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No it's not.
Realistically speaking, people are attracted to people on the same intelligence and beauty field as themselves. What you are basically saying is that you wish your parents were amazing, or that one of them had landed a total hotty and brainiac. That's not fair. If you fell in love with an idiot, nobody would ask you to bang someone you didn't love just for the sake of not hurting feelings.
My parents gave me the ability to gain weight by looking at food. Is it annoying? Yes. Do I hate and avoid conversations with my dad because of it? No. Because he goes through the same and everyone has an issue. Whether it's weight, intelligence, looks, or even a physical or mental disability, everyone on this earth has an issue they deal with daily.
Being brutally honest with you... stop being selfish. There are people in worse off situations, and as far as I can tell you can read and write, you have a computer and a connection to the internet, you've probably got some qualifications. It's not like your stupid to the point you're a vegetable.
From other comments you've made, you think you are ugly. How exactly are you ugly? Do you wear make up? Is it that you just think you are and actually your not bad? People get stared at for all sorts of reasons - I'm sure you've stared at a fat person, and that wasn't for a good reason. Having all the attention isn't what it's cracked up to be. Is your "ugliness" to the point you need surgery, or would benefit from surgery? (Have to ask, it's not like I can see you).
"Everyone on this earth has an issue they deal with daily" Not everyone. I can name people who have a nice face, body, voice, have inner confidence, natural humor, are brilliant and creative and good at sports, music, etc. Sure they have issues but those are very minute
Well because one of them is my best friend
I know my best friend pretty well. She's close to perfect the only thing she is bad at is video games
Lol well you can't choose your parents. I would have to say that you can and will be a lot better then they were/are. The whole genetics argument in my opinion, is a scapegoat. It tells people that they're not more then their genetics and that sounds like a load of crap. Whats average intelligence? When you say poor, do you mean that you grew up in a shelter, had no clothes, and ate Ramen noodles every night for dinner? Or your family just wasn't well off? Unfavorable personality traits? You're NOT your parents, your personality may be a similar version, but not entirely theirs. You need to realize that as an adult, you have the power to change that dynamic by simply focusing on your goals and following your dreams to being the best that YOU can be. It may bother you that you didn't have everything growing up, but dwelling on it will only cause resentment. Average intelligence... you have people like the Kardashians that barely appear to have that and they're millionares. Sooo... to answer your question, no this is not justifiable. Although, we have our parents DNA, we are not entirely little versions of them, we have our own personality traits, our own minds and so on. Look at very average people who produce intelligent kids and vice versa.
I wasn't shelter poor, just not well off. Unfavorable personality traits = they get mad easily, can't control feelings, socially awkward, lack of humor. Intelligence IS linked to genetics, just not KNOWLEDGE. We can read all the books in the world and know more things but the speed of understanding concepts is related to neurons in brain, etc.
So what are you gonna do? Crawl in a hole? Get over it, you got some bad traits, don't we all? You don't need to be Einstein to make it in this world. Don't you know that all you're doing is internalizing everything and finding someone to blame for your issues? Even if you had the smartest parents who were rich and had the best of looks. Nothing is guaranteed and that's just the reality of it. Your parents are who they are, you aren't them. I know some real intelligent people who live in poverty, and some pretty stupid rich people. You have a choice. You're either gonna live your life or dwell on everything that you DONT have. The mind is very powerful. you're only hurting yourself in the long run.
How about you grow the fuck up and take some responsibility for your own failures instead of blaming your parents for something beyond their control.
Poor? Get a job and learn to manage your finances.
Stupid? Read a book or two. If you don't pump your brain with information, it will never learn how to process it. There is such a thing as training your brain.
Unpleasant personality? Sorry, honey buns, but that's your fault almost entirely. While children pick up most of their personality traits from their caregivers, you have full control over how you behave and can change yourself into what you perceive as favourable. You choose not to. Your fault.
Saying that you "forgive" your parents for these things reveals something a lot uglier than how you perceive your face.
You are ugly on the inside, rotten through and through. I have no advice for you. I just think you're a repulsive individual and I don't even know what you look like.
Poor - I said I was fine with that. Intelligence - determined by DNA, reading books only increases knowledge, I said I was fine with that. I said my parents had bad personalities, not me.
You should have read my question more clearly. I said I was fine for everything but my parents giving me physical unattractiveness
If you were fine with any of it, you wouldn't feel the need to bring it up in the first place.
Your parents didn't choose to make you look the way you do. They were in love and wanted to have a child together.
They must feel really lucky to have a child that so graciously forgave them for the heinous crime of reproduction.
Was there ever a time in your life when you didn't like your parents for something they couldn't control?
This matter is not about me, so don't try to derail the conversation. Focus on making yourself into a less shitty person instead.
