know it happened as much as highschool and younger.

thegreenyogi · Accepted Answer

I was bullied in primary and secondary school. It didn't stop. I just rode through it.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

In college suprisingly yes I was bullied by two unrelated women in the same semester. One lived in the same dorm and for some reason gravitated towards saying mean and harassing things to me. I tried talking to her about it and she continued on with her trash talk towards me. I was never sure what her problem was but I ran into her two years later and she seemed humbled and had an apologetic attitude about her.

The other was in a class and she was a lab partner (with another student) in a difficult science class. We started out as friends at the beginning of the semester but she became mean to me in a hateful way and it was clear she didn't want me as a lab partner. From then on I did the labs solo and she completed the labwork with the other lab partner. Majorly toxic person. I just tried to keep my distance from her from that point on.

What was unusual was that I never expected "bullying" at the college level because I assumed that the students would be more mature than that.

Anonymous · Answer

Happened to me once my first couple weeks where these two kids who seemed to be friends since highschool were ripping into me and I kinda just stood there taking it because I was so confused.

I guess I had my world famous stank face on when it happened because the more people that stopped to look, the less steam the guy had until I finally was like dude, it's 2016, who insults people to look cool anymore? And then every time he tried to say something back I just said you lost in a disappointed tone. And then they got laughed at. But then I realised I could turn it into a positive for everyone because they just struck me as not bad guys.

I told them it doesn't matter what did or didn't work for them in highschool, we're in community College this is the best chance you got to leave that kid shit behind. No one will judge you for anything other than what they see you do here.

Ended with a dab up and a bunch of people talking to eachother.

That was actually a big part of how I got my little group together.

Pretty sure they dropped out. Still remember them because they were the ones who showed me Rick and Morty 😂

Anonymous · Answer

I'm actually kind of shocked by this question. Other than in a dorm where you have to live with people or a group of people whom you would see everyday or at least in passing to enable their bullying, how does bullying in college even happen? I mean, I'm not an idiot, I know bullying can happen at any time to anyone, however, my university was huge. When I got there, no one knew my story or how I was treated by others prior to walking in those doors. No one knew anyone that well outside of their pocket of friends. Like 20% didn't even bother coming regularly, I never sat next to the same people twice because classes were huge at least your freshman/sophmore year, and EVERYONE is busy with studying or work. This was why it was so great to just leave high school and middle school behind. You truly were your own person and people so busy now with their own lives and boy/girlfriends, school, work, social life, learning to adult, just didn't have the time to bother with anyone else.

imtiaz45 · Answer

Experiencing bullying in college can be challenging. To address it, start by documenting incidents and reaching out to campus resources, such as counselors or student support services, who can provide guidance and intervene if necessary. Establish clear boundaries with the bully and assert yourself calmly and confidently. Building a support network of friends and allies can offer emotional backing and practical advice. If the situation escalates, consider involving campus security or filing a formal complaint. Prioritizing self-care and seeking professional help can also be crucial in managing the emotional impact and finding effective solutions.

Anonymous · Answer

Wouldn't exactly say "bullied", but rather tested. I had to properly deal with two idiots in 1st year and I may or may not have said something that scared the crap out of them. Let's just say those 2 guys are very well-behaved now.

Everyone that knows me knows my serious demeanor so they don't try any funny shit with me, except for the occasional smart-asses. I don't get into physical fights like I used to, but I'm definitely more confrontational and let them know exactly how I think if need be.

The majority of my university members are actually quite helpful and supportive, so that's a plus. Not many lowlifes that act like they're still in high-school, but they exist.

MicahRaine · Answer

I never went to college, but if I was bullied I would just ignore it until it got physical and then destroy them 🤷‍♂️

I'm not "that guy" who has 27 black belts and a jacked up truck lmao, but I genuinely just don't gaf about physical pain in a fight. So yeah, I likely won't win, but neither will they.

Breanna_nonbinary · Answer

I was frequently bullied in college. However whereas in high school it was more racism based bullying that ended with me getting hurt physically in college I just made them look like a fool in front of the class and they stopped. Besides it never got physical since now people looked out for me.

worldscolide · Answer

College, no, high school yes. Middle school, yes. I stopped it by essentially being in a class of my own. I graduated high-school when I was almost 16. Yeah I'm one of those kids, the intelligent ones.

The ones that were really bad to me ended up in prison. The girls that were really bad to me, ended up being single moms to multiple children by multiple dad's, and still live in poverty to this day. I got my revenge by living a better life than them.

AffectionKing · Answer

College never been bullied. Matter of fact everyone at my university was helpful. Random women offered me help and or asked me for help. My university was different than my city. It was more diverse and everyone wanted you to succeed. I personally never saw anyone get bullied. Sorry, if you’re being bullied. Don’t give up or go to self harming.

I would suggest you speak to a professional or asked your bully why they choose to bully you. Push come to shove take a self defense class or carry pepper spray around.

FreyaRed · Answer

In secondary school there was a guy with the name Simon who tried to bully me. Usual pecking order and he thought he stays higher than me. I observed him short found his weak spot and blamed him about that in front of entire class. It stopped instantly and other bullies started to focus on others.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly the way to deal with it is just trying to stay away from those people. My freshmen year I went to community college and I joined a club and for some reason those people did not like me. When the bullying happened I ignored it and came to accept that those people didn’t like me and distanced myself before and after the club ended. I also got bullied by an adult at an internship I had at college too, the bullying that I received from this adult was severe so moral of both situations I’ve been in just distance yourself from bullies. I never expected college students to be bullies, same with adults too. I thought once you turned 18 you were more mature.

