I regret rejecting my best friend!

[Anonymous]

I turned down my best friend years ago because he picked the worst possible moment to tell me (I was being bullied about being desperate at the time and that I would take the first offer I got) and I lost my temper thinking it was pity or he was mocking me. Found out recently he was serious when he asked me and I really hurt him bad and broke his heart. it really must have killed his ego and self-esteem and I regret it completely. At the time I loved him and I'm starting to have the same feelings again but stronger this time. I deserve everything bad that's happened to me since, do I ever stand a chance with him again?

And if so, how on earth do I tell him how I feel (because I am going to tell him - I've waited nearly 10 years!)

[Adun99]

well, if you keep blaming him ("it was because he picked the worst possible moment to tell me") I don't think you will (stand a chance). If anything, you need to man up and wholly accept your mistake, tell him that you are sorry for your mistake, that you didn't reject him for not wanting him but for stupidly thinking he was mocking you or pitying you.

If you are going to tell him, don't do it "because you might have a chance". Do it because you care for him, because you want him to be happy.

If at any moment he perceives that you are just thinking about yourself, that you are just thinking YOU would be happier with him after all, that you just want to have something you rejected... then your chances will flush down the toilet.

but if he sees you are truly sorry, and genuinely want him to be happy, and want him to know that it wasn't his fault nor anything wrong about him, so that he can be happy... if he sees selflessness in you, and genuine care for him, then you might stand a chance.