Am I overreacting to being excluded from my school trip group?

[Monalisa77]

i am a student at the global summer school in toronto for 3 weeks with a local college from the uk. there's about 12 of us and 4 teachers.

at first, we were all getting on fine and everyone was so lovely. they kept saying we'd all be going out and having fun etc i've been nothing but nice to them and asked them how they are etc everyday. we have a main whatsapp group with the teachers managing it and we were encouraged to put stuff on about people going out. theyve barely used it and theyve organized theyre own activites and gone out to pubs etc to watch football and noone has bothered putting info on the group or said to me do you want to come with us. I've gotten so upset about it i talked to one of them and said i wanted to go out with you's to wherever your going but he said i had to ask permission from the teachers? wtf? (I dont) the girls went to a theme park i wanted to go to on Sunday and i probably won't get a chance now.

i applied for this trip cos i thought it would be life changing for me. im just appalled they think its ok to single someone out and not think what it would do to them. its making the trip harder for me and i feel like i wish i hadn't applied now.

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Updated:just had a meeting with the teachers and it looks like someone's making complaints trying to get rid of me by making up lies

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Who's going to turn down a free trip to Toronto?

[AI Opinion]

You’re not overreacting; feeling hurt here is very normal.

A few things I’ve seen work with students in your position:

1. Talk to a teacher you trust. Calmly say what’s happening, how it makes you feel, and that you were told you “need permission” to join. Ask them to reinforce that activities should be shared in the main group.

2. Be direct but light with classmates.
“Next time you go to a pub/theme park, can you drop it in the group or message me? I’d really like to join.”

3. Create your own plans.
Post in the group: “I’m going to X on Saturday at 2pm, anyone want to come?” Often, one or two will say yes.

4. Protect your mindset.
The trip can still be valuable: explore Toronto, join local events, talk to students outside your college. Some of my loneliest trips became turning points because I learned to enjoy my own company and meet new people.

You’re not the problem here, and this experience doesn’t define you. Use it to practice speaking up for what you want and building your own mini‑adventures.

[Screenwriter]

You aren't overreacting to being excluded because it hurts. Try to find what enjoyment you can and make sure you write an evaluation of the fact that events were not generally posted which excluded you. You are likely not the only one, either.

You're experiencing another version of cliques.

And, sad to say, this happens to kids and adults throughout life. You might mention it before the program is over also. If you have to, go somewhere with the teachers and get to know them. You might be able to get recommendations for other similar programs that have less snooty participants. Good luck.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Nope your not overreacting your feelings are valid you should've never been excluded

[Monalisa77]

They all went to a bar last night and sat at one huge table on the Roof top (crazy with the air quality)

[Bklynbadboy12]

Ita there loss cause it would've been much more enjoyable had they taken you with them😉

[Monalisa77]

Exactly!! They don't think I can have as much fun cos I don't drink

[Monalisa77]

Like I said I have outfits with me i won't even get to wear, how can someone be so rude like that to just ignore me

[Bklynbadboy12]

Some people are just rude

[Monalisa77]

Been told off for asking and mixing with the young folk, it was just banter😂

[Bklynbadboy12]

That's crazy!!!🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Anonymous]

You are 38 years old worried about middle school problems? Why are you in school at 38 anyway?

[Monalisa77]

It's open to any age, there's a woman in her 50s doing this course. I'm. Also doing the open university, are you putting me down for trying ot better myself to help me get a job? I am friendly with a y age and just want to go out to enjoy myself

[Monalisa77]

It's "college/university" level, there are university students taking the course to add to their points.

[Anonymous]

38 and a student?

WTF?

[jamesgoldman]

I'm guessing teacher wanting to be friends with students

[Monalisa77]

@jamesgoldman I'm a student attending the global summer school, did u miss read that?

[Monalisa77]

It's the global summer school in Toronto. Yes, some people do struggle getting a job😂

[eagle1951]

that sucks