Selfishness. When you make everything about you because all you want is attention or gratitude from others, but what if you're selfish in a caring way

[BraxtonsGf]

the act to care so much that its selfish. trying to hard because you care or because you want people to love you, what's the difference? I see a very thin line between, no matter how hard you're trying to be selfless, caring, loving in supportive there that thought in the back of your head "your trying to hard and making everything about you" even though all I said was "is there anything I could do to make it better" and other stuff that's 'caring' why is it selfish. Its not if other people do it but when I do it is. I want everything put on me so your not stressed, ill do anything for you. Ill give you the world if I could. Its selfish, I feel like its just to make myself seem useful and just to feel good about myself even though I can't handle fifteen people ranting and venting to me. I don't care I want to help, but its selfish

No matter what the real reason is, it feels selfish even if I'm being selfless its selfish because I'm trying to make myself seem like a better person.

[DrPepper12]

No. You're describing empathy with no boundaries. A variation of selflessness that's likely not healthy.