I chose other because I did multiple things.
I could tell they liked me even before they admitted to it, but I didn't say anything. When they told me how they felt I told them the truth, I didn't feel the same way (there was no chance of me ever feeling the same way, so there was no thought in my mind of me trying anything with them).
I would have liked to talk about it a little more but they wanted to act like it never happened, so we acted like it never happened.
Unfortunately, they became very clingy and possessive. I felt like they still had feeling even though they denied it. But things just weren't the same and it wasn't a good friendship, so I've distanced myself.
My advice would be to tell them the truth. Don't mention giving anything a try in the future unless you sincerely mean it because otherwise you're just getting their hopes up. Communication is key, talk about your feelings and their feelings too. If you find you can't go back to normal than at least you were honest with each other and ended on good terms.
Good luck!
Tell him how you feel. Maybe something will happen between you two in the future. But don't leave him hanging. Both of you should explore other options until you make up your mind.
I have been in your friend's place before when I was in highschool. When I told my friend about my feelings for her, she didn't confront me and was being nice. I was being dumb and didn't take her silence or changing of topics seriously because I was blinded by my attraction for her. Our friendship started getting affected because now she started avoiding me. I faced the truth at the dead end of our friendship. We still greet each other today but we are not good friends by any definition like we used to. I think you should confront him and tell him if he continues confessing his love or act stupidly then you will stop talking to him forever. He won't understand this in one statement. You will have to discuss the situation in person.
I think after having been there. That you should talk to him. But think and talk with your friends. See if you want to try and be more. Cause nine out of ten times. You just lost your friend. For not it won't ever be the same. You will always wonder if he is over you. Even after he is dating some one.
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Lololol why do half the girls think acting like nothing happened is the best option? If you just tell him how you're feeling that will enable you guys to work together to figure out what you should do. Don't act like you're interested in him if you're not, but solving problems directly is nearly always the right answer.
Recently this happened to me. I had (and still kindof have) a major crush on a beautiful, intelligent girl. I let her know, and she lied. She said her parents didn't want her to be in a relationship (which was kind of true) but then told her friends, who then told literally everyone in the high school. I found out from a person I hate. It hurt so much more than it would have coming from her.
Well im going to be honest to you... thats the worst case szenario... becouse if you tell him you dont feel the way he does it will be ok for a few weeks but there will be something between you two for ever. if you ignore him it will end even worse.. and if go in a relationship and you dont love him you will break up soon... so yeah i think you should tell him you dont feel like he does and than you should do a break and let the time run... maybe he gets over you and than you can start being friends again
It happened to me. I explained to him that I only saw him as a friend and didn't have feelings for him that way but that I love him as a friend and that I can only offer him my friendship. That was like 14 years ago... he never got over it and it has been awkward but he is finally married and at least doesn't hit on me as much. But I would have never brake a friendship over that.
How do you know? Did he approach you? If not, you don't have to do anything until he makes a clear move. It's on him to find out if you're single and interested in going out with you. Why should you react to finding out that he likes you? Carry on as normal.
Don’t start avoiding them it’s just as awkward for them as it is for you and it’s not going to help if you act like it never happened. So just tell them you don’t feel the same way and if they start trying to distance themselves let them. They need time to recover.
If you're not feeling it right away then don't try to convince yourself of anything else. Tell him straight up. Be up front and honest.
I would flat out say, "I'm glad we are friends. Its nice to have a guy that's a friend who doesn't hit on you or make it weird and ruin the friendship. You are a rare breed. Thanks for being my friend! :)" it's like you are not saying it directly like you know he likes you. You are acting like you are sending him an unconscious message. Also don't settle for him. If you don't like him, you don't like him.
If it isn’t worth pursuing, shut that shit down cold and fast. Some might say to be extra nice with it but with most guys, the “nice” approach doesn’t work. You don’t have to rip him apart with verbal abuse, but make sure he feels SOMETHING so that he can get the message. Hopefully you guys can be friends afterwards but if not, then you know he wasn’t a really a true friend at all. Good luck 👍🏾🍀
I'm in love with a friend and am unsure if he feels the same way.
I don't feel feelings for you in that way. I'm sorry.
Depending if they actually make advances, some guys will be in love with you and wait years for you to show it back, others will try and make out with you when you least expect it, some will actually get indignant when you refuse their advances, these guys you have to kick to the curb, and otherwise just be cautious, because it's not your fault you have not developed feeling for him yet.
I was a very difficult situation for me. I was a 8 or 9 year old boy
A 8 or 9 year old boy had a severe crush on me. He wanted me to be in every moment of his life. I felt sad and confused. I think in the end Our family moved and I never saw him again
Tell him no. Don't waste his time waiting for you. It's the least you can do for him. If you aren't attracted to him now, most probably won't no matter how much time you need to think about it.
I am just always brutally honest. If they don't think so in the moment, they'll be thankful for it once they settle down and get out of their feelings.
Take ur time.. tell him what u really think.. Make it clear that don't get high hopes.. coz answer might not be in his favor (just to keep situation in control)
Remember communication can save any relation.. so what ever you have in your mind, tell him..
Take your time..
You should tell him straight the reasons. Men hate to be ghosted or ignored. I'd be enraged if someone treated me like that actually. That's called disrespect.
I had a feeling for my friend , but she rejected me very badly , if u become rude to her then it will hurt her so badly , that she may not conisder it good to make friends. Don't be rude , give him a try or tell her gradually not abruptly... but always be polite and humble to her. . she doesn't want anything except love...
I just tell them that I don't see them that way and act normal. They can't help their feelings either and it's important to avoid giving them false hope.
Well if you like em but need some time, then let em know and give em some time. Doesn't mean you have to dive right into sex. When opportunity for love presents, give it a chance to bloom.
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