⬆Apparently that's a book. I liked the image and it fit the guidelines for here so YAY for free advertising of the book. Ps. No idea what the book is about or if it relates to this my take.
I've been friends with a girl for 6 years. Good friends. We've been through a lot together, stressful graduate school, job hunting, emergency surgeries, similar mental and chronic health problems with our parents, (there's a lot of good in the last 6 years too like both of us going from obese to fit but the bad is when you tend to bond) just to name a few. We've lived next door, we've lived states away, and now we're lucky that we live nearby again.
Today she told me that I can't set her up with a guy she asked me to introduce her to 3 months ago because she's been seeing a woman for 8 months. She's never mentioned being attracted to women before. In fact only in the last year have I ever seen her show any interest in and trying to date men.
I'm disappointed she came out to me today because I'm disappointed it took her so long to be herself. I'm disappointed that she felt so scared of what she was feeling that she's been denying who she is for so many years (we're almost 30 lol) and hid who she loves for 8 months. I'm disappointed in myself for not being a friend she felt comfortable enough to talk to about this before today.
I'm disappointed that there are others still out there who deny who they are and feel like they can't share themselves 100% with their friends and loved ones.
Be the friend that gives someone the security and strength to be themselves.
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I'm sorry, I judged you based on your question that's why I clicked. I assumed you where going to say that you're disappointed with her choices and that she is into women. I was wrong to assume as you seem like a great friend so I wanted to apologise for judging before I finished reading.
That aside though you shouldn't feel disappointed in yourself you sound like a loving friend who would walk through hell and back for a mate. I'm sure she just found it tough in general and was trying to sort her own emotions our first to feel confident in her heart and mind.
I think that she don´t want to disappoint you. Some people need a long time to find themself, to be celar about their sexual desires. And more, it is still not easy for many to speak about it, even with their best friend.
There is no fualt, and there is no reason for you to feel disappointed by yourself.
thank you for sharing