Anonymous · Answer

In middle school yes. I only got picked on by guys I found physically unattractive so I am not really that upset by it. I never got picked on by any guy I actually liked or was interested in.

I have also had unpleasant past experiences with other females but I just try not to think about them too much. I just try to be happy because like they say happiness is the best revenge and people who try to put you don’t feel like they haven’t succeeded if you are happy. They are just envious my life is happier than their own. Nobody who is happy purposely goes around trying to make others feel bad.

Sunnysunny123 · Answer

In my homecountry you get bullied by everyone, mostly your friends i am talking about verball but we don't call it bullying we call it fucking aroud and joking so whenever someone bullies you you also bully them also for physical fights since it has mostly been boys our parents say you don't start first but when someone hits you, you hit harder so we have never been grounded when it came to that.

So my advice always is if someone is bullying you, you bully them harder 😂

Anonymous · Answer

I graduated. I'm a devout Christian and white male with conservative views. I got harassed because of it. One girl accused me of rape but even though I was able to prove I wasn't even there as I was in another state I was treated like a rapist. I accidentally walked into a people of color only zone and it caused a whole problem and I was given a warning. Some of the proffessors lowered my marks because I was a white male. Honestly it was a nightmare.

HawkPerception · Answer

Wasn't bullied at all. I really came out of my introverted shell that I had in high school and socialized a ton in a college. I was the bridge between people in my program initially asking for everyone's numbers and creating group chats. I was never bullied in life though. The only 2 times people tried to, it didn't end well for them. I don't take people's shit lying down.

paledreams · Answer

I just loved through it and was humbled by it over time ,, the one thing no one ever admits and I'll admit it here ; I never actually helped myself not be a bully target because often, I was a snob. My own fault mostly, I chose to be a snob. If I hadn't been a snob, then there wouldn't be bullies right? Cause everyone likes a humbled person 😜😈👿 that's what I look back on now. 😜😅

exitseven · Answer

No, by the time I was in college I was 19 and had been working out since the 9th grade. Nobody wanted to mess with me. Besides , people really did not bully much in college. I think most people grew out of it or maybe all my high school bullies were workign minimum wage jobs some where.

Anonymous · Answer

If you’re being bullied in collage it’s pretty easy to just get kicked out. It’s not like secondary or elementary school. They don’t put up with that shit there.

Crazzyyworld · Answer

Weeeeeellll going to an all boys school was rough as a transgender. They always hit me tease me play with me ;( but as soon as I enter college it stopped. Kids were busy studying and planing for their career they didn’t have time to pay attention to anyone else.

Bricealan · Answer

Not in College, but bullied in High School... In HS I knew how to fight, and did, and should have beaten a couple of assholes half to death, and regret not doing so until this day.

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I got bullied a lot but never in college, people were actually really nice in college.

luvstoned4him · Answer

Never because by theñ I had spikes on my body and a poker face

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

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SweetJoyGirl · Answer

Nope. College is not a place one usually gets bullied. People grow out of that rubbish. Well, unless you live in the dorms. There may be some conflict there…

ChicoFromThe305 · Answer

There's bullying in college? You'd think people would mature from such behavior, that's pretty wild.

rienna888 · Answer

Yeah I was depressed, wore ugly clothes for some reason. But growing up many people had crushes on me. However in college this B began bullying me because she hated herself but she was also a B to other people.

TDDMS · Answer

I wasn't bullied, but the one guy was causing trouble for everyone. So I turned over several hours of footage of him dealing and using drugs to the local police. He got locked up and expelled. Everything was swell for everyone after that.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Not that I recall. People seem to grow up between high school and college. I got a lot of it in my grade school years but none at all in college.

Mark987 · Answer

No but I was in High School. The older grade kids would hit us into our lockers. One day they tried it again.. and I swung a punch and it landed flush on his chin.. and it never happened again. This is a bad example...

quickquesocheese · Answer

Lol, was buried by my teachers. I dropped out and the program i was in got shut down. Karma always strikes back.

DJB72 · Answer

Only to highschool. Ended it by hitting the bully in the face. Was 31 before I went to college. I had lecturers younger than me!

molonski2 · Answer

I was never bullied anywhere really , I never quite allowed them to bother me at all.

WhitneySnow · Answer

No. I think that stuff mostly stops in high school.

skidawgkc22 · Answer

I was bullied throughout elementary, middle and high school, but not in college.

AviatorTom · Answer

I wasn't bullied in college. I had a small group of friends and no one bullied us.

Malwi93 · Answer

dang bullies so old really must have too much time on their hands

Rangers · Answer

No, people knew better than to try to pick on me, they knew I wouldn't hesitate to pull their bodies apart, if they messed with me

Meropatrick · Answer

Jees i thought this shyt ends in high school. Please dont depress me

legalboxers · Answer

I was. by some asshole in my math class. Flash forward to a few years later he seen me in uniform. never seen someone shrink so fast

llorando · Answer

Never went to college, so was never bullied.

Zoi1986 · Answer

In school they steal my foot so I put laxative in it they paid for it try get me in trouble.

Surely · Answer

Went to a community college while working. Didn’t experience any bullying.

Jpie555 · Answer

I generally think that bullying ends in high school

Lynx122 · Answer

for me it was high school :/

Dnice1 · Answer

Not in college but in elementary school

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Didn't have that experience in college.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I do not recall ever being bullied.

Celticwolf78 · Answer

Never been

DrPepper12 · Answer

No. Sorry!

tinderf · Answer

No never in college

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

UNFORTUNATELY I NEVER MADE IT TO COLLEGE

jimmy2 · Answer

Knock the shit out of them

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