I'm sure all mothers want their daughters to be close to them. But I am not.
Let me start by explaining my mom. She isn't very lazy but she's lazy, she tends to be controlling and very opinionated which drives my dad nuts. Sometimes I wonder why they got married. From a child she has been rather abusive. She once punched me in the face, and she's scratched and hit my dad on several occasions. He has never hit her but if he did she would literally deserve it.
She likes to tell people that she lets him make all the decisions and then gets mad if he makes one decision that she allowed him to make and its not something she wants. It's very hard to keep her happy. She's like an insatiable beast! She throws literal tantrums if things don't go her way and she will spend days crying if someone tells her she needs to calm down. Once someone who she used to be friends with told her about herself and everything that friend said was true and she got angry and told everyone she could about the situation. As aforementioned her friend was right and my family and I showed little to no sympathy about the situation. She then got angry at my dad and said he never defends her or stands up for her. Which isn't true, it's just never when she's in the wrong which is more times then not.
It has become hard to deal with her. She doesn't let anyone have peace or privacy. She's constantly going through my bags, car, drawers and anything that she thinks I would hide something. She goes through my dads wallet and phone as well and questions literal spam messages. When he explained that it was clearly spam that everyone gets she got irate and said it wasn't and she never gets them. Literally anyone who has a phone gets spam calls! She also found a way to find deleted messages on his phone and was looking through them and even though there was nothing she still got mad that he would dare delete messages!!!
Like seriously!!! There is never a week when she isn't angry and it's getting old. Once I said I was going to move out and she told me ''oh, you can't move till you're married'' she constantly says stuff like that and it's annoying. Like you can travel unless you're married and you can't do this. Like I wouldn't want to leave if you weren't such a jerk all the time.
Sometimes I feel like I should call the cops on her but who knows. She's never been the fun parent and she never listens to what we have to say without judging so we've learned never to say anything to her. If we do something once she never stops bringing it up. It's just such a horrible toxic environment. ONCE she left for a couple of weeks and it was the most peaceful happy time we had in a long time. No one fought no one yelled and the house was always clean and tidy. Also while she was gone, she went to eat out with a guy and literally dressed way up in the most inappropriate dress that makes your butt big to go eat with him and then proudly told my dad about how the man said ''if you weren't married I'd marry you'' And got mad when he wasn't upset about it. Like if he would ever eat out with another women she'd be so mad but she thought it was okay to do so herself.
She's hard to tolerate and I'd love to just live by myself but my dad hates when he's by himself with her so it's hard. I often wish I had a mother like my friends. They talk to them and listen and help clean the house and cook for them. While my mom never cooks or cleans and gets mad if anyone asks her for anything and then has the nerve to compare us to other children who literally have to do none of these things.
Anyways that's all for today.
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