My boyfriend and I live together. We have been for two years and signed another two year lease.
We had our struggles in our relationship. More or less my boyfriend is more expressive than I am when being open about our feelings and when it gets overwhelming... especially when I don't agree with a lot of what he says. I go silent. To me having open up at any point to express why he would be wrong I feel like he would just try harder to prove he is right. It happens before and I feel like giving up at that point.
He lost his bff is grandfather and now he took over his papa's business. He is also going to school for gunsmithing and tells anyone who is willing to listen. He has so much background experience that he has something to prove.
I don't. My parents where immigrants and I didn't have family to rely on to show or teach me anything. I went to school for multiple things in order to learn and I ended up just gaining debt. I went to automotive school and worked in an auto shop. I ended up thinking that it was just to learn about cars being a woman and it would be beneficial. I don't know if I did right thing or wrong. I just wanted the experience and be taught something useful.
He gloats and talks about himself all the time to people. My friends in HS made me self conscious and shy that I just end up being quiet when he rants to strangers. I prob need help fixing that.
I get offended when I want to do a hobby and he insists I ask his uncle for help. I feel like he doesn't trust in me or am I just not open to others offering knowledge to me?
I've always self taught through struggles and pulled through. I'm a creature of habit.
Am I doing wrong?
I do not understand how we both can connect so well and at other times when I get upset at the smallest things he gets mad and goes on a tangent for hours being defensive thinking I'm coming at him when im generally upset over something small and dumb.
How do we fix our issues?
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So personally I think this has to do with how you two are communicating your feelings out. Instead of using emotion to expressing your concerns, you should be openly thinking about ways on how you can logically make your point known without making him feel like he is at total blame for problems in the relationship
I don't know if it's normal, but I don't think it's all that unusual, either.