Why in some cases people without friends are more privileged than people with lots of friends

[Anonymous]

I happen to know a few popular people with lots of friends,but in fact I consider this more bad than good and I feel sorry for them.

Reason is pretty simple. They have got no time for themselves and no true freedom. Being surrounded by others prevents you from doing things you could do alone. You might be successful socially, but you have less time and space to improve yourself in other fields,and less time to focus on things you like since you are often influenced by peer-pressure.

As for people without friends I consider them privileged since they have all the time to focus on their career or on their hobbies, and they have a higher chance of being successful on some certain field.

For example say you happen to be a gamer. A gamer without friends can play more games through his lifetime, and save all the money he would spend if he went out with his friends or his girlfriend, to video-games.

As for myself I feel privileged about having no friends. Since I can listen to much more music than I would listen to if I was surrounded by others. I have listened to some thousands of different albums and I am not even 25 yet!! Something I would not do if I had to go out with friends or have a girlfriend and do other activities.

But I am not antisocial or anything. I like talking with people online, and that’s why I prefer online communication, since I can do both! Talking to them whilst listening to music!

So I would like to tell to all those people who feel bad for having no friends to embrace it and see the good side from it. You have nothing to worry about staying in or going out during evenings and you have nothing to worry if a friend of yours will call you or not. You have all the time to focus on your hobbies. And if you are a career-oriented person you have all the time to build up your career without being influenced by peer-pressure or having any worries if you’ll ever have a girlfriend/boyfriend or not.

[WhatTheHellAmy]

Well, I go out with people I know and that I should consider my "friends" but then, you find out that they are never what you really thought, they talk shit about you and they are not real. I have 4 female friends I totally trust and 2 male friend that is real. But "friends" I have a lot, I go out with many different people and I have fun for a while, but then, when you know that they are not what they say they are, it's awful, because you trust them and they betray you.

I love having time for myself, I love learning and getting to know me, but since I'm very extroverted, I need to be around people to get energy.

[oddwaffle]

There is this loner personality. People who are loners don't need as much social interactions as others. They still need a bing of social but not everyday and probably don't have more than a handful of friends.

[Stacyzee]

Ones "interaction" all as to do with a person's perspective.

As a person that also as (very limited ---no friends), I feel very lonely at times.
Sometimes you miss that social aspect... and the care that comes along with having true friends.
I don't need a sea of them like popular people have, just one really good friend.
With life,
I have learned to deal with the plate I have in front of me.
I do not complain... I just accept.
Not every one is meant to have... what they wish.
I do take time to focus on my career (like you state), and pursue my ambitions and dreams.

I see having no friends as being lonely.
I don't think it benefits me in life as much as it does to you.

Right now you may be contented with not having that social aspect...
but people change so much over time that you may come to a place in life,
where you feel you need that.

[ThisDudeHere]

First of all, you wrote a take. Congrats :) But either way, I'm sorry but I just don't feel the privilege. Now if I had like just a few friends but spend most of my time, It'd be cool. But since I have none at all... it sucks.

[ThisDudeHere]

I meant *spent most of my time alone

[myTake Owner]

thanks :)

[abundantlyrich]

That can be to akin to a closed system. A person without friends has no emotional nourishment and always in constant emotional turmoil is not going to survive long and well. It's a sad life. ,😭.

[myTake Owner]

never felt sad about this issue tbh

[abundantlyrich]

You got no friends?

[myTake Owner]

nope

maybe i hang out wid 1-2 other people but this happens infrequently like once/2 months... so i'd call 'em just acquaintances

[Dipsy]

Good advice if you have no friends/not much of them :)
Every downside has it's upside.

[KDA20]

Good take - I am somewhere in the middle - I have a few friends because I like me time but I couldn't be totally alone, I need some real life interaction.

[RightNow]

I used to hang around people all the time. I do know people in my apartment complex and on Facebook, but I choose to be by myself most of the time. It's just easier, and more peaceful.

[SilenRose]

I have like five close friends and the rest are acquaintances. I feel it's best to focus on what you have and not look at what others have.

[Nathand]

because we are leaders not followers.

[YourFutureEx]

I do both things ✌