How To Deal With Rude Friends, Family Members, and Less Familiar Individuals♥️💋

[Anonymous]

How To Effectively Manage Rude Individuals In Your Life

Hi Girls And Guys. I hope all is well. In this MyTake I will be covering some ways to manage the rude individuals you come into contact with. This will be a short MyTake so enjoy

Objective: After Reading this MyTake you should be able to effectively manage and deal with rude or confrontational individuals.

Let's get started:

1. Don't Lose Your Cool

"They Are Just Words"

"Sticks and Stones". At the end of the day it's just words. " No one can make you feel inadequate without your consent". Eleanor Roosevelt

2. Don't Take It Personally

"You Didn't Do Anything Wrong"

It's definitely not you it's them. No one makes an effort to be rude and have a perfect life at home. So remember to empathize with these individuals. You never know what someone is going through.

3. Use The Selective Response System

"What You Allow Is What Will Continue"

This is the most effective system. You make a choice to only focus and acknowledge positive feedback while ignoring and removing rude or irrelevant comments.

4. Empathize And Sympathize

"I'm Sorry You Feel This Way"

Think of the times when you did something similar or said something rude to someone else.

Ask the person how you can help

5. Be Assertive

"Not Aggressive Or Passive Aggressive"

If you don't know how to be assertive please review the following MyTake.

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What It Means To Be "Assertive"

6. Place Boundaries

" Stop This Is My Bubble"

If you are unsure how to place healthy boundaries, please review this MyTake

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How To Create Healthy Boundaries, Communicate Effectively, And Be Assertive

7. Don't Engage

" Shhhhhh🤫"

Opt out of the interaction

8. Learn Your Triggers

" Know Who You Are"

So they can't be used against you

9. Don't Have Any Expectations

"Zero Expectations"

There will be a 99.9% chance that they won't change just because you ask nicely. That's the reality of both the real and virtual world. All you can do is be assertive and place those boundaries.

10. Maintain Your Dignity

" Be Your Most Authentic Self Even While Being Provoked"

Do not let a rude individual make you act out of character. Maintain your morals and values while engaging with someone rude.

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Author's Note: Thanks for reading!!!! Any additions not already mentioned are welcome. The more advice the better. In the real world and the virtual world you are vulnerable to rude people. So make sure you utilize your cognitive skills and tools to effectively manage and deal with rude individuals. If you don't know what cognitive skills or tools are please review the references section. My hope is that after you have read this in it's entirety that you will understand yourself and others a little better.

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References:

How To Create Healthy Boundaries, Communicate Effectively, And Be Assertive

What It Means To Be "Assertive"

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[Texaskid1]

I have tons of rude family members. I'm 42 but they will still treat me like a 12 year old. At my age they will yell at me , question my decisions and start poking their nose into my beeswax.

My aunt for example. if I tell them I bought a new car they will question me endless about why I bought the car , how much I paid for it , why did I spend the money , did I get it checked out before I bought it , Do I know what I am doing? etc

All of this in an agitated and condescending tone of voice. She would actually start yelling at me over the phone. When I was younger I used to stand there on the phone and just take it.

The way I deal with that now is I just tell her I am busy and that I have to leave. I don't like to argue over the phone.

That same aunt made my sister cry a few years ago when she she was going through a tough time economically. My aunt started yelling and berating her over the phone about her money issues. I find this weird since my aunt inherited money and a house from her uncle who passed away some 10 years ago.

It took me a while to learn that they are like the police ; any information that you give them will be used against you and they will question you endlessly on that shit a if they were an FBI agent interrogating a murder suspect. When they start asking me about my life ( work , money, love) I just give them vague answers and leave it at that. If they keep asking I just keep up with the vagueness and / or change the subject. I will often give them short responses like "I'm fine" , "work is fine" "everything is good thank you.

I don't go into details and I don't give them any negative information about my life ; i. e trouble at work or debts or whatever.

Some people might not like that method but it works for me since many people in my family are screamers ; I have seen family members yell at each other for hours over petty bullshit that happened 20 years ago.

Anyway , my 2 cents.

[myTake Owner]

Thanks so much for sharing your story lol😆 🖤

[Swat_]

I agree with your points. What do you do when they fool you in front of others. (Or if they reveal things about you that you don't want publised?)

I've read this post about 4 times to make sure I didn't read over the awnser but I probably still managed it somehow.

[myTake Owner]

That's a great question. Please review the mytakes on being assertive and placing boundaries located in the references section. Thanks for reading and leaving feedback 🤓♥️

[luvstoned4him]

Loved the Mytake <3

[myTake Owner]

Thanks so much for reading and always leaving fantastic feedback 🌸💗🌸

[luvstoned4him]

your welcome <3

[Heaz99]

Oh Man! Do I have some experience with this!
Back when my oldest sister lived with the family, she and my second oldest sister (who was the middle child) would say the most awful things about me!
They would treat me nice to my face, going out of their way to do nice things for me and then when I turned my back, they would become vicious. Saying that they didn't like me, that I was ugly, that I was "retarded". They would shoot down every single one of my accomplishments (which they were 100% jealous of). They would try to convince my mom that I was walking a certain way in front of my dad. Hell, they said that I did nasty things in my room at night, I was an innocent, jesus loving 13 year old. I would never do that! In fact, when kids at my school made sexual jokes I never understood them. I didn't know all those gross terms. They would also say things beneath their breath in hopes that i would hear them and I did! I would snap back at them and the minute I did, they would tell our parents and who got in trouble? Yep, Me. I was 110% done with their sh*t, so I cut them out and am working on recovering.

[myTake Owner]

Thanks for sharing your story and for reading ♥️❣️♥️

[Heaz99]

No problem!

[DankHeehaw]

I'm take note so I can stop my next outbreak, really helpful stuff,

P. S totally unrelated are you a therapist or study psychology by any chance?

[myTake Owner]

Thank you so much for the helpful feedback. And yes I am studying Psychology and Japanese the university. 🤓♥️

[DankHeehaw]

cool, I especially found your post about passive, passive aggressive, assertive great as well

[myTake Owner]

You're awesome. THANKS SO MUCH!!! 🤓♥️

[Roseygirly]

Hi. Have you got any my takes about how to cope with embarrassment

[myTake Owner]

Not yet but I could write one if you're interested 😉

[Roseygirly]

Yeeeesss please 😃 just on about what you answered of mine before 😁

[YHL6965]

I just straight up cut them out because I don't have the patience anymore to deal with people who lack such an elementary quality like politeness or respect.

[Ninja_Arashi]

there was a female friend of mine who started acting like a douche when i got in with my ex girlfriend, i totally cut off with her, i still dont know why she did that

[Maximilian294]

Just don't give a fuck what people think. I'm not saying you should be ignorant but if someone is rude you should just not care what they say.

[myTake Owner]

Did you read the MyTake?

[RobLovesDemi1234]

why go through all that trouble? if its family or friends and they're pissing you off tell them to go fuck themselves. thats what i always do

[myTake Owner]

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[justnotsurewhy]

My family hates confrontation. Thanks for sharing.

[myTake Owner]

Thanks for reading and leaving feedback 🖤😊

[justnotsurewhy]

You're most welcome

[DeeDeeDeVour]

That works!

[myTake Owner]

YAY 🖤🤫

[bhavy24]

Nice useful mytake

[myTake Owner]

Thank You So Much 🖤

[blanknation]

Leave em

[Designer_GFX]

by leaving :)

[myTake Owner]

Lol this is not a question it is a MyTake/article. But thanks so much for stopping by.
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[Rawkstar26]

Distance yourself