It is perfectly normal to remain friends with a person of the opposite gender, not only for 20 years but for a lifelong IF you make it clear from the start that this friendship will solely remain platonic and that no romantic feelings whatsoever should come in between that friendship. Romantic feelings are a friendship killer.
Now, my assumption is that she does respect you perhaps more than other men that she was in close quarters with because you also respected her and did not make any attempts to be "romantic". I am fully aware that, given the constellation of an army base, this is a bit more problematic for most people that are driven by their testosterone, mainly at a younger age.
I believe that she takes you more as a role model than someone that she is infatuated with. You don't give us her age but if you are in the age group 36-45 and she is in the same age group, then her time to have a family is running away at fast paces.
But it could also be that she is hinting that you are the right person because you respected her and that she appreciated your decency. The only way to find out is to ask her directly. There is probably no way around it. Good luck.
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That is a pretty big assumption that she means you as a husband. Is it possible though? Yep, absolutely it could be she is hinting at something. That is a pretty strong hint though. Not exactly the way most relationships start, even though you have known each other for a long time.
As for whether it is normal or not for a friendship of that length, I don't view as normal or abnormal but more rare. Over time, people tend to drift apart and not have the level of contact they once had.
Now, I have some childhood friends that I still keep in touch with, but it is infrequent because we all moved on in life. You seem to have much more contact than most would if you are talking to each other weekly.
Back to whether she wants something with you, very hard to say. It might be her 'biological clock' speaking in general about ambition to get married and start a family. Does that mean with you? Not necessarily but as I mentioned at the top of my opinion anything is possible.
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Longest friendship with a guy i had was 10-12 years. Im sure 20 couldve happened had their new gfs not been tripping. But i can really only be someone friends for that long if im not into them AT ALL and i wasn't into them
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