"... shitty person"
I was going to thank you for your opinion but then you made the unnecessary claims
Your attitude towards your parents is unnecessary. :/
Not sure about my parents giving me bad genes other than not deserving to be parents but my paternal grandfather scams others to the point that some family members don't want anything to do with him. Plus he's been charged for trying to sell drugs. He's pretty much a scumbag.
For a brief time during my early to late childhood (all the age till age 12), I was pretty much somewhat an angry child. I thought I had gotten my grandfather's bad genes since he do weird things and have a bad personality as a kid too but I was actually reacting due to being neglected at home and other issues. I was ignored so much to a point that I didn't care about anyone nor anything during that time and it was about me only.
It wasn't till my teens, I started relating to others, acted more feminine and not some tough, mean tomboy and started hating my younger child version.
Your parents can give you bad genetics but they can't give a brain to decide what's right and wrong, parents can only provide, protect, nurture you as age, after you reach 20 then your genetic speech should be long gone cause looks are not some we worry about, attitude can be ajusted, and how we carry ourselves ain't got nothing to do with genetics. So question? What don't you like about your parent genetics?
I'm physically unattractive
That is not true, I'm telling you now, if you have a picture of yourself I would like to see, and who gives a damn if your physically attractive or not, it's about how successful you are, how well you live your life, well you take care of yourself, how can hold your own in world around you, girl you have way more on your plate than just worrying about looks you hear me? Looks ain't a factor in a relationship. Take look at cancer patients who do t have long to live, people still fall in love with them though they know it will tear them apart when they depart from this world. if I could request a picture Itd be nice if not, it still as stands. Your character is more important than looks.
I disagree I never got all the best genes in life but hey I am doing ok.
If you are unhappy why don't you trying to change and adapting to be something else or better.
The biggest strengths of human beings are adapting to new things and knowledge : )
Does this mean I don't have to owe my parents anything when they are old since they made me unattractive?
Being "unattractive" is a mindset you have and people will get that vibe off of you. You are what you think most of the time. You know these hot and beautiful celebrities are not actually more pretty than a lot of people, its all mind set.
As for your parents that is your call, your gonna have to trust your gut and live with the choice on that matter.
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I don't think it's justifiable. I mean I understand where you're coming from. I too don't have the best genes but you can't exactly hold them accountable for something they have no control over. It's not like they could pick and choose their genes either.
Well my mom is ok but my dad is not attractive so in that case it's my mom's fault
I don't understand... I'm sorry pardon me?
Well my mom could have picked a different man to marry so surely it's her fault for something that could be controlled?
Are you serious? You're not trolling right? Look your mom fell in love with your dad. Sometimes looks aren't everything. My mom is considered beautiful. When she was in college, she was asked to be a model but refused because she was never interested in being in the limelight. Even now people let her get away with certain things because she's pretty like if she runs a red light more times than not the cops let her get away with it. But she chose my dad who isn't the best looker by far but has a great personality. Although, I like you could choose to blame my mom for choosing a man like him plus the fact that she prayed throughout the whole time they dated that all her children end up looking like my dad and for some reason it happened, I don't blame her. I love my mom and my dad. Although, I wish I looked like my mom, it's not a bad thing that I resemble my dad. I mean don't you love your dad? Can you imagine your life without him? Cause that's kind of what you're blaming your mom for
I do enjoy my dad's company but its replaceable because every child will love their dad. It just means i would like a different dad if my mom chose more wisely
That isn't true. Not all children love their father. You also have you ask yourself will you be you without your dad? You're basically changing you whole genetic structure so the child your mom will have will not be you. I don't want to insult you but I feel really bad for your dad because of the way you think about him. I went through that phase when I was angry with my mom for wanting me to look like my dad so much that when I was born I looked exactly like him but I never wanted another father. I can't even imagine having another dad.
I'm confident that I would still be "me" without my mom or dad. Look, we like people because of certain qualities (friendly, trustworthy, etc). If people around the world had the option to look better most would say yes and be fine with that change. If they can be fine with looking completely different then they can be fine with a different father as long as they had those "good" traits. Why do people have different bf/gf through life? They all look different but they have the same traits that made them likable. Same situation for family members. I sound very cynical but I'm trying to look at it objectively
So you're saying people are replaceable as long as the person who fills in their spot has the same traits that they do... Interesting way of looking at the world. True people would want to look better but whether they'll be find with that change I don't know. I really find the way you look at people so fascinating. Well in my opinion, I couldn't replace my dad. Even though I may not be attractive or beautiful or pretty because of him, he's my dad and I love him. If my mom were to marry someone else and have a child with him, I doubt that child would be me. You see so much of my personality is from my dad that if he wasn't in my life I don't know who I'd be. I hope you one day don't think of your dad as being disposable but for the looks aspect why not dabble in makeup and plastic surgery?
