Possible a guy wants platonic friendship with a girl whom he's attracted to?

[Anonymous]

He gives me let's be friends speech but then it bothers him that I don't talk to him for a week. He has plenty of friends. Is it possible a guy just want female friends to talk to? He rarely tells me about any problems, he just listens to mine.

In a way, I could treat him like he's gay except he's not (he's attracted to me). It's just I always hear that guys don't really go out of their ways to be friends with a girl...And I guess he does...

I need an insight to a male brain please.

[Soulsearcher33]

Not sure how to decipher all of this, but I can tell you for sure that if I'm attracted to a woman I don't want to leave it at platonic friends unless there's someone else I like even more. And I can honestly say I don't go out of my way to have platonic friendships with girls, though it does help to get some perspective, much like we do here on the site...

[Asker]

He texted me for like 2 hrs until early in the morning asking me to stay friends and how it means so much/important to him. I am lost. So he wants me as a back up, just in case? I once asked if he wanted fwb, he said he'll do it if that's what I want. How if he turned it down, it means he's interested in someone else.

[Soulsearcher33]

I can't say for sure what he's thinking. I'm just saying if I liked you and I knew you wanted to be more than friends I would go with that unless there was a good reason not to. But from my own personal experience, especially the complicated situation I'm in now, I could like someone but not move on them because I want someone else a lot more and I'm waiting to see if that can work out. I would be honest with you though and let you move on. Maybe your guy just doesn't know what he wants...

[Soulsearcher33]

And just one more thing between me and you...don't do FWB with this guy or any other. If he wants you that way, make him go all in. I'm just sayin'...