Like it just makes me feel either forgotten about or maybe even worse that they did think of me but didn’t want to hang out with me. Makes me question the friendship a little.
This is why I always invite all the main people in my life to whatever event I'm planning on hosting... because it's always nice to at least get an invitation and feel included.
There is nothing wrong with being offended and if anything I do see it that when you're not invited to something, you're not seen by the person as worth inviting or you're not part of their main crew.
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It's not wrong, but you should mention it. If you're afraid they'll dump you as a friend for saying what you feel, they're probably not your friends.
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From a Stoic ideal, it's actually wrong to get upset or offended about anything. We're supposed to be cheerful even when we're being roasted alive in the bull of Phalaris:
It's an ideal though to strive towards rather than reach so I find it very understandable and relatable to get upset over it. However, I think it's worth trying to find a way to reframe the thinking so that you aren't if only for your own self-benefit.
Also perhaps they didn't think you were interested or some other reason. I don't know. It always helps to gather more data when in doubt.
Having particular feelings is not often bound to something logic. A feeling is always genuine, whatever their origin, be it something serious, silly, odd, or just not logical. If you feel offended because you were not invited, just face that feeling, and ask yourself why you should be offended. The best is to accept even some good friends may prefer doing something with other people than you. A matter of trust and humility.
What you describe happened sometimes to me, as to most people, and I learned to just accept the situation. Had I reacted and asked for explanations, I would probably have lost good friends... On the other hand, there is no harm to make those friends understand I would have loved to participate. Up to them to decide according circumstances I'm maybe not aware of.
It's possible they assumed you wouldn't have wanted to go and didn't want you to feel obliged to say yes. But apart from that possibility it sounds like either it was really impromptu and you just weren't there at the moment or it was a legit snuff. Likely the former.
Yeah I used to feel offended a little. But then I started getting invited to parties and realized it was nothing special. I think it is worse when your friends hangout together going out and don't invite you because that is like they seriously don't want to hangout lol.
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my friends have their lives, we don't spend 24/7 together, it's natural I have no idea what tgey do most of the time. We share, of course, but we are separate people and treasure our privacy.
It amazed me at how many aquaintenances were lost when I bought my house. In youth we just meet everybody and think it actually has value but as you age you understand the meaning of trust. The term misery loves company is very real and some only befriend others because they feel superiority over another. When that feeling of superiority goes away so do they. You don't really want a bunch of people knowing your business anyways because you could lose things that you worked hard for.
It depends on what they did and the dynamic.
My best friends go to Friday night dinners without asking me all the time because they know as time went by I started to drink less and less. They also know that I won't feel bad if they don't ask.
It's not wrong for you to feel that way. It doesn't necessarily mean they did it on purpose but you are allowed to feel how you feel and it seems pretty normal to feel that way.
For some Reason, Farewell No Friends to the Ends. Move on From Them. You do Not Fit In Now. xxoo
Personally I think it's messed up they didn't invite you, if they genuinely forgot to invite you then there is nothing wrong but if they purposely thought to themselves "I'm not gonna invite this person" then they aren't your friend.
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It's not wrong, I would feel offended too. It would make me question our friendship.
You're allowed to feel how you feel but don't make a big fuss about it. Your friends might have their own reasons not to invite you.
If someone was invited to a party, I would not be upset because they did not invite me.
It’s normal. I’ve felt that way before. I’d recommend to try and not ruminate on it too much though. It happens to the best of us.
Nothing wrong with feeling offended for being disregarded. Real friends would ask unless they knew you were not interested.
I would not give a damn about that
That's one less place to get bored inIts contextual like is this a activity they might think you don't want to do or are you known for wanting to do said activity?
Nah I get that way all the time to find out later it's just short notice most of the time and my friends know I'm not made of money to just go out and do things
I would definitely get offended.
But there are chances that they send an invitation and didn't reach us,
Or didn't invite (misthinking that they already invited)
It is a serious insult; take it seriously as these people are not your friends.
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