Would you really be you? Do you honestly believe that? Our genes are unique to us. There isn't anyone in the world who shares the same genetic make up as you do (unless of course you have a clone). So by changing your genetic code you are no longer you, you're someone else. All your strengths and weaknesses are parts of you whether you choose to accept them or not. Also about blaming your mom for choosing your dad, do you think it's fair to blame your mom for choosing the man who she loves? I'm pretty certain your mom didn't marry thinking of her future child but with the thought that I love this man and want to have a family and life with him.
Well thanks for the input
Welcome and I think you should watch the movie Gattaca if you haven't seen it. It's so relevant to your question
I have seen Gattica it was brilliant. Except Ethan Hawke's character deals with being unqualified for a career and my problem is related to all aspects of life including career and finding a partner and more
Well his problem is the same but he proved that he is so much more than his genetic make up. It's just that he wasn't focused on the other aspects of life. He was more concerned about leaving the planet because it wasn't his home. He wasn't focused on a career. He said that he always wanted to leave because he never felt like he fit in.
I have been given all the bad genes in my family that I could get. And I'm 13! I'll have to have surgery at least twice by the time I have kids and I'll be on hormones until menopause because of endometriosis and ovarian cysts. I also have arthritis in my knees in ankles and my muscles get sore easily--all of which comes from my family. I also have horrible teeth and I "need" glasses. Thanks for the bad genes, my wonderful (not at all irritating) parents!
I agree with you i got bad genes and i forgive my parents
but thank God i never decided to take on their poor ass personality
i am glad i chose to take on my own loving personality
Wait what? I said I forgive them for everything but the looks part which would be disagree with me then
I don't now i am confused sorry :(
Yes, it is. I used to hate my parents for giving me bad genetics.. But then I hit puberty and I ended up not really having bad genetics. And you can improve your mind and play around with clothes and makeup so chin up buttercup
Does this mean I shouldn't have kids if they will probably have the same thinking as me?
No, you could be a complete retard and still have smart children. But you really can become smarter, it's not predetermined
If I'm physically attractive should I avoid having kids because they will not like me for it also?
*unattractive
No. They won't necessarily look like you. They could skip a generation or five for all you know.
They didn't choose to give you bad genetics. So it's unjustifiable.
However you can find it unforgivabe if they chose to burn all the hair roots on your head because they thought you'd look prettier that way.
intelligence isn't totally linked to genetics
you can always improve it by expanding your knowledge in different things basically ;-)
Well they didn't choose to give you bad genetics, they gave you ebay they had to offer. They did choose to give you life, it was either that or nothing.
ebay?
@bubble_tea
fuck >_<
that was supposed to say *what they had to offer*
swipe text is really giving me a hard time :(
lol I thought you wanted to say they offered her on ebay xD
@bubble_tea
or they got her genes off eBay and that's why they suck :D
Can't you control your bad traits or lessen it? You can always change it.
You make up part of the diversity of people out there. If you try to like others, then you are not honoring what you are, instead joining the band wagon of people who self loathe.
I don't understand your comment
hmmm i guess you don't know what your bad traits are.
My interpretation of your first comment: "By admiring others who possess physical attractiveness, you are only being hypocritical because you dismiss others who aren't, such as yourself. By having this selectivity, you are contributing to the notion that good looks are all that matters and everyone who doesn't qualify has to blame their parents"
Nothing wrong with that comment. But then you say in your second comment "i guess you don't know what your bad traits are", implying that my bad trait is finding certain people attractive. How is that a bad trait?
You weren't admiring. You wanted to be like them. I admire beautiful people but it doesn't mean I want to be like them and hate myself for it. Bad traits, is what i've termed it as because you blame your parents for giving it to you. You want to emulate others who are beautiful and smart. But don't you think they also have setbacks or challlenging situations they have to face?
I don't quite agree with your interpretation.
It is true that genetics determine a lot about you. Bu they are just a template for you to build on. I feel like you are using your genetics as an excuse not to improve yourself.
Are you talking about a sex-linked disease? If it's your apperance than its not justiable.
You can always complain about things you can't control. It's human nature.
I'm asking is it justifiable?
I don't get it. Complaining is justifiable, you can't control it. They can't justifiy giving you bad genes.
It's not ok for me, I don't want Bad genes from anyone, And this is not fair, Before they made you , they should consider your future, If they don't that mean they don't turely love you!
Stop trying to picky to the level of creating a eugenic society.
I'm not picky I said I forgave them for everything else that was bad, just not genetics
why do you think you have bad genetics? physically or mentally?
be happy with what you have
But the face is the one thing I can't change >:(
Define "bad genetics".
Physically unattractive (my face)
Attraction is mostly subjective. It is unlikely that your face is objectively unattractive to everyone.
Well some people can walk around in public and get looks from everyone.. how is that subjective
Not all such looks are good :p
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