What It's Like Being the Less Attractive Sister

[Anonymous]

I have an older sister who's 2 years older than me and I just love her. However, growing up beside her, I became the less attractive sister despite the fact I'm attractive on my own. Whenever I walk beside her, I never stand a chance against her. My sister's beauty is like a bright European sun on a windy summer afternoon, and my looks are more like the melancholic romantic autumn trees. We look like sisters but both of us give off a vastly different feeling.

She always had heads turning and countless men approaching her from all walks of life at a young age, but I only had one man my entire life and he ended up becoming my husband. I personally found it very normal if one guy didn't think I was good looking; after all, you can't please the world, but my sister cannot accept it if a guy doesn't think she's pretty enough or if a guy doesn't like her.

My sister always gets the guy she wants and she always leaves a lasting impression on all the men she goes out with. She's the girl who got away in the hearts of many. I never had a guy confess to me or tell me they like me. Growing up I was upset at that fact but I always believed there was definitely one guy made for me. However, once I broke down and cried after my crush asked me to help him chase my sister, and I remember telling her I felt upset that no one likes me. And her reply was:

I understand how you feel...

She has guys flocking around her and she understands the feeling of being unwanted? Although she never intentionally flirts with them or anything. She did reject them but she always likes keeping them around. She would confess to me she hopes some of those men would love her forever (even more than their current partner) and she's happy that she's valued in their hearts despite finding it a selfish thing to do. I understand you are the love of those men lives but you don't have to emphasize it all the time.

There was one time she tried introducing me to a guy because he liked her, but she didn't like him. She hoped that maybe he and I could go on a date. I was furious. Would she ever go on a date with a guy that liked me? Never. She always wants to be the first in every men's heart and now she decides to peg me as second choice for the guy.

When I met my husband when I was 22 years old, he was the only one who found me more attractive than my sister. I'm thankful and blessed to have him. However, my sister simply hates him, not because he's horrible but because he once told her she looks like nothing much. Well, she was eventually happy that I found one guy who loves me and I love him, and she would often remind me how lucky I am, unlike her. Yeah sure, I have one man who loves me and I'm blessed but you have 17 guys who love you and yet you aren't satisfied?

Don't get me wrong I love my sister...I love her to death. I want her to find a loving husband and live her life happily. However, a small devil in me sometimes hopes God would give her a lesson. A small part of me hopes to be the one she's jealous of. But ultimately... I love her and hope good things happen to her.

[springocelot]

Frankly, your sister comes across as narcissistic. Ultimately, you won over the love and devotion of a fine man, which is something most girls could only dream of. That makes you a winner in my book. Besides, if your sister really is as narcissistic as she sounds, it will come back to bite her eventually. So I really wouldn't worry about it.

[myTake Owner]

I wish nothing comes back to her and she would come to the realization instead lol

[Bluemax]

Your husband actually told her she looks like nothing much? I can't imagine telling my sisters-in-law any such thing, if anything because it strikes me as rude. How did that even come up?

[myTake Owner]

It's weird because my sister once said she thinks my husband likes herand if I'd appear after her he would have chosen her (all in all I'm second choice again).. and I just jokingly told him. I guess its my fault he did that

[Bluemax]

Hmm...

As for your sister understanding how you felt, it is possible she meant she understood that you felt very sad, and that she has felt very sad, albeit for different reasons, hence she understood that you were very sad and that she has experienced deep sadness in her life as well, even if it were for different reasons.

Are you familiar with the poem Richard Cory?

[myTake Owner]

I asked her about it before and she told me she feel she understand because not enough guys likes her.

[Library]

Try not to compare yourself with others. It's only going to bring out insecurities and arrogance. :)

[myTake Owner]

Agree. I never really compete with her. I always am happy for her. Just insecurities do come out. I'm human.

[Adigelunar]

mGood post

[CT_CD]

Pics of sister?