Why won't my parents let me make my own decisions?

[SmallTownGirl15]

I turn 18 in 3 days. They refuse to let me spend the weekend with my boyfriend. Why can't I make my own decisions?

[serious]

I don't know there can be many reasons for that, some common reasons can be:

1. It's possible that your parents have always been controlling by nature and have been a " HITLER" type of parents ever since their marriage ( before you were even born). It's possible they themselves have had such parents so they think it is absolutely fine to do the same thing with you.

2. It is possible that they think that you are still not old enough to take care of yourself and make good decisions, I mean they might be aware that you are going to be 18 in a few days but maybe they believe that they still need to look after you for another year or two. In this case, it's possible that they are genuinely afraid or concerned about your well being.

Over protectiveness can be a reason for your parents to act like that.
Some reasons for this possibility can be

A]. They think that you are physically weak, like you have soft physical features or something.

B]. They might think that you are not mentally strong enough ( yet) to resist your dislikes. They may think that you are too nice or sweet a person.

In short they may think that you are not ready yet.

For point no #1 there is no solution, I mean if your parents have always been like that then no matter what they will continue to be like that, even if are 30 years old they will still act like that. If it is the #1 possibility then there is no solution to that.

I mean it would be a total waste of time for you to try and convince or change your parents thinking. Believe it, that will not work.

Yes, there are solutions for the #2 possibility, just try to convince them and give them enough time to understand and change their behaviour towards you.

I hope my points were clear.

[Rohan-Thanekar]

It is for ur own good darling.
Coz whatever u r thinking I was thinking the same before
And I decided to take my own decisions without telling my parents but I was wrong.
Situations became worse in my life and I did insane mistakes.
And I have not got forgiveness till today.
I was even ready for any punishment. But was offered no punishment and that in a sin for me till lifetime.
So don't do what I did and respect parents decision.
Coz only they know what is best for u,,,
Good luck

[MlleCake]

You still live in their house and they don't approve. That's a pretty normal thing that most parents disapprove of. There are probably ways they will start treating you like more of an adult, especially in doing your own housework, getting a job, taking more responsibility for things. If you show yourself to be responsible, then they may relax other rules.

[nickyBBB]

Because you are not 18 yet, you on your parents's watch. Especially while still living at their house.

[Tomblebee]

Because they like that for 3 days they have authority over you :)

[Dashi]

Parent's worry about their kids decisions. They are trying to help you avoid making a mistake. I'm not saying they're right but that is almost certainly their thoughts on it. It is your choice wether you follow their decision. Hope this helped.

[Anonymous]

Because they think you will be stupid and have sex with him they where your age once and they know they did what you’ll do just listen to them and don’t be stupid you getting mad at them for this is down right fucking stupid because they give you a roof to live under and food on the table and you think they won’t let you make your own decision because you will do exactly what they think you’ll do so think smart and accept it

[Atreyu]

Because you're 17.

I'll tell you what. Ask another question directed towards women over the age of say 28.

Ask them if they thought they made good desicions at the age of 17

You'll get your answer

[oleredchevy]

If you want to make stupid decisions move out and support yourself. Until then respect your parents authority. They have a lot more years and experiances under thier belts... so yes, they "know better" than you.

[OnePush]

Trust me, Later you'll thank them for making your decisions. It seems out of place for now, but later you'll realise what a heavy toll it takes if otherwise. Be patient with it.
Speaking from experience

[Cammy137]

Well do you live with them? If so its their house and their rules. If you don't like it, move out.

[Cammy137]

Although I don't agree with most of the comments here. I don't think your decision is stupid. I just think your parents have the power.

[arejay02]

3 more days... prolly just dont want grandkids yet.
Itll be fine. Just talk to them.

[Phish420]

I think some parents have trouble letting go and letting grow. They will get over it soon

[mytrumara]

Specifically because you're pointing out that you're almost 18. Our brains aren't fully developed until 25.

[leifleoden]

Because your trying to make bad decisions that have lifelong negative consequences.

[helloo123]

Maybe they're afraid that you would end up being an unmarried 18yr old, single mom

[NerdInDenial]

You’re still a teenager

[outside_Toronto]

17/18... no. Too young

[Alameen]

They don't want a teen mum

[Fractals]

You can they cannot stop you.

[Anonymous]

Still a teen not grown

[dominic_drago]

If you move out you won't have to listen to them.

[Amr000gt]

Well because the know what's right for you

[Anonymous]

18yr old, single